I found out that my husband was talking to a so-called friend via "text messaging" and when he got caught he didn't know what to do. This hasn't been the first time and I don't think he has fully learned his lesson. He is extremely apologetic and I know that he loves me and the kids to death, but I think he is extremely insecure with himself. He needs to mature and grow up, but i don't know what else to do. HELP!!!!!
2006-06-21 10:32:16 · 13 answers · asked by peaceandlove3 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think you should try very hard to forgive him for his mistake.After all we are all human and even husbands and wifes can make mistakes.Its going to take time for you to get over this but after time it will get better.I know this because i have been through the same thing.Forgiveness,prayer and time is the key to keeping your relationship together.Good luck
2006-06-21 11:56:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you guys need space a man is like a child. When ur kids do something bad don't you punish them. So why shouldn't ur husband not be. The problem to me is women always how much men are dogs and this and that but how will any man learn to change if you take them back all the time. N enough with the kids why should some one be miserable b- cuz of kids.
2006-06-21 17:45:42 · answer #2 · answered by sexysash69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This seems to be a popular problem...wives catching husbands talking to other females on the Internet.....I guess maybe it would have been more realistic if he had climbed in the sack with someone....LEARNED HIS LESSON???....give me a break lady....since when has typing constituted cheating ??/.....Better still, when did emotionally and verbally cheating become cheating anyway...appears to me that you are a little bit controlling and overbearing.....I would tell your man to take a fast walk outta your life.....there are an aw-full lot worse things a guy could do ....how about if hew was physically and verbally abusive to you???..would that be better to deal with?...Maybe the problem is you!
2006-06-21 17:45:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, well I have been there myself. My husband has did me the same way years ago. I don't no how old you are but I was young at the time he did it to me. Yes, it is hard but if you know that he loves you and the kids, then I think that if you will just keep on trying to make it work out , soon he will stop. Or my did. But I have to say you will never forget what he did to you, but you will forgive him. I know now that my husband is the best that I could ask for. We love one another so much.And he has ask me to forgive him for the years that he did me wrong. And I did , but I have not forgot about it.
2006-06-21 17:53:38 · answer #4 · answered by buttersweetgirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me be honest with you. Your husband is a cheat and he has done this before to you and I bet he will do it again. He got caught thats the only reason why he stopped. By you always staying with him and thinking he is so sorry your just hurting yourself. He will do it again and he knows that you will still stay with him. You need to leave and let him know your not putting up with this bull **** regardless if you two have children. Stop fooling yourself and stop trying to make something terrible he does into an ok thing.
2006-06-21 18:44:53 · answer #5 · answered by September 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only way your marriage has a chance of surviving is if you really forgive him with all your heart. if you do it half azzed then you are screwed. there's nothing to help cause you are always going to be wondering whether or not he's doing it again.
If i were you i'd leave him though you said it seems like he hasnt learned his lesson and you know what if it's like that then dont' be surprised when he does it again.
2006-06-21 17:43:43 · answer #6 · answered by oaklandolee 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only if you are willing to forgive. This is very difficult for people to accomplish, easy to say, hard to do. Remember, we all make mistakes, bad choices and are not perfect and think about what your role may have been in his cheating. It takes two to tango, so go fix that marriage.
2006-06-21 17:36:13 · answer #7 · answered by Cat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Saying he's sorry doesn't cut it. He needs to knock that crap off and act like a man and you need to let him know you're not putting up with it. He needs to grow up or get out now and stop wasting your time.
2006-06-21 17:47:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
How do u emotionally and verbally cheat on someone?? Go to marriage counciling.
2006-06-21 17:39:21 · answer #9 · answered by blueyedfaerydoll 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
anything is possible. i guess it depends how strong the love is you have for your husband. maybe do him the same way? or plan a trip and do something exciting, naughty & dirty...?? maybe the excitement is gone and he needs some refreshing to do...make it fun & suprise him..
2006-06-21 17:42:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋