how do i improve my social skills?

Question

please help, i was told i lack of social skills. how do i improve this?

Answer 1

Go talk to people...anyone...mailman, passing stranger on the street, somebody in line at the supermarket. You make friends by just chatting and making pleasant conversation. Also, try to get involved with the community, walk around your neighborhood (you'll get to know the neighbors!) and volunteer. Those opportunities usually work...as well as taking up new hobbies (like quilting groups...or anything that interests you). Hope that helps!

Answer 2

Social skills are usually learned as a youngster. The only thing that will improve it, is practice.
Seems you may be a little bit sefl conscious. There are ususally night classes at City Colleges, for that problem. You may want to check them out.
Visit the Library, or book store, see if they have any good books on the subject.
Like any other skills we aquiire over the years, they have to be studied and learned. It isn't an impossible task, just takes some effort on your part.
Good Luck.

Answer 3

I have two suggestions:

First, read a book on etiquette. Make sure you get one that was written within the last ten years or so, or you may be looking on the dinner table for stuff that doesn't exist anymore. It will also give guidance on social interaction.

Second, carefully observe those around you. See how they handle the issues you have problems with and whether they do them successfully. You can learn as much from wrong behavior as you can from right. Believe it or not, your instinct will tell you when something is handled correctly.

Don't expect it to happen overnight. It takes time to process everything. Give yourself a couple of months, and you'll be whole new person. Good luck.

Answer 4

Social skills is a two-way thing, remember. Don't only talk about yourself but take the time to ask about the other person as well. Oh, and remember the rules of proper etiquette. That seems to turn people off.

Answer 5

Read books related to your problems or better yet talk to people on how to improve your social skills like people on webdatedotcom. I'm sure they can help.

Answer 6

Did a professional tell you this? People have different kinds of personalities and everyone has areas that could use improvement. If it wasn't a professional person that told you this, you may want to discuss it with a medical person, guidance councilor or religious leader. Also talk to an adult you can trust and someone you may admire for their life. Don't be too hard on yourself and enjoy defining "Who you are".

Answer 7

you can take a few courses in college about socializing or something similiar to it, smile when you talk to people and try to keep a comfort level for everyone so the conversations are pleasant

Answer 8

Don't seem selfish or rude, be pleasant and attentive to others, their needs, interests. Treat others as you would want to be treated with respect. Have self respect first, know your self and like yourself and it will all come together.

Answer 9

what help me was just being friendly. A big smile helps too and don't be afraid of people good luck I know that you can do it

Answer 10

just by putting your self out there and not being afraid. Be open minded to everything. practice makes perfect