i cant find my place in the world! :(?

Question

where do i fit in ive tryed everything! i cant find the right group. u know what i mean. i just feel like theres no place where i fit in.

Answer 1

Stop looking for groups and be your own group. I think you will be pleased when you chill and realize that you don't have to BELONG anywhere. You need to enjoy life and make the most of it doing things that interest you and not looking to fit in anywhere...like me.

Answer 2

What have you tried?

I just started to fit in.. and i'm in my early 30's! LOL. I know it doesn't seem funny. It's pretty serious when you're younger. It's hard to tell you where you fit in without knowing more about you.

And you have lots of pressure to figure out what you want to do with your life before you leave the nest! The ironic thing.. is that what you plan on doing and what you end up doing ten or fifteen years later.. are more than likely going to be totally different things! So having experiences and living the journey is about all that you can do sometimes - unless you have a crystal ball - but then that would be super boring wouldn't it? if you really think about it.

But anyway, I just started to fit in. and I have hardly any friends - but it's okay, because I have a wife that is super wonderful and a couple of friends that are wonderful as well. And that's all I need.

What you'll eventually figure out - if you go the right path - is that you fit in where you fill a void that you determine or stumble over. What you also realize, is that others don't get to figure out where you fit in. Most of us try way to hard to be accepted. It's actually really easy, but seems so complicated at times.

If you hit rock bottom with other peoples suggestions, email me some time or add me to your yahoo chat and maybe I can give some ideas. I currently mentor a boy that is 11. I don't have any children, but remember my crazy childhood. I'm glad I'm mentoring. It reminds me what being a kid is like all over again. Just having somebody to talk to is a big plus in this nutty world!

I'm thinking of trying to become a mentor online and write about it via web site or something. I think it would be fun and educational too! There's lots of children with lots of questions and nobody to go to to at least just say hi now and then. You go online and it's so unsafe in some cases and many of times you get people that really don't even care - and it hurts more to talk to people online that don't care.. than if you just didnt' say anything at all.

Keep creating reasons to smile and keep a positive outlook on life. Good things will come only to those who think positive! :)

Answer 3

Your place in the world is not some mystical spot you fall into, like a golfball into the cup, nudged along this way and that.

You MAKE your place in the world. You dont seem to fit into any of the so-called "normal" groups because you want something more than that. You're not a follower, you're a leader. Leaders dont necessarily worry what other people think about them. This isnt to say youre free to do whatever you want.

There is no "right" group for you. Youre not a jock, an art fart, a nerd or a burnout. Gee, thank God for small favors! Groups are mostly for people to get together so they can all delude themselves theyre making a difference together. Sometimes they actually can but mostly theyre for getting together and talking about how much better their group is, compared to some other group. It's so tedious.

Now you have to decide what makes you happiest, something which contributes to your generation and the next. Whatever it is, find it and do it. If you can find something which makes you feel complete, consider yourself blessed. Most of us work at something that doesnt challenge us, simply to get that paycheck, so we can buy more things which make us feel superior to some neighbor or group, you get my drift...

Just remember, we make our way in life. Your parents can guide you but they cant make the trip for you. Not your parents, brothers or sisters, and certainly no group of kids as scared and clueless as the rest of us. I hope this helped, just get through your teens without needing too much therapy and things do get different. You'll leave one set of stresses for others, but thats life, sweetie. Just be glad youre not the first one to have to live it!

Answer 4

Stop trying to fit in. I have been through a lot it my life and because people always see me smiling and being nice to others, they think I have the greatest life there is. Wrong, I just don't try to fit in anywhere. When you try to fit in, you have to struggle too hard to keep up with what everyone else is expecting of you. Don't put yourself through that. Just be who you are and have faith in God that he will bring to you just what you need to fill your life with joy, laughter and lots of energy to reach out and help someone else who is feeling the way you do now. Let others fit into your world, not the other way around. When people love you for who you are, then you don't have to fight to keep up with what they expect and you can just relax and enjoy life. I have had times where I felt I did not belong in my own family too, but I pray to God and ask him to not only help me, but help them as well and now I have a better relationship with them. Things will change and get better, just always pray and believe. If you wish to have someone to talk to whenever you need a friend, you can contact me at [e-mail] I am an honest person and I love helping others and Iam not the kind of person who would talk out your business. I will introduce myself better if you choose to contact me when you need to talk. You do not have to decide now, only when you are confortable. I am a female and I am from Belize, Central America, but live in New York.

Answer 5

Maybe instead of worrying you need to put your mind into creating your own unique group! If you are young, it's perfectly normal to feel out of place right now.

Could it also be that maybe you are just the type who is a little of this, a little of that? I don't see myself fitting into any one group, nor do I even care. I just fit in where my various interests and other things that make up ME are. ; )

Answer 6

How old are you? It took me until I was almost 40 to figure out who I was and wher I belonged. It is a long journey, and you are doing the right thing by trying several options. Keep doing that, when the right thing comes along you will know it. Also, when the right people are in your life you will feel it in your heart and soul

Answer 7

Do you have the sensation that you are an alien on this planet or you feel invisible? Well you're not alone. I don't know why I feel like this but your place is somewhere and it's preparing for your arrival. How it's says in my region :"Capul sus!" you will find your place just live your life and you will see that it's searching for you. Don't be said, sadness isn't for you (it isn't for girls).

Answer 8

You shouldn't feel like that....everyone fits in this world....it's just trying to find a "spot". A tip: try going on yahoo messenger/chat rooms and find a room (they are usually named for a specfic hobbie/interest). Hope this helps

Answer 9

I feel exactly the same way. I don't even feel that I truly belong to my family. I think that I should ve been born in some other time in future.

Answer 10

I always used to feel like that, and I still do a lot of the time. people say its a stage, but I'm not sure. Talk to somebody close to you. I talk to my mom and my best friend, and it helps.