Me and my best friend have been best friends for three years. I used to live in Joburg South Africa which is where she is living but moved to America a year and a half ago. When I was living there we were attached at the hips always together, never went anywheres with out the other and we told each other EVERYTHING. We stay in contact through email and calling each other but lately I hardly hear from her and when I do it's just a few lines. She's always saying she's busy and tired and today I found out from another friend that she has a boyfriend that she has been with for a while and she still hasn't told me about him. I've been going through some rough times and I have told her about them but she seems to care less. Should I confront her and tell her how I feel or carry on like everythings ok and not mess up what relationship we have left?
Please no stupid remarks.
2006-06-21 09:23:33 · 4 answers · asked by ....... 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
It's been hard for me and I don't have any friends in this country and don't want to make friends here. I blame my parents for all my problems that I've had since I've been here. If we had never moved I wouldn't of ever been in this situation and me and my best friend would still be together and I'd be happy.
2006-06-21 09:44:26 · update #1
yes she dose care but since she is so far away she cant spend time with you
2006-06-21 09:30:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It gets very draining/exhausting to respond to someone that is always going through rough times. Perhaps if you could return to the person you used to be...light hearted news only for a while, she might respond more readily?
However, no matter how close we are, when people move on our lives change. As you said she has a bf but hasnt disclosed that to you because maybe she didnt want to rub it in that she was happy OR if she knows she'll never see you again, maybe its just too hard to keep up the relationship.
You must be aware that....if YOU had found new friends, and she was a constant needy/misery, that you'd find it hard to keep the interest in the friendship going too. Cut your emails down to once a fortnight or month and give mostly good news....that way the friendship may last a lot longer.
2006-06-30 05:02:40 · answer #2 · answered by Scully 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People do grow up and change when they are apart. It is hard to remain close in friendships and it takes work on both peoples part. Talk to her about it, express your desire to stay close and if she isn't willing to put in the time then you will need to find someone else to confide in.
2006-06-21 09:28:47 · answer #3 · answered by gina_road 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that would be hard, i think that she is busy and may not always have time to talk. as you get older that happens. it doesnt mean that they arent friends anymore. this may sound weird but try myspace.com, i have kept in touch with a lot of friends that way even when i cant talk to them.
2006-06-21 09:31:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋