Thank you to everyone that answered my question about the cramping and bleeding and ectopic preg. Well I just got back from the hospital and I lost the baby... So I told my fiance and he just broke down and said he doesn't want to try anymore for anymore babies... I also found out that my body has a hard time holding babies and that it is going to be a lot harder for me to get pregnant... But my doctor said that when me and him are ready to have another baby to let him know so he can be there with us every step of the way... But now what do I do? My fiance doesn't want to try anymore... So where do I go from here? He doesn't want to try so... What do we do now? He won't raise a child that isn't his so thats out of the question... How do I get him to understand that one day we will have our little baby that he just has to have faith... Please help me... I'm so lost and don't know if I can go on....
2006-06-21 09:19:02 · 6 answers · asked by Krystle T 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Give him some time. I'm sorry to hear that you lost the baby, that is such a hard thing to go through. He obviously wanted the child very much. He is hurt, just like you are. Don't suggest it right away, don't try either. This doesnt mean you should go on birth control, and certainly don't stop having sex (though there might be a break in that for the two of you so you guys can heal...) Just don't push the issue. If you happen to get pregnant while you are not planning on it then it shouldnt be a problem. You guy doesnt not want a baby, he doesnt want to hurt anymore. Give it some time and suggest again... tell him as hard as it is it can take some people years to have baby's. You don't want to give up on having a little one because it is harder for you. Keep your head up, this is hard. Just because your body has a hard time having babies does not mean you will never be a mom. Best of Luck to you
2006-06-21 09:28:25 · answer #1 · answered by manderstwin1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry. Why don't you guys take a break from trying for a while (both of you together); tell him that you'd like to talk about it again in a year or however long. Then just enjoy each other. You need to have time to heal from this pain anyway. Then, when some time has passed, he might be more willing to try again. If not, don't force the issue but make it plain that you do want to have a baby with him. You might be able to have a surrogate pregnancy (your egg, his sperm, someone else carries the baby for you). Just take one day at a time.
2006-06-21 09:28:51 · answer #2 · answered by no answer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him a little time and maybe he Will change his mind Let him know that you want a child-wait to get married until you work this out-both of you need time to get over your grief
2006-06-21 09:32:00 · answer #3 · answered by wancarol 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just give it time, let him get over everything that has happened....he probally will change his mind one day. but dont push it now, just let it go for a while (at least 6 months to a year) and if he doesnt bring it up you bring it up and see how he feels
2006-06-21 09:29:36 · answer #4 · answered by Laura333 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well dear... have patience. I am very sure...as the time passes it'll heal ur fiance's and ur wounds. Give him some time. He may change his mind.
2006-06-21 09:24:08 · answer #5 · answered by pearl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
RElax...give yourself time to heal. He is hurting right now just like you are. Give him time to heal as well. They have support groups to help you deal with miscarriage.
2006-06-21 10:00:49 · answer #6 · answered by mommy_2_liam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋