When my baby was born 4.5 month ago his mother left us and she hasnt came back, Im taking the bast care of him that i posibly can but it just feels like he needs a mommy, I love him so much and i couldnt stand to hurt him in anyway and I only want whats right for him, I try my hardest to play both the mommy and the daddy but I can tell he needs a mommy, and sugestions of what i can do.
2006-06-21 08:59:38 · 23 answers · asked by clueless 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
wow, i have to say what a great stand up dad u r....... you son will be ok. later in life he may wonder where is his mom but all u can do is guide him in how to be a man and to do his best in any and everything he does in life.... i'm really proud of u for being a stand up dad... best of wishes 4 u....
2006-06-21 09:07:07 · answer #1 · answered by Mickey 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Judging by everyone else's responses, I'd say you're going to have no problem finding another woman to take his mommy's place. The only problem there is finding a woman willing to accept your son and help you raise him as though he is hers. This is the real challegne these days with relationships that don't survive--finding a replacement spouse that is willing to take on the roles of the former partner. As difficult as it may seem, it might be good to consider adoption. Children deserve to be raised by a mother and a father--there is a reason that those two factors are required in order to concieve. Each parent has unique but very important roles in a child's life. That is, I think, what would ultimately be best for him, and the sooner the better. While it is great if the families can stay intact, adoption is always a great second choice. :)
Adoption... it's not about giving the baby up, it's about giving him more.
2006-06-21 16:51:24 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well obviously she was not ment to be w/ you & she doesn't deserve his son either. You will do good don't worry. Later on yopu might find a real mom for him & a real wife for you just don't be desperate on looking for a mom. Make sure that she loves your son not just because you need a mom for her. There are few father's out there who raised their kids w/ out a mom cuz of different reasons.Just give him all the love & protection he needs most important thing never talk bad about his mom eventhough she left both of you when he grows up he will know if he will forgive her or not. As for you you need to go to the child support office & let them know your situation & if you are married to this person file for a divorce. That way if she ever comes back she will not be allowed to have custody of you kid & she can even be paying you for child support & you can use that money to save it for your boy. BUt if she decides to come back don't let her In your life again she is not a good mom neither a good wife so do this before is to late. Don't worry you will be conpensateby the love of your son & all the things he will show you along, day by day is a new experience that you need to enjoy no matter what , thank God he has you as a Daddy just don't forget to give him all the love that you can but don't spoiled him well just a little ...Good luck & Best wishes to both of you.... :)
2006-06-21 16:46:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best answer, on the way...
SUE her. Get her money and child support. Have a judge establish her parental responsiblity and make her pay her way. If she's got a new boyfriend or husband, he'll have to contribute too. It's WONDERFUL.
People are unaware that California, for example, established that a single mother can attach a BOYFRIENDS wages to help pay for the "child's well-being," no matter what the paternity is. How screwed up is that? So NEVER, NEVER date single mothers.
Well, legal precedent has paved the way to turn this all around and to go after the "wanna-fool-around" mommies out there. Nail em' for all that they have.
Make em' pay.
2006-06-26 11:22:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have any sisters, or other female relatives? How close are you with your g/f? Can you afford a nanny? Find an older person who has a income that would not mind coming over once or twice a week to help you out. Or you may want to try finding a somewhat older settled woman that maybe have a monthly income who is in need of a place to stay u could giver her free room and board plus meals in exchange for helping out with the baby. MAKE SURE SHE LOVES KIDS. Be sure to check her out.
2006-06-27 01:40:36 · answer #5 · answered by drkntasteeeee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am SO sorry that you are in the situation you are in. That must be rough. I have a daughter that is four and a half months and I couldnt imagine having to do it on my own. Are there any females in your life that you can get some support and help from? Mother, sisters, aunts, cousins, anyone? I ask because if you son gets a chance to bond with other women, then he will have a maternal figure in his life, even if it isnt his mom. I will pray for you. My heart goes out to you.
2006-06-21 20:44:33 · answer #6 · answered by dixiechic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your baby has one great parent who loves him, and thats a lot more than many children have these days! Just do as you've been doing! Perhaps you have sisters or other female relatives or friends who would be willing to spend some time with your son as sort of surrugate mommies. As he gets older you can also sign him up for a mentoring program. Many mentoring programs now allow boys to have female mentors or girls to have male mentors, depending on their needs and situations. Keep up the good work!
2006-06-21 20:37:32 · answer #7 · answered by angelsister23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, you are an awesome dad...don't worry he'll be fine, he gets all the love he needs from you, sounds like that's not a problem. If it were a girl it'd be more difficult because girls need the mother figure, but boys need the father figure so I think you two will be ok. Love him as much as you can and give him all that you can and he'll be happy even when he gets older. Good luck and don't worry you'll find a good woman who will love your son as much as you do. It'll come in time.
2006-06-21 16:50:52 · answer #8 · answered by gabby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're an amazing person. If you need help or tips sorry but give in and ask your mother for help. Or maybe a female friend you can trust and are close to who has kids of their own. That way your son has a female adult in their life should he need her and is comfortable with asking for her help. but I'm sure you're doing a great job just keep loving and caring, and don't worry you'll make it and he'll be fine.
2006-06-21 16:37:30 · answer #9 · answered by JCka 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep on doing a great job. I know a man who is raising 3 kids by himself and he does an outstanding job. When your son is old enough let him know that truth, that way he understands why his mommy is not around. A man can do a great job raising a son by himself (women do it all the time)
2006-06-21 17:00:08 · answer #10 · answered by KM 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let me tell u your a real man,and you should be proud of yourself.just keep raising your son the best way you know how.and when you do find a girlfriend make sure she not only after you,that she understands that you have a child that you have to put first.i know what it's like cuz im a single mother of 2 little girls.and its super hard for me cuz im 17 years old.but i keep my head held high and i have faith that i will find the right man who will love me as well as my girls.if you would like to email me you can at maribelm2005@yahoo.com.stay positive and don't give up
2006-06-21 20:02:09 · answer #11 · answered by mari 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋