i got home early yesterday and saw my boyfriend watching porn on the computer. thats not a really big deal to me but when i checked later what he was watching it kindof scared me. there was some stuff about teens being touched by older men and older women doing explicit things. i dont want to offend anyone by going into much more detail but im worried that he might have some sexual things that i dont know about. im pretty sure this was a one time thing and he was just exploring or something becaue we are a pretty young couple, but it also worries me that he would do this behind my back. he doesnt know i saw or that i looked up which videos he was watching. what do i do? do i just confront him and ask him about it or should i wait it out and see if anything ever happens like this again?
2006-06-21 08:52:06 · 10 answers · asked by kim n 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
ok so i think he knows that i know he was watching it but i cant get up enough guts to say anything. we had GREAT sex yesterday which makes me think everythings ok. i honestly think it was a one time thing...but im going to have lunch with him at work today so if we get a quiet place maybe ill ask him then. he can tell something is bothering me but i know he wouldnt bring it up himself, even though he knows i want him to. i just dont want to make him feel like hes a bad person for doing it because i understand that watching porn ir normal, its the kind of porn he was watching that is scary.
2006-06-22 05:35:13 · update #1
Ask him about it straight up. Tell him to include you in porn watching and you want to know what he likes. If he hides it or lies then you need to worry.
2006-06-21 09:02:09 · answer #1 · answered by jeff7241 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're giving him the benefit of the doubt and yet you have the proof right in front of you. Never tell yourself someone isn't capable of doing certain things, just when you think they won't do something, they sure as heck will. Personally I wouldn't confront him, I would just turn around and go the other way w/o him. Let him be like a lost child in the mall looking for you and wondering where you went to.
2006-06-21 09:01:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok maybe it was just random porn that just came up so don't get al suspicious, but then again you never know. Here's what you can do: Start complaining about all the pop-ups of porno ads you're getting on the computer and confront him if whether he's looking stuff up. I think all guys look at porn
2006-06-21 08:57:09 · answer #3 · answered by jkhosho 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't stress out about it. If it continues to bother you talk with him about it. Have you ever seen the movie Kinsey? It's basically post the questions "what is normal sexual urges?" Who says what's normal and what's not. Everyone is aroused by different things. HOWEVER... If he is turned on by Forcing or harming, or by young children then I might worry. And remember, communication is the key to a relationship. Good Luck, use your head and you'll be fine
2006-06-21 09:05:11 · answer #4 · answered by Liz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would ask him about it. He might of just been bored or seeing what he can find. Do you watch porn with him? Sometimes people are curious about different things and want to look at something...not sure what it means but ask him.
2006-06-21 08:59:32 · answer #5 · answered by Workinmamma 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would certainly ask him about it! That is serious. Maybe it was a first time thing and he was curious, but I wouldn't take that chance, especially if you have kids. Also, it could be a problem if the site is monitored and he is in the house with you.
2006-06-21 08:59:44 · answer #6 · answered by brittme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please... ALL men do is think about nookie with people we dont normally get to bone, ie younger, older, teachers, cops etc. and ways we dont normally get to do it... This is why the porn industry is a billion dollar business, it provides a "reality" to our fantasies... your guy is normal fer chrissakes... Dont want him to watch porn? then get that cheerleader outifit or some handcuffs and make his fantasies real....
2006-06-21 09:04:57 · answer #7 · answered by slick_pavement 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if he was into that and you confronted him I dont think he'd admit it. Either you trust him and forget or ask him and trust his answer is the truth
2006-06-21 08:59:04 · answer #8 · answered by Capricorn82 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hon! leave him his crazy! lol u have to asked him what r u there for if he got to look at porn sites!
2006-06-21 08:56:59 · answer #9 · answered by Felecia M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
baby girl, you need to tell him exactly what you're telling us. what he's doing is not healthy. leave the sick pervert.
2006-06-21 08:59:27 · answer #10 · answered by harmony 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋