what would you do if the girl next door and her friend were screaming at the top of their lungs non-stop for 4 hours?? They sound like the diva woman from the wresling M N M group. they are about 12 but good gosh its getting on my nerves. they need to be quieter. I love kids, I have my own. am I wrong to want them to play quieter? they are loader than tv, radio or phone. I have a grandbaby to think of also. : (.
2006-06-21 08:45:50 · 31 answers · asked by Ginnykitty 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I mean louder not loader sorry.
2006-06-21 08:46:57 · update #1
you are not wrong. The sound of children playing next door should not over power the sound of your TV in your house. Although the are just children so be careful how you handle it. the sound of children playing should be music to ones ears if you loves children. You need to ask them to please play a little quieter or talk to the parents. Although it is just play--- the noise level should not become a problem for the neighbors. There is a limit.
2006-06-21 08:59:02 · answer #1 · answered by mother of 5 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
No, I do not think that is wrong of you. We all want and deserve peace and quiet. We all understand however that kids will be kids and kids are noisy. It seems to me from what I am reading in your question that there might not be any parental figures around. I understand that 12 years old is a fine age to be home alone but to scream that way for 4 hours is kind of strange. I would check into seeing if parents are home. If they arent home I would consider speaking to them and letting them know the situation (if they arent already aware of it) and let them know that you are unable to live a "normal" life due to it. If the parents are there while this is going, I would probably call the police or someone to have them look into it. Most parents do not allow there children to act in such a way, yet alone for such a lengthy period of time, and when there are neighbors involved. Trust me, I have a 3 year old of my own and the screaming drives me crazy after 10 minutes so I couldnt handle 4 hours... And if it was me in your situation I would be pulling my hair out! Look into it, and if confronting them fears you, just call the police for a routine check up - you can always remain anonymous. Best of luck to you!
2006-06-21 08:53:26 · answer #2 · answered by nicolenewman9952 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mothers in law aren't nicknamed monsters in law for no reason! Of course she will be difficult, you are dating her son and ultimately, she will test you. It doesn't sound like it from here, but is there any way that you could have said something to her in retaliation, that she is now using against you? Or are there any incidents when she felt hostility from you? If that's the case, try and apologise - even if it means having to apologise again. Another idea would be to get your boyfriend to talk to her, and try and assess why she is acting the way she is - because there must be some reason why you are being put through this. Though by taking this option, you have to walk carefully, as a son's bond with his mother is not something to challenge. By forcing him to take sides, it will put a strain on your relationship, and i'm sure that your mother in law would be happy about this - not something we want to happen. Try finding something that you two have in common, even if it is something as little as a television programme or a favourite dish - you can try building a friendship from this. It could also be worth trying to plan a day out, just you two. At least then, you are the one seen to be making an effort. But whatever you do, don't exclude her from things, this will aggravate the situation and will give her cause to attack you more - but it could be worth putting a little distance between your life and future with your partner and her. At the end of the day, it is YOUR relationship. Not hers. Her son is with you for a reason. Try and show her those reasons, because it will only enforce your own relationship. And similarly, try and see her good qualities and bring those out, because life will be a lot easier if you can. At the same time, try building up your relationships with the rest of your partner's family, because your mother in law might open her eyes if the rest of the family start to become closer to you - and she will begin to look like the manipulative one. Stay strong, it sounds like you're going through a rough time. But I really hope this helps :) x
2016-05-20 09:27:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You come across as an intelligent and kind person so I am going to assume you have already spoke with the girl's parents. I don't know what times the curfew is in your area but usually it's around 10pm - if it's happening before that there is not allot you can do except wait it out. If you know them well enough you may want to invite them over to "help you out" with a project then give them a gift card for the local movie theater (LOL) at least that way they will be gone for a few hours. Sorry I couldn't come up with a better idea - Good luck
2006-06-21 08:54:50 · answer #4 · answered by B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just like a barking dog, talk to the owners.
If that doesn't work, call the police with a complaint. But I would think the parents could talk to the kids and make them stop being so loud.
Just be sure to say you have a grandbaby in the house, and that you'd rather not have the kids know it came from you.
2006-06-21 08:49:33 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are describing "disturbing the peace" which is unlawful. Usually this should not be a real issue if it happens rarely.
But if it has become a pattern, or does happen again let me suggest the following:
1. Tell their Mom that you are sorry to tell her anything negative about her lovely daughter, but that they were so loud that it disturbed the peace of your household.
2. IF it happens again, Get it on audio tape. Give the tape to her Mom. Give the Mom a second chance to correct her daughter.
3. If it happens AGAIN, then call the police and tell them that you want to be annonymous.
You might talk with other neighbors in a nice way to help you with these tasks, so that you don't look like the only one that is bothered...be unified in your desire for a peaceful neighborhood.
I hope for all of you that is stops quickly
stw
2006-06-21 08:54:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you are NOT wrong here, they are. I have a feeling they have little or no supervision over there, otherwise their parents would keep them quite. You know it would be getting on their nerves, too, if they were there.
You could try knocking on the door and sternly asking the girls to be a bit quieter. If there is an adult there, you should talk to them first. If you get no help from that, go "higher up" (apartment manager if you are in an apartment, police if you are in a free-standing house)
2006-06-21 08:56:40 · answer #7 · answered by kj 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Theres really not a whole lot you can do besides talking to the parents. I would get a camcorder and record the entire event atleast once. That way if you go to your land lord, or neighborhood group and you have something more than just a complaint.
Check with the opposite neighbors, chances are they hear the same things you do and would be willing to back you up.
2006-06-21 08:50:09 · answer #8 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um that is the nature of tweens especially girls. I'd go over and talk to the parents honey works a lot better than viniger. If that doesn't work get a Cd player and a recording of 'the mosquitio' irrtating pitch that only the young or extremely good hearing can hear. Put it on the porch and turn it UP. at least they will avoid that area.
2006-06-21 08:52:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah I use to live in a neighborhood with a lot of screaming kids and people told me to call the cops and say you weren't sure if someone was in trouble. I never did it cause it got better. I'd say some parent isn't doing their job to keep their kids under control.
2006-06-21 08:50:04 · answer #10 · answered by pizzagirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋