GUYS I NEED YOUR HELp!!!!?

Question

I have a new boyfriend and he thinks most marriages fail bc the wives are not okay with new sexual expierences i.e. 3 somes, so they go cheat. anyone in their right mind would NOT be okay with someone else touching who they love. Am I wrong with this? My other boyfriend who unfortunatly I broke up with a few weeks ago thinks that a couple is a couple not a 3 way thing. give me ur opinion.

I dont care how fun they are...its MY guy..not some bitches

And would u want ur woman on top of another guy? didnt think so.

Answer 1

Just stay calm and tell him "Honey, you are right..........let's make a 3some-Me, you and my Ex boyfriend" !!!

Be prepared to see his face dear...!! LOL

Kick in the rear part of his body and look forward for someone else....Goodluck.

Answer 2

As much of a free spirit I am, I truly know and believe that marriage is secret and it shouldn't be tainted with bull**** like threesomes and swinging. You have all the time in the world to do that stuff before you get married. You possibly couldn't respect your spouse after doing that unless you are a sick person, not to offend anyone but come on people. Society and there views on a lot of stuff has become very twisted these days, and the problem really is not that. It is they are trying to make it okay, and "the thing to do" that's bull **** we have strayed do far from the truth and what's right it's ridiculous. I wish people would keep some things in the closet if that is something they want to do, and it is some how being shoved down some peoples throats. I am old fashioned and I can admit that a lot of things that I am doing are wrong and sinful and when I pray I ask for forgiveness, but there are some things that I just will draw the line at. We are all going to hell,straight to hell, hehehe.

Answer 3

There are a lot of people out there that swing, trade partners, do the MMF or MFF three-ways, but call me a traditionalist if you will - a marriage is between a man and a woman.

Now, if we're single, then hey! ANYTHING goes.
But if we're really going to take vows, based on Scripture, then live up to the vows...or, what's the point in marriage?

I don't have an issue with single adults doing whatever with other, consenting single adults...as long as everyone uses protection and avoids getting pregnant or transmitting sexual diseases.

But the reason why most marriages fail is because of UNREALISTIC expectations.
This includes sexual expectations...but MUCH of the cause for divorce is because the couples did not clearly outline financial issues, life goals (careers, raising a family, etc) or communicate when they should have been talking to each other instead of sulking off because one or the other was P.O.'ed.

Marriage is a butt-load of work.
Its not all flowers and sunrises.
Seven years later now, I wake each morning to the woman I married - she's a bit overweight, we don't have as much sex as we used to but we're still in love because we have common goals both in the short and long term.

Look - date a lot of guys, learn about them, get to know what YOUR limits are and always be true to yourself...don't let some knucklehead tell you what you know in your heart to be wrong.

To really put things in perspective, ask your boyfriend if he'd like to have a three-way, with you being the only girl.
THAT will twist his boxers in a knot!

And WHATEVER you do, make sure he's wearing protection, if you know what I mean.
Now - go out and have fun

Answer 4

Most marriages break up because at least one party isn't willing to work on solving their mutual problems. It's almost never one person's fault in my experience; it's more a matter of two people who have issues who both want the other person to do all of the changing.

That said, marriage is _process_, not a state of being. In the course of a healthy marriage both parties will have to make adjustments. Your new bf is telling you about an adjustment that he wants you to make for him. The question is, are you willing to make that change? If not, he may not be the right guy for you.

BTW, I've learned in my travels that the sexual part of a relationship works best when the less adventurous partner is usually the one to bring in new things. If the one with less tolerance chooses something that s/he can handle, the more adventurous one probably won't reject it.

Answer 5

You're both wrong.

The idea that most marriages fail because the wives are not okay with new sexual experiences (such as threesomes) suggests that he has (a) no experience with, nor reasonable expectations about, what marriage is, and (b) an agenda; that is, he's looking for a girl that will do three-ways with him, even after he's married.

You have to give the guy a few points for honesty -- I mean, this is the kind of thing you don't want to find out about AFTER you get married -- but he's just plain wrong about what breaks up most marriages.

As for you, the idea that anyone who would be okay with that sort of thing is insane -- well, that's a broad generalization, and it's incorrect as well. There are many couples out there for whom this is a normal thing; it's certainly not mainstream, but it's not insane, either. Everyone has their own view of things, and to each their own. Heck, I had a three-way once, with my girlfriend and her best friend, and none of us were insane -- well, okay, maybe the best friend was, but her insanity was independent of the three-way.

The bottom line? Marriages break up for lots of reasons, and one of them is incompatibilities not talked about before the wedding. The two of you are very, very incompatible when it comes to how you view relationships, and you should break it off immediately (since you're lucky enough to have found out before things got serious.)

Answer 6

OK,most guys would want a threesome,I think that is just a guy thing,lol!Honestly,I am not too sure how keen I would be if someone was touching my man,and it wasnt me.But then I can look at the flipside to it as well.maybe it is ok to try other things in the bedroom,with toys,etc.I mean the same sex all the time does get boring after awhile.This is such a hard question to answer,I wish I knew the answer.All I can say is dont let anyone make you do anything you are not comfortable with,that is the best advice I can say...

Answer 7

This is easy although it isn't for you. This guy already has no respect for his wife in the future, or now. Drop him as fast as you would if you picked up a piece of burning charcoal. He isn't even worth you wasting any more of your valuable & precious time. Life is short, and there are so many wonderful guys out there who know how to treat their women right. Once you find one, you will know. Just don't settle for a loser. Think about it, if he is already thinking this before marriage, how much quicker he will jump at it when he is married.
As far as his comment... that is so false. Usually you can have the BEST sex when you are married or in a commited relationship, because you have eachothers trust, and you learn EVERYTHING about them, as well as what makes each of you the happiest. I am 30 years old, and I have never had any complaints in bed, married, or not married. Some guys will always look for any excuse to get out of their relationship, and if I were you I would take his comment like a giant, lit-up, billboard. Last chance to exit girl......

Answer 8

i'd promote off him asap. If he likes yet another lady and he or she him, WHAT ARE YOU DOING??? actual love doesn't play video games or have wandering eyes, that is dedicated and exertions. you need to work out this as a pink flag, a deal breaker, strike 3. Your youthful, i'm guessing, you may want to not also be thinking a serious relationship that is going to reason you lack of self belief. have relaxing, do not develop into overly invested in this, WHAT? you won't be able to flirt? bypass on, the writing is on the wall and it spells problem. Do your self a pick and shrink the guy loose, even if that is destined to be, it is going to run that is direction and he will be decrease back. yet why you'll take him decrease back in undemanding words you are able to answer.

Answer 9

3 ways are a lot of work. I mean, there are, what, 3 ways? That's a lot of ways right there.

Me? I like it 2 ways. Occasionally 1 way in a pinch, but 3 ways is just crazy talk.

Now 6 ways are OK if you can get someone to help cover for you on some of the heavy lifting. You can sit out a round and catch your breath, get a little sleep. But I'm telling you that 3 ways are nothing but working for a very demanding boss who sits right across from your cubicle.

I feel better getting that off my chest.

Answer 10

Marriages said to be together forsaking all others. I'm pretty sure that means not letting another person in your marital bed.

Most marriages fail because they don't give it their best. They give their spouse the "leftovers" and they don't take it seriously.

You know in your heart that you deserve someone that will treat you right. You know in your heart that this man's values aren't up to par. His views on women aren't admirable.

He might be a nice guy....not saying he's a monster. But he's not someone you want to try to build a relationship with.

Your old boyfriend was right in that respect...a couple is a couple.

Answer 11

well your current boyfriend is totally wrong. if you are in a relationship wit someone, you should find love and joy being with that person alone, and if your bf thinks that a marriage fails because wives dont allow new sexual experiences, then he doesnt really like you and he's not attracted to you. and one other thing is that he could be cheating on you or planning to cheat on you so you need to talk to him about it and see whats the problem.