2006-06-21 08:12:31 · 19 answers · asked by eskyesmom 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
NO, you are NOT wrong to think that way. It IS a form of cheating, and more than likely will LEAD to him cheating. Of course, he will tell you differently, but ask other women who have been in your shoes and you will find out that porn is addictive, and that it demeans women, and that men expect their women to LOOK like those retouched photos, and to do some of the things the porno stars do. It is a never-ending thing with men who look at porn. And above all, it is a FORM of cheating. After all, he is thinking of them when he has sex with you, and he is asking you to pose or wear this and that, or try this new position, isn't he? Okay then. You KNOW the answer already.
2006-06-21 08:18:48 · answer #1 · answered by lcamel2000 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
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2016-07-19 14:49:01 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry but i did agree up until a year ago. My husband used to watch porn videos after i would go to bed. And i hated it as i thought is was gross and i felt used.
Well about a year ago, i got up one night and went in the living room and sat beside him and watched the video with him. First he was in shock and second. It was the best sex we ever had that night. Till this day it no longer bugs me because watching porn is that WATCHING!
Plus, you may also enjoy it. It turned something on inside of me that i never knew was there (give it a chance). We have the best sex now, since i started watching porn with him. Our marriage is better now then it ever has been in 15 years.
Good luck and be open to new ideas!
2006-06-21 08:26:58 · answer #3 · answered by misscanada_y2k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion it is absolutely not wrong for you to think porn is cheating! I am going though the same thing and I just left my husband of 30 years. I am from the old school, I believe when you marry, being faithful means with heart and soul you become one. Your body is your temple and it belongs to each other and there is not room for outside lust or cheating of any sort. Cheating is not just the actual act of intercourse, it is anything that would rob from your trust in your relationship. Cheating is something that your spouse does intentionally behind your back or in front of you that he knows would hurt you.
2006-06-21 08:34:59 · answer #4 · answered by kb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If his going to porn sites is obsessive and it bothers you and interfers with your sexual relationship - as in he can't get it up for you unless he watches porn or reads a porn magazine, or he's having less and less sex with you because of the porn, then yes, you have every right to be upset or concerned. When you got married his body became yours and yours became his. If he's not living up to his end of the bargin and would rather beat off to a website, then he's cheating you.
2006-06-21 08:22:47 · answer #5 · answered by Brandy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, not only wrong, but stupid. Why in the world do you care if he looks at porn..suspect you are the beneficiary of all the hormones stirred up. Why do you feel you have to OWN this man, lock, stock, and barrel? He said, "I do" in his vows, he didn't say, "I'm sold and have no mind or will of my own anymore." No wonder there are so many divorces lately...girls like you have a very distorted view of marriage. Wise up, or you will be looking for a new husband, and god forbid he might look at someone else!
2006-06-21 08:18:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOTs of couples struggle with this. Just know that nothing that you feel is wrong. If you feel he is cheating (I would), then you should get help. Seeing a marriage counselor may really help. It's also possible that there is a support group in your area for wives whose husbands are porn addicts.
2006-06-21 08:16:21 · answer #7 · answered by kbis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heck yes its wrong to think that. I have a question for you. You ever look at a guy walking down the street and think hey he ain't bad looking? Just because he is looking at nude pics does not mean he's cheating. If you was a bit more secure in yourself, you might join him and see what turns him on, and who knows some of that might turn you on too. Just because your married does not mean that he will never look at another woman. The same goes for you. Relax and enjoy
2006-06-21 08:25:22 · answer #8 · answered by Sirecoke 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you're not wrong. He's giving someone else (even a picture) the attention that solely belongs to you. I think in the long-run, it can damage everyone involved. Certainly, it's not uplifting your marriage in any good way.
Not to get all religious on you, but he is supposed to treat you like Christ treated His bride (the church). Can you imagine Christ short-changing His church so he could catch some thrills?
I don't think it means that he doesn't love you or want you. I don't think it means that the marriage is doomed. But he does need to know that it hurts you and demeans you and cheapens your marriage.
2006-06-21 08:30:29 · answer #9 · answered by iam1funnychick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell no- it is very healthy. He still comes right back to you after viewing porn, so what is the problem? Porn only gets him in the mood... it would be an issue if you two never have sex again...
2006-06-21 08:19:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋