i don't love my husband what should i do i have a son?

Question

im 20 he is 32 and it is not working help and i feel guilty for all this

Answer 1

Don't feel guilty, you can't help the way you feel, and if you ignore your feeling you will end up hurting yourself, if it is possible to leave him for a little while with out jumping into anything drastic, this may help you confirm your feelings or not, and then go from there, children adjust easy, he's probrably a good father but a bad husband. PHB

Answer 2

Your answer lies in the answers to these questions -
1) How important it is for your son to have two parents under one roof?
2) Why don't you love your husband?
3) What is it that you expect from marriage and a husband?
4) Have you consulted a therapist?

Answer 3

Love is a choice. Try to remember why you married him in the first place. Then, go to a marriage counselor together. Despite popular politically correct nonsense, nobody gets divorced "for the children." They get divorced because they are selfish. The only exception is if he does a deal breaker like abusing you or your child, alcoholism, drug abuse, etc. But it should be major. If you just don't "love" him, realize that feelings change, any you have a lot of control over them. I don't mean to sound harsh, but I know that the first year my husband and I were married I went to a therapist crying that I though I had made a big mistake, I told her, " I don't think I married the right one." She laughed and gave me the best advice I ever heard. She said, everyone feels that way in the beginning. It's sort of like buyers remorse, but you get over it. One more thing, you learn to love who you serve. Children are a perfect example of this. They whine, they cry, they poop, they are demanding, and yet we love them. Why? Because you love who you serve. Try applying that to your marriage.

Answer 4

Talk to your husband and tell him. Your son will be fine ,and in a lot of situations it is better to let go.Chidren can sense when things are not right and pretending to feel something you don't is a stressful situation for all.Also explain to the child you both still love him it is nothing that he did.Nobody is perfect and we all have regrets as long as we learn from them

Answer 5

Look, you’re still young, don't stay in a non loving relationship, you’re not doing anyone any favors. You both will end up with hate and your child will learn hate, and you will regret staying. Marriage counseling is the best advice I can give you. They will tell you weather your marriage is worth fighting for or is a lost cause. Good luck, don't get married again until your 30.

Answer 6

Divorce him and never get re-married(so you don't keep hurting men and children your whole life). I think it should be a rule that if you're not happy with yourself or you're too emotional(always wanting to change the color of paint in house or rearranging furniture all the time or changing your hair style), then you shouldn't get married and ruin another person or child's life or you shouldn't make divorce decisions.

Answer 7

Don't make the same mistake I did by staying married, I finally worked up the strength I told my wife I didn't love her and asked for a divorce. It's not fair to him, your son and yourself to stay in a loveless marriage.

Answer 8

Talk to ur husband about the non loving feelings u r getting.Add some spice,some romance to ur marriage.Take a break from routine.

Answer 9

Do your husband a favor and give him your son to raise, then leave. You are too selfish to think you should be able to leave him, deprive your son of a father, your husband of his son, and think YOUR life will become happy again.

Answer 10

You shouldn't have married him or had a child. You should leave. It's not good for anyone involved if you stay with him b/c you have a son. You will eventually resent him AND you son.