Parents of teens: BE HONEST Do you snoop in their room?

Question

To what degree, and do you feel justified in doing so?

Whoa, sorry I think a few of you misunderstood me. I AM the teen, 19 to be precise, and my parents are asking me questions in my sleep, stole my cell (and deny it) and other things...God only knows. All because of a guy. And now they don't trust me.

Wow... Parents, you are weak excuses for the titles you hide behind if you are that nosy and pre-occupied with satisfying only your own curiosity to the degrees shown below. You are sick people, but thank you for helping me to better understand my own parents. I come to the conclusion that you're all the same, twisted morons.

Answer 1

not really.....i can't even see the floor in her room!!!!!

Answer 2

My son is not a teen yet (he's only 2 1/2) but when he becomes a teen I will most likely respect his privacy (for the most part). If, however, I feel like he is getting in with the wrong group of friends, doing drugs, drinking, or engaging in any other risky behavior...I would most definitly snoop through his room! His room will be in MY HOUSE and anything that goes on in my house that is innappropriate for his age or otherwise illegal, I have a right to know about! For the most part, I just hope that when he hits those difficult years that we have an open and honest relationship like me and my mother did!

If saving my childs life depends on me snooping and finding out that way...then so be it...that is what will be done!

Answer 3

19 yrs? All I can say is at this age, you should have some degree of respect for parents who actually come to answer your questions. You ask a question and you end up calling them twisted morons? That's disrespectful.
By the way, I'm also a teen and even though my parents do not snoop around, because I know I have nothing to hide, if they do, I'll know it is because of the LOVE they have for me and how they want the best for me....

Answer 4

I have four children all at home and two of them are 19 years old. Have you ever thought that your parents just want to keep you safe? Yes I will snoop when I feel the need although I haven't felt the need very often. Also they do live under my roof. My husband and I do pay the bills so that my children can be comfortable in their home. It may be my kids room, but I own it. I don't ask nothing from my kids except to clean their rooms,pick up their clothes,and put their dirty dishes in the dishwasher. I don't consider myself a moron at all,neither does my kids. They all love me and respect me enough to not call me names. You should understand where your parents are coming from. My dad died when I was 14 years old and I loved him with all my heart and I can honestly say that I can lay my head down at night and know that I never called him names. My mom thought that going out and having a good time was more important than being with me.You should appreciate your parents especially if they have been good to you and been there for you. I don't know about your boyfriend of course but your parents may know more about him than you do and they are just trying to keep you safe.

Answer 5

Never did. When you seek you shall find. My daughter is 21 and she and I have always been able to commuicate so I never had to wonder too much about what was going on in her life. I knew when you was getting high, when she was drinking, when she stopped both. I know when she had her first encounter. I know all of her friends. I have been very active in her life and tried to stay close to her. Therefore, I've never felt the need to snoop. When she's angry with me, I give her, her space and when she feels like talking again she tells me what she wants me to know. I respect her privacy.

Parents wouldn't want people snooping through their things. Build a trusting relationship with your children and you won't have to invade their privacy!!

Answer 6

Nope and never did. I respected my kids privacy just as I taught them to respect other people's privacy. Only once did I ever snoop and that was because I had been given reason to snoop. My belief is, don't snoop if you don't want your kids snooping into your business. It's just like everything else, they learn from what we do. However, always having the option to snoop if given a reason is something that belongs only to the parents, never the child.

Answer 7

When I suspected my daughter was into some bad stuff/people,I looked around and found a few things were not what they should have been. I then asked her about it and she got a little ticked at me. I then explained to her that I do respect her privacy on MOST matters,but when it comes down to her safety,I will do ANYTHING to protect her. I explained what I found could lead to a life of misery and sickness. She thought about it a few days and then agreed that I was right and loves me for caring so much.

Answer 8

To be honest :
My daughter is pre -teen but I have a plan for her teenages.
Now I listen to her childish sayings and avoid to advise her.So it will be a habit for her to tell me her stories or asking for my advice.I try to put myself in her shoes then answer the best.
My parents liked to control me and it made me so smart to hide all the things they could not find even 1 tiny thing from me so I know it is useless to control the kids.I will just help if necessary.Some mistakes are urgent to learn about life.
but I am sure that if my daughter does not study well ,I will act in another way!

Answer 9

Yes I do but i limit my "snooping" to looking for specific things like drug paraphernalia, cigarette's, and evidence that my son has given his personal information to people over the Internet. I feel justified because as a parent it is my moral obligation to protect him, even from himself. If I run across something that I know he would consider personal and there is no evidence of the above mentioned items I leave it be. Children do deserve their privacy to the extent that they are not exposing themselves to danger.

Answer 10

Parents know alot of things but they also feel that they use to lie to their parents when they were young so there children do it to. I feel snooping doesn't solve anything because when they find something they don't like don't get mad. They looked for it and found it in my eyes.

My parents never snooped in my stuff, I always told them you look for what you wanna find.
Good Luck.

Answer 11

I do not snoop, but I do pick up the worst mess once in a while.

If I, however, would be lead to think that my teenager was into drugs or anythings like that I'd turn her room inside out to look for drug-utilities. Inside - out!