2006-06-21 07:50:58 · 64 answers · asked by Leigh 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Wow, you spent 18 months with a ******* loser!
2006-06-21 07:52:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
The real question: how do you deal with that?
There should have been signs, earlier on, that he didn't care about you. And the pathetic manner in which he handled the official breakup shows that he has (and had) no love or respect for you.
Since he cut you loose, all you can do now, is write to him and tell him what a hellish loser he is (among other things) --if that's the way he treats women, he'll never have a good relationship.
And make sure you empty your life and surroundings of anything to do with him. Do not attempt to retain him as a "friend."
Let me guess: his mother (and any sisters) and his friends tell everyone he's just great, but you have found out otherwise.
I'm not saying this, from a personal experience, but have a girl friend who suffered from a bad relationship.
Avoid those men who, in subtle ways, show that "it's all about them." For men, it's supposed to be "all about you, the woman."
2006-06-21 08:02:35 · answer #2 · answered by mrearly2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you deal with it.....well,
A) Be happy. I once heard about a dude who's chick of 4 years broke up with him in an email. Think how F**ked up that must have been. B) You don't "deal with it ". You don't even waste another second of thought on the demise of the relationship. If you were that worthless to the guy that he couldn't even face you, then you're wasting your time using energy still thinking about him or the relationship. C) Go get a couple of friends, go to a club...go have some fun.
PS...Ohhh....I also know of a neighbor lady who's boyfriend broke up with her in an email too. Only it wasn't that he was a coward. It was because he really didn't like her in the first place and it wasn't worth his time to him to really talk to her. Get the picture?
2006-06-21 08:05:50 · answer #3 · answered by For Real 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go out and have some fun. You need it. No man or boy is worth your tears if the break up with you on an email. That is being a chicken sh**, and that he didn't have the balls to tell you to yur face. So don't feel sad for that fool, you could do better. But wait for a while before you jump into another relationship. Learn from the mistake from the relationship that you just had. So, go have some fun, and forget him.
2006-06-21 07:56:35 · answer #4 · answered by dlbaca7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's infuriating! It shows absolutely no respect for the 18 months that you shared together. Being cowardly is not an excuse. There really is nothing you can do except suck it up, and move on and be grateful you only wasted 18 months and not 18 years with him.
I know it hurts but you can and will get over it.
2006-06-21 07:55:35 · answer #5 · answered by Brandy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's horrible! He really took a cowards way out of dealing with the situation. Understandably, breaking up is hard to do, but if he can't do it respectfully, try dealing with it by 1st realizing, it wasn't personal against you, even though it's hard to see that, it's true. Secondly, try to feel better knowing that he did you a favor! Someone who'd do something like that may also use poor judgement at other times, and it could end up hurting you more. Be sad for awhile, but then be glad he's gone!
2006-06-21 07:54:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he lived at least 100 hundred miles away, I could understand. If he is closer, then I think you should deal with the break up as best you can and see this as a gift. Imagine what life would be like with someone who doesn't have the common decency to face you. I've had "women" cut me off via e-mail and the telephone. Not only is it cowardly, it is selfish. But, my life is better without them in it.
2006-06-21 07:56:59 · answer #7 · answered by Awesome Bill 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry about that. Sounds like he didn't value your relationship or have respect for you as a woman. Have you responded? I suggest you don't. Cry and moap all you want but don't give respond. You've spent the last 18 month of your life with him, the least he could do is face you and be honest.
2006-06-21 07:55:19 · answer #8 · answered by itsme! 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's great news!
Why do I say that? Simple: you just found out that he's a coward, unable to face his problems, and unable to deal with conflict. You could have found this out once you were married, or had kids, or when something important was going on and you needed him -- but instead, he did it before any of that happened.
In short, since he has always been that type of guy (and you just didn't know it), good riddance to him. Move on.
2006-06-21 07:54:02 · answer #9 · answered by daveowenville 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Realize that hes probably too pathetic to be worthy of going out with you anyways if he needs to break up with you through an email. Go get a better guy and forget about your emailing loser.
2006-06-21 07:52:59 · answer #10 · answered by okronbon 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That was pretty cowardly. How much do you care for him? If you care a lot you can ask him to meet and talk it over. If you dont care especially for him - let him go.
It is important that you ask yourself this question carefully. You are of course hurt by the superficial way you are treated; but is your hurt feelings due to this or the sincere feeling of loss?
2006-06-21 07:51:58 · answer #11 · answered by Tones 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋