When my dh and I first met, I had stopped smoking and he was a smoker. I started smoking again since we were together all the time. Before having our first child, I stopped smoking and so did he. Then he started again and so did I. I stopped prior to finding out I was pregnant w/ our second child and have not started back but he wouldn't stop. I'm seeing problems in our children's health and wonder if it's to do with the smoking. It's also causing a lot of problems in our marriage because I hate that he smokes. The smell makes me want to puke and this doesn't bother him one bit. He still wants to love all over me yet I'm disgusted by the smell. What can I do to get him to stop? Knowing it affects our children's health doesn't seem to bother him nor does the fact that it's messing with our relationship.
2006-06-21 07:36:18 · 11 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
As a former smoker, you probably know how hard quitting is. I smoke, and I have tried to quit many times. That said, the answer is no. You can't make him stop smoking. He will do that when and if he is ever ready. Nagging him and making it an issue will only make tension in your relationship. His smoking is not what is messing with your relationship. Your not accepting him the way he was when you met him is messing with it. I know all about this, as my first husband and I fought about it all the time (before I smoked and he did). Give it up and live with it or leave. You can't change someone unless they want to change themselves.
2006-06-21 07:44:56 · answer #1 · answered by Okkieneko 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-18 00:37:00 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one should smoke around those who dont, because of health issues. My husband smokes, and although I dont like it, its one of those things where quitting is easier said than done, with certain people. The thing with my hub is, he is very considerate of me since I dont like the smell, and he keeps clean! He also doesnt smoke in our home either. So, maybe you could mention these things to your husband and meet you half way.
2006-06-21 07:45:05 · answer #3 · answered by Katz 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU can't stop him. He has to stop for himself...no matter the reason. If he doesn't care enough about the health of his children or the strain on the marriage his smoking causes then you need to be prepared to make a move without the black lunged man.
2006-06-21 07:55:10 · answer #4 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cut him off-tell him he stinks a turn off maybe that will get the picture-get some literature from your peds dr about smoking around kids and their health-the kids might as well start smoking too as much as they are around it-they say its like the same thing
2006-06-21 07:45:07 · answer #5 · answered by Lola 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure you support his decision but praising his efforts. Sure rewards are a good thing but at the end of the day you will be just as pleased if he is successful as he will be. Make him foods he likes and tone down any nagging that you normally may be inclined to do. He will be hyper sensitive to it. Do things to get his miund off the pain of quitting.
2016-03-15 14:01:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, you could insist that he take mints alot...dont harp on him about smoking (cause nothing puts a smoker in a defensive position quicker than ex-smoker telling them to quit) but make him work with you....raw carrots will help flush out the nicotine so feed him alot of that....alkaseltzer will help with cravings.....good luck!
2006-06-21 07:43:03 · answer #7 · answered by susuze2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not going to quit until he wants to.
Maybe get the Dr. to tell him he's killing his kids.
He should compromise - he's already quit once so he knows it's possible.
Tell him quit or you're taking the kids to your parents or away until he gets it through his thick @ss head he's hurting you & the kids.
2006-06-21 07:46:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will not get him to quit...only he can do that. Been there, done that, have the tee shirt...and I still smoke! This is one ugly habit to beat !
2006-06-21 07:51:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cant get him to stop he needs to quit on his own because he wants to. As a smoker myself as much as one wants to quit it is not easy. it is an addiction like drugs or alcohol. good luck
2006-06-21 09:57:56 · answer #10 · answered by JAYNE C 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋