My husband and I have been married for 13 years. We have a pretty good sex life, but it seems like such a chore for me. I enjoy it when it happens, but I have a difficult time getting in the mood to initiate anything. My hubby gets frustrated because he feels like he's almost "begging" me for some nookie. I have orgasms and he is very pleased afterwards, too, but I just have a hard time getting aroused. Please help!
2006-06-21 07:34:27 · 8 answers · asked by Babs 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My wife and I have been married for 11 years. At least once each month we get dressed up in somethnig sexy and go out to dinner! We talk about what were going to do once were home, by the time we get there, my clothes are off and we are having some incredible sex! Another thing we do is give each other weekly massages. You can use lotion, baby oil or nothing but lay there together nude and massage each other, this always leads to sex! Just make sure he gives you a good massage before getting to the best parts!
Have fun!
2006-06-21 09:25:48 · answer #1 · answered by Ekimo 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You said it is like a chore for you which would tell me your husband is not providing you with what turns you on and makes you get aroused. Maybe you need to be romanced, get erotic emails or notes, maybe you need him to tell you how much he desires and wants you etc. He may need to use more foreplay If you are not getting aroused but he is giving you the things you need to become aroused then it sounds like a normal thing that occurs with age and there are many products on the market that can help but have no guarantee's. There is also a chance that you have fallen out of love or you have some resentment towards your husband.
I personally don't need to be aroused to give to my boyfriend but this is me and you might be different and feel you have to be aroused to give.
2006-06-21 07:50:40 · answer #2 · answered by Sunshine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
please speak to your gynocologist there are medications and things for women tht will help you feel in the mood. Many women go through this as your not alone. For me it is reverse Im always chasing hubby down. But most of my friends feel the way you do and sometime your just tired which can be a issue in its self. Ask a dr for advice and there are hebal supplents and medicines availbel on line to help as well.
2006-06-21 07:49:28 · answer #3 · answered by smurfettewv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What has turned you on in the past? Do those things. Any particular idea or scenario that gets you in the mood? Find films or pictures with that stuff in it. There's gotta be something that gets you hot for ****. If not, then ever consider that you might be a lezzie? lol
2006-06-21 07:40:31 · answer #4 · answered by Stacy M 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Girllllllllllllllllll......been there and dune dat!!! Romance........Thats key....13 years is a long time to be with the same person therefore you MUST come up with creative ways to stimulate your spouse and him stimulate you..... I encourage you to search out what it is that turns you on sexually......also the things that your spouse may wear EX. cologne, sexy clothing, etc....
you gotta find what turns you on and then communicate that to your spouse......
and by all means...please dont just lay there!!! get into....and dont forget the passion.....
2006-06-21 08:00:14 · answer #5 · answered by sincere030170 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give him slow head for about 30 minutes then cover his body with whip cream and strawberry and eat it and lick it off him he will cry like a baby
2006-06-22 05:22:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try something new , roll playing , porn ? Maybe just getting away for the week end !
2006-06-21 07:47:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
same problem here
2006-06-21 10:32:44 · answer #8 · answered by **B** 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋