If a man beat a women; does she deserve it?

Question

I say yes, because if she accept it, she must have low life not to stand up for her rights. She is 35 years old, so she can work and care for herself. Why she would not leave and find a job? Why she play the poor and afraid or the love excuse?

Answer 1

So what are you saying?
You'll only respect her if she leaves you?
You'll only love her and not hit her if she leaves you?
Man you are really fukkd up.

Answer 2

Let me rephrase your question: If a man hits a woman with a baseball bat, does she deserve it? I say yes, because if she cries out in pain and fear, and isn't able to escape, then it's her fault.

What you're doing is called "blaming the victim".

Let's look at the rest of your question:

Q: Why would she not leave...

A: Fear, and/or not being able to support herself, and/or thinking that it's her fault and she should be able to stop it (it isn't, and she can't). She might also be co-dependent; perhaps her father beat her, and so she grew up thinking it's normal. Again, that doesn't make it right, or her fault.

Q: Why she play the poor [sic] and afraid of the love [sic] excuse?

No person can make a valid excuse for someone else's behavior, but that doesn't mean they won't try. She can make excuses on his behalf all she wants, but he beats her and nothing will change that.

Does that mean it's her fault? No. In situations of fear or duress, we often don't realize the extent to which we can control and change the situation we are in. She needs help.

Answer 3

OK, No a woman does not ever in any case deserve to be beat. The only men in this world who beat on women is the ones that can't fight a real man and win.He is a sorry excuse for a man. I would say that she is way to afraid of him to leave. Think about it. If someone beat the hell out of you all the time ,would you not be afraid of them?She is most likely afraid of what he will do if she leaves him and he finds her.

Answer 4

No way. I know a lot about this. Sometimes a woman stays because she has children to take care of, and is worried she will not be able to raise them alone. Or that they deserve to be with their father. Sometimes a person is just too afraid to be on their own, especially if they have been married or in a relationship most of their life. It takes a lot of courage to go out on your own when you are not used to living without another. Sometimes women really love the person abusing them, and hope they can change the person, or that the person will change on their own. There are many reasons women stay. Don't judge someone until you have walked in that person's shoes.

Answer 5

No, never. Nobody deserves that! but she really has a problem because she accept it, at least she let him to abuse of her self. Any woman is capable of protect and respect herself, but some of us think they can't.
I get angry with a woman who stays with a man who treats her bad and she only complain about him but doesn't release herself, but even that way I know she doesn't deserve bad treatment.
I think that women needs therapy and trained help.
And the man who hurts women only deserves jail.

Answer 6

Fear is what keeps her from leaving.........that and the opinions from others like you that make her think it is her fault and she deserves it. Sadly, there will always be those in society who try to take the easy way out, and make excuses for abuse instead of taking a stand and putting a stop to it.

Answer 7

No woman deserves a beating from a man. She may be too scared to leave or don't want to leave because she loves him and don't realize that she is in real danger

Answer 8

NO

No person ever deserves to be abused mentally or physically by anyone else.

but often women are beaten down emotionally before they are hit physically, and this damages their self-confidence to the point where they don't think they can make it on their own. But because they stay, it does NOT mean they deserve it.

Answer 9

No one ever deserves to be beaten, even those who are not strong enough to stand up for themselves.

I told my husband about abuse at the hand of an ex-boyfriend. He was dumb-founded!!! I am a strong, capable woman and would have NEVER thought I would have fallen victim to that! I never before did that and NEVER would again (although I don't have to worry about that with my husband). He couldn't believe that someone with my "STRONG" personality would even think of staying after the first "hint" of aubse. Just as an aside, the abuser sought help after I left. He found that it stemmed from having 5 older sisters who teased/tortured and treated him horribly. His attitude regarding women was "hurt them before they hurt you". He thanked me for my kindness and apologized profusely. I commend him for that.

The abuser is most often-times a wonderful manipulator. They eat away at you little bit by little bit...you don't even notice. They are often VERY NICE and caring and wonderful. And are masters at making you feel that any physical outburst by them was completely your fault. Slowly but surely you begin to doubt yourself and cling to the "good times". Sometimes you want to "fix" them. Sometimes you convince yourself that it won't happen again because everything's been "fixed".

It's amazing.

Answer 10

Dude, you are responsible for your own actions. You are not the Right Arm of God to be deciding what people deserve, much less be dishing out rewards and punishments. If you don't want to be married to her, then divorce her. If you're not married, and don't want to pay her bills, tell her to leave. Continue down this path, you will eventually find yourself in prison for assault, and rightfully so.

No one has the kind of power over you to "make" you commit the crime of assault. You CHOOSE to be violent and will be held responsible for this choice.

Answer 11

No person has the right to beat another for any reason. However if I am hit by another person first...I hit back regardless of their gender. It's a two way street.