What are you views on premarital and casual sex?

Question

Would you ever consider celibacy? If so, why or why not?

Answer 1

In the eyes of society, premarital intercourse is probably not a big deal. In my eyes and the eyes of God, it's a big no no, and can result in life changing events thet people aren't ready to handle yet. Especially unplanned pregnancies leading to single parent families, another downer to a successful family.

Answer 2

I'm "old fashioned" & was raised in a Christian home where I was taught that sex is something to be shared between a husband & a wife.

In todays society people treat sex as if it's a game or a hobby...whatever feels good then do it.

Not me.

If I were single, celibacy would be the way to go.

As a married woman I'm glad I waited, this was the ultimate gift that a newly married couple could give & share with each other.

Sexual capatibility? Everyone acts like it's a pair of shoes they're trying on to see if they fit!

FIRST a man & woman needs to decide if they are capatible as a couple ... THEN they can decide whether they are ready for a sexual relationship.

If a capatible couple feels they're having sexual problems, they either need to try to work it out together personally or seek professional help.

Answer 3

My views on premarital and casual sex are generally positive. No one buys a car without test driving it first. I don't think celibacy is a good thing since it leads to a lot of frustration and negative feels. Celibates who still date around, but don't put out are cuntteases and cocksteases and should definitely be avoided.

Answer 4

I'm no hyprocrite, I've had premarital sex and plenty of it. However, I would now advise any young girl who would listen to save it for marriage. STDs and pregnancy not withstanding, the mental and emotional side of giving your body to someone is so great and in most cases we simply aren't ready. It's an awesome burden and having your heart broken by a loser who just wanted your "goodies" is tremendous heartache. It's simply not worth it.

Celibacy probably only works great for someone who has never had sex, though I know of one person who is celibate. It's hard. I wish I could do it, I would love not to have to deal with guys and the emotional stress ever again, but I'm too weak and the desire is too strong. The physical part of sex alone is great, its dealing with all the other stuff that's hard.

Answer 5

I believe that celibacy is appropriate for some people during certain phases in their lives; be it by choice or not, there are simply times when sex just makes things too complicated. I don't believe that any sex is casual because it has always been my belief that women use sex to get love and men use love to get sex. I think that if two consenting adults choose to make love during their courtship phase then there is nothing wrong with that, and if they choose a one night stand their is nothing wrong with that but it can cause issues to arise in their lives that may not be as pleasant as the physical experience was.

Answer 6

Ok, first off, a joke:

If your not planing to marry them, then its technically not premaritial sex.

Onwards: So long as you are an ADULT (read: out of school, and 18+ years old) and safe (protection), there isn't a da(rn) thing wrong with sex. Whether it be premaritial, casual or other. Practice sex tastefully, not trampy. Don't sleep with every thing on 2 legs. Have some standards. Smart, funny, attractive, well-spoken, whatever floats your boat. But have standards.

Don't use sex as a way to get attention-there is no class in that. And having not having class is never attractive.

Celibacy: underage-be celibate. Once an adult (see definition above), you are free to make your own choices. Choices have consequences. Consequences can be good or bad. Make good choices, and the consequences will follow likewise. Make bad choices, and the same follows suit.

And who in their right mind would decide on whether or not to marry a person with out finding out how they are in bed?

Life is just too short to spend with a lousy lover. ;-)

Answer 7

I'm fine with both, and my religion doesn't frown on consensual sex either (fsm). Casual sex, while mainly for entertainment purposes, can often lead to relationships when that spark is there between a couple!

Premarital between a couple that is thinking of getting married is important, so you don't marry an unskilled dud and have to go cheating to get what you want!

Also, considering premarital sex with others, it is useful to have sex with someone older that can really show you the ropes, so that you know what you are doing when you finally settle down with that special someone, perhaps the last person you will sleep with. You wouldn't want to be an unskilled dud in bed and have your partner have to go cheating on you to get what they need!

Answer 8

I would not consider celibacy, because I don't want to! Premarital sex is fine if you understand the risks and take precautions. If you want to have kids before marriage, go for it! Families are changing in the 21st century, no need to cling to old ideas.

Answer 9

I have been celibate for three year stretches (twice in my lifetime). It was a WONDERFUL time in my life. Sex is NOT all that it is "cracked up" to be. If women were really honest about CASUAL sex, they would tell you that 90%of the time they don't even get an orgasm out of it, so WHY DO IT? Being celibate gives a person a chance to really think about their own worth. When you KNOW you won't be having sex to MESS things up, then you concentrate on the things that really matter. If I could go back in time and relive my own life, I would NOT have sex till I was married. And then, it would only be with the man I married. When we "sleep around", we can compare men, and we don't really LEARN anything. How wonderful it would be to KNOW only one man and not be able to compare him to any others. When you save yourself for the man you marry, you are giving that special someone the most precious gift, and you LEARN together. THAT is the beauty of waiting on the person you want to spend your life with.

Answer 10

Premarital and casual sex are wrong in my opinion. I feel that people who wait are sharing with their spouse something that they haven't shared with anyone as it should be. We weren't created to go off and have sex with anything or anyone who is or isn't willing, we were created in the vision of God to be fruitful and multiply but with the ONE person we marry. That's why the whole "til death do us part' is included in wedding vowes. I am married so I can't answer the second part of your question. I really do feel that people in general take sex way too lightly these days, especially the younger people. Teens have so much pressure on each other to be the first one to do things and that if they haven't done things their friends have done, they chastise them until they feel completely left out or go ahead and do what everyone else has done. It's really sad!

Answer 11

Premarital sex, no. Casual sex, only with my wife. Celibacy, too late i'm married.