I make 60k a year. My ex makes 20k. She is giving me full custody of our 2 kids. How much support should I get

Question

When she had full I was paying $1500 + medical. I am only asking for $300 from her for our teen boys.....I will still cover medical. Does that sound fair to you?

I'd like to add that we went BK giving her more than 1/2 my pay when we were giving her $1500 a month. My new wife and I have 3 kids together, so we would need some kind of financial contribution. She should be expected to support her kids jsut like I was!

BTW the reason she is giving me custody is because she wants to marry some DR. who does not like kids.

The calcualtor for our state said she should be paying about $440 a month (she has another job, but I am not sure what she makes there, so I don't include it)

Last poster-It didn't do much to her-she practically begged us to take them

OK, OK, I see my error...........my ex actually makes 35K a year on her full time job. Sorry, I was running some numbers on the side here and put the wrong amount as her income

OK........well how about this. If I were a WOMAN asking this question I would not have gotten ANY of that "Well just let him cover____ and call it even, since you make more than he does"

SUPPORT FAIR TREATMENT OF FATHERS IN COURTS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 1

Ask a lawyer for advice as it varies from state to state how much she is required to pay a month.

Answer 2

The laws are biased towards a certain gender, we cannot dispute that. Fair is fair, she should be paying Child Support. Think about this, if she gave you full custody just so she could get married to some rich Doctor, then why take money from her. She obviously cares more about her well-being than the kids. You are a man! You can make it with what you earn. Unless you really really need the money then go ahead with it, but other than there is no need to. Make sure if you take money from her it is because you really need it.

I think she has a cold heart!

Answer 3

Let's do some math. $60K - $18K = $42K. You don't mention how much the medical coverage costs. If you are already covering children from another marriage, it's not much. If you remain "single" and childless, adding the kids to your own coverage is probably $2K ot $5K a year. So even if we go with the highest number, you're still left with $37K a year.

Now let's look at your ex wife's income. $20K - $3.6K = $16,400, or less than half your own "after support" income. Do you want the mother of your children to be living so close to the poverty line? That sounds punitive to me.

Considering the discrepancy in earning power, I'd ask for much less, possibly no cash support at all. Allow her to contribute in other ways, such as watching the boys on some weekends or providing occasional services like driving them to and from the dentist.

Answer 4

If everyone would have read the rest of your post stating that she makes more than 20k a year maybe you would have gotten some better answers. Anyway, it is more than a fair offer. I dont understand why the man always has to pay out the butt when it comes to child support. but when the shoe is on the other foot, the woman is always made out to be pityful and cannot support herself. She is marrying a DOCTOR. does that mean anything to you people. I would go for the full amount that your state approves. My state is 14% for one child, 22 % for two. Good luck!

Answer 5

Yes, that is fair. I myself should have been getting child support from my ex-wife for the last twelve years but never have. If the roles were reversed, you know I would have had to pay. On that note, since she was somehwat unstable, having the knowledge of all the back child support she owed, kept her from getting out of hand and kept things more civil. Sure, she is fine now but it truly did help then. I am not saying that every situation is the same though. Either way, fair is fair. Good luck.

Answer 6

I couldn't give you an exact figure for child support, but I certainly think she should have to help you support the children, after all she did help create them. If there is an understanding between the two of you concerning support, then you need to get that in writing, and file it with the court. That way you are covered.
Just because she is a woman DOES NOT make her exempt from paying child support. There are too many dead beat parents out there, not just dead beat Dads.

Answer 7

Well, what I would do, and I do beleave that you are entitled to some support, especially since she is marrying a doctor, is I would basically just calculate how much food, and clothing costs, and go for that. Kind of like if it is raising your food bill lets say, 300 a month, and kids like clothes that are well...lets say another 3-500 every six months, I would go with about 650-700 a month. You have to remember, that your going to have to put back for their college educations as well should they decide to go, so if you ask for 700 a month, you can put at least half of that back into a special account for that. So yes I do beleave that men have pleanty of rights to ask for support. I mean she is marrying a doctor so she will have more than enough to spare for it.

Answer 8

If she is giving up her kids for a spouse any amount is fair,my ex did the same and has never paid a dime and my kids are 22,17 ,and 15 now it may seem like I'm bitter but if I had done that to her I would be behind bars and I accept that.But the issue is the kids not her,get the money.

Answer 9

I think you are being more than fair to her..

If she wants to give up her kids to marry a Dr. who doesn't like kids then she not much of a women anyway..

I think you should stick it to her azz... You still have a family to raise and just because she wants to enjoy life and not her kids then she should pay and maybe more than she wants.. Dr. Daddy can pay the difference.. It doesn't matter how much money you make your not running out on your kids for a piece of azz..

She's a trashy *** bitzh that needs to pay..

You stand your ground..

Congrats on being a great father..
Wish you well..
Hang in there it will all come out in your favor..

Answer 10

Sounds fair..Doesn't sound fair to the kids that their mom is choosing a guy over them b/c he doesn't like kids. That's sad. Either he accepts my kids and me..Or nothing.

Try talking to your kids and see how they feel about the situation. Do they know the truth why they are moving with you? If so, consider counseling or just talk to them to learn how they feel.
Good luck!
Some Doctors.. make around $60-$80 a year..Again, the depends on what kind of Doctor he is..Regardless he still sounds like a jerk!

Answer 11

My answer is, why should she get the breaks, because she is a woman? No. People accuse men of being "deadbeat dads" for not being able to afford paying CS. So, get support from her. It's a fair offer, and I don't see why you should not accept money. They are still her kids and she needs to help support them, too. Even if she only sees them EOW, a man would have to do the same.