I got alot of guy friends and people said that i dont need my guy friends cuz i have a boyfriend. But the thing about it i grew up with all them. I think aint nothing wrong with it but i need someone opinion
2006-06-21 07:04:10 · 26 answers · asked by newyorkshorty_9595 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Listen to "nyc_ladydragon.."
She KNOWS what she is talking about.
People who tell you its ok to have a bunch of guys hanging around as "just friends" are telling you what it would be like in an ideal world where everyone is honest and jealousy doesn't exist.
Since we live in the real world, its all about perception. If you havent already started working and living in the world, one of the first things you learn is to avoid "even the appearance of impropriety(wrongdoing)" even if you are not doing wrong.
Respect and protect yourself and your guy.
Look at situations as they are, not as some of the other girls on here wish they were.
No guy will put up with it for long and no girl will put up with her guy having a bunch of females hanging around him as "just friends", discussing you with them when you aren't around and "having fun".
2006-06-21 08:14:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's nothing wrong with having friends. If these are people you grew up with then I find nothing wrong with it. I am married and I still have my friends. They are now not only my friends but my husbands as well. it's called respect. You had a life before you had a boyfriend. that's selfish for him to ask you to leave them all alone. it only sounds like there needs to be some growing up here. don't leave your friends. You may not end up with this guy but if these are true friends then they will still be there.
2006-06-21 07:10:32 · answer #2 · answered by LisaMarie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes and no. Yes becuase they were the people you grew up with, but no becuase you are neglecting you relationship with your boyfriend. He will start thinking that you are cheating on him and even though you are'nt, he may think its ok to have a lot of female friends and then you might wonder if he is cheating on you with them too. If those guy friends respect you, they would say hi and keep it moving because in a relationship, its just about you and you bf, not about other people. Distractions come in all forms - not saying that your friends arent bad people, but you have to focus on you relationship. Too many relationships are broken because of friends that interfere or the bf or gf letting the friends put thier input in YOUR relationship and not you. But still, respect your bf and yourself by keeping the guy friend-relationship to a minimum.
best of luck to you.
2006-06-21 07:13:10 · answer #3 · answered by nyc_ladydragonsamauri007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As for what you're being instructed, has your boyfriend given you any reason to imagine this stuff? also, in case you particularly are severe along with your boyfriend then you favor to inform your buddy that if he respects then you he might want to step back and provide you a chance to be certain on your own in case you pick to proceed your relationship along with your boyfriend on your own. both way, the buddy appears like he's attempting each and every thing he can to redirect you in the route of him. In time, no matter if that is meant to be then that is going to ensue, if no longer then a minimum of you gave it some concept. sturdy luck
2016-10-20 11:22:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of men don't like the idea of their girlfriend having guy friends no matter how few or many (my boyfriends included). My boyfriend's thinking is that the temptation of another guy is to great. So he prefers that I have none. I myself have a few. You have to find a way to be repsecful of his wishes but not compromise yourself.
2006-06-21 07:11:02 · answer #5 · answered by hlfpntoct 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, unless your guy friends are gay, I don't believe in straight male/female friendships because there's always a chance of sex. There's always a risk of ending up falling in love with them and them falling in love with you and then it can jeapordize your current relationship. Not to mention, that if your boyfriend gets jealous that you have a bunch of friends of the opposite sex and he might even get suspicious as to why you are spending alot of time with them and not with him. Now put yourself in your boyfriends position. How would you like it if your boyfriend had a bunch of female friends and they were also attractive but your boyfriend says "Oh I grew up with them. We're cool. They're not my type". I bet you would get jealous as well. That's why I don't believe in male/female friendships if I'm already in a committed relationship. I, too, had several male friends while dating my boyfriend and those male friends wanted to get together with me while I just wanted to just stay friends. Well I'm not friends anymore with those male friends because we grew apart. I'm not saying you should or you shouldn't have male friends but you should think about the pro's and con's about it while already being in a relationship.
2006-06-21 07:13:44 · answer #6 · answered by choosinghappiness 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes when u have a lot of guy friends its creates problems for u and ur guy thats why people say u dont need them but once u r not doing anything wrong with them its cool to hang around with them.
2006-06-21 07:12:25 · answer #7 · answered by pOOhPhAT 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you seriously don't have any feelings for your guy friends and they don't try to make moves on you, then I say it's alright. If you knew them before you met your boyfriend, then it's fine.
2006-06-21 10:44:18 · answer #8 · answered by brd 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is fine. You shouldnt have to give up your "guy" friends for anyone. Your man should be friends with them as well. Unless he is jealous, then no point anyway.
Because it all boils down to this..
If you dont have trust...you dont have anything.
2006-06-21 07:28:27 · answer #9 · answered by mikkib08 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is great to have as many as you want. the more people you know the smarter you get. and along the way you jest might meet a real MAN. good luck
2006-06-21 07:11:30 · answer #10 · answered by firecoonbiz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋