It always seems that as much as you want to avoid drama it follows you closer than your own shadow. It pisses me off because i want to be the bigger person and avoid arguments, confrontations etc. because i wanna be mature about this. I know that i'm not in high school anymore therefore i want my actions to show it but it's just so hard sometimes to be the bigger person. No matter how much i try giving in and just going down to her level always seems so much easier. A person can only shrug off and avoid so much before they reach their breaking point. My bf's ex is the biggest pain in the a$$. She runs her mouth more than a motor and i guess she loves the attention but i can only take so much of her crap...ughh she's so freaking immature and she's 21, well she sure doesn't act like it. Any words of encouragement?
2006-06-21 07:01:35 · 4 answers · asked by Mia A 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I know exactly what you mean. I'm 26 and have had to perform a major life overhaul myself. I got to the point that i did'nt want to hang out with a bunch of people that drank and got high all day and really did'nt have anything to offer. I cut them all off except for 2 friends. I got new friends. It's hard cause people are going to say that you're stuck up or you think you're better than everybody else but the truth is.....These people don't have anything to do with you. They don't pay your rent, they don't buy your clothes, they don't put gas in your car and they don't have anything to offer you anymore.
It's a good thing that you want to be more mature. It shows you're ready for personal growth and advancement. As far as your bestfriends ex.....Refuse to have that person in your sphere. You always have control on who you want to be in your personal space. If that person shows up...Bounce! Don't allow that person in your home, in your car or at your table. If they wanna know why...Tell 'em. You annoy me, I don't like you and your values don't mesh with mine and I find you offensive. You have the right not to be bothered by people. Stand up. You'll be fine. Best of luck.
2006-06-21 08:06:44 · answer #1 · answered by ilah23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe thats why he got rid of her! If he is with you and you are secure don't worry about it. She sounds like she does this for attention. If she is doing all of this to you then maybe your boyfriend needs to say something, otherwise, no matter how hard it is be the bigger person, you will thank yourself later!
2006-06-21 07:06:56 · answer #2 · answered by fuzzyfatrabbit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-31 06:06:51 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was very impressed with what ilah23 (hope I got that right) had to say - listen to her.
Know that the high road is harder because it's the one that leads to growth - the easy way never really gains you anything because you didn't have to work at it.
2006-06-21 09:33:37 · answer #4 · answered by Crooks Gap 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋