So I'm in this situation where I have to figure out whether or not to move on or not. There was this guy that I was seeing, and right now we're just playing the friend game, but there is a possibility of us getting into a relationship once he has his "ducks in a line". But I've also met a guy recently who I connect with as well. And it seems like I could have a good relationship with him if I give him the chance. My question is what do you do when you're torn like this? Do I go out with guy #2 and probably miss my chance of dating guy #1 ever again, but there's a chance I could be really happy with 2, or do I wait for guy #1 to get his ducks in order and just be single for awhile?
2006-06-21 07:00:15 · 14 answers · asked by Carrie P 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Never wait for a guy to "get his ducks in a line." Relationships are supposed to be fluid and encompassing - waiting until "the time is right" is just another way of announcing that he is not ready - not for you at least, and maybe not for anybody. Go out with #2 and see where it takes you. If #1 "gets his ducks in a' row (sheesh) then maybe he will come back around and - if he does - THEN you will have to see where you stand in your own life. You may be so "over" #1 that you'll wonder why you even considered waiting for him.
2006-06-21 07:05:58 · answer #1 · answered by two 4 · 8⤊ 0⤋
Right now #2 sounds like the best. #1 sounds like there may be some drama involved. Trust me the last thing you want to deal with is drama. I would go out with guy #2 because he already has his ducks in line. You do not even know when #1 is going to even get his life in order. Later on down the road if things do not work out with #2 guys always seem to find out that you are available. Like women they have their network of friends with daily information. Go with 2 and enjoy life. Noone should have to wait for another person to get their life in order. That right there is a red flag waving to you like a strong breeze in the wind. A serious red flag. Pay attention to these little signs that are there and you will be ok.
2006-06-21 07:07:38 · answer #2 · answered by Rooster 1972 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you never know what the situation is going to bring you.. Life is too short to wait and you might also miss out on the read deal by waiting. Go for the other guy and see what he is all about. You prolly still have time to see if he is what you are looking for while waiting on the one to get his ducks fixed.
2006-06-21 07:31:40 · answer #3 · answered by amazincajn_99 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why can't you be honest with both of them & tell them you aren't into steady dating right now, & that you want the freedom to go out with whoever you want, whether it be #1, #2, someone you just met, a co-worker, a friend or the girls!
This will give you time to find out who's right, who's not & who has their ducks in a row.
Don't commit yourself if you aren't ready, becaue if you date just one, then you'll NEVER know!!!
:-)
2006-06-21 07:05:45 · answer #4 · answered by petuniablues 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on! Guy # 1 might not ever get his ducks in a line....time's wasting! Go for guy #2, and see how life is with him. Don't ever sit around waiting on somebody..........Life is TOO short! Good Luck!
2006-06-21 07:08:35 · answer #5 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have fun, botttom line, just HAVE FUN,
the 1st guy with his ducks in line, seems to me as a "player" type, or just not so into you, or if he was , then he would dump the other DUCKS and get with you..
but the 2nd guy, if hes a nice guy, give him a shot, i mean, its really up to you, but if you feel chemistry and the the other guy is busy with his duckies, then just try the 2nd guy out...
i perfer you dont committ yourself....stay sngle unless you absolutely KNOW for a fact that that is what you wanna do..
i mean, you can always call it quits if you decide to chagne your mind, or when your the next duck in line... right?
2006-06-21 07:05:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe guy #1 is shy and it will take time for him to take it to the 2nd level, I suggest you make the first move and talk to him, if that doesnt work out you still have the chance with guy #2.
2006-06-21 07:04:39 · answer #7 · answered by RICARDO M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Date them both. Tell them you are dating the other. And that's all you're doing. Dating. What rule is there that says you can only date one person at a time? Date them both until you figure out which one will make you happier.
2006-06-21 07:03:42 · answer #8 · answered by SassySours 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it really depends. Which of them does is physically bother you when you think about not EVER seeing them or talking to them again? Also, it depends upon your age. Anything under 25 or so don't make the choice, just go with the flow cause you still have time.
2006-06-21 07:05:42 · answer #9 · answered by kdywhoo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see why you can't see them both. You are single. That's called dating. I am not talking about sex in any way. Go on dates with them. See witch one you are more compatible with then decide. Your young, no need to settle down now. Just be happy.
2006-06-21 07:06:30 · answer #10 · answered by JACK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋