responses. Or it will destroy further whatever little of his marriage is subsisting. I am married for 30 years..
2006-06-21 06:46:07 · 12 answers · asked by mann54 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Um, I suppose it CAN, but why you would take this risk after 30 years of fidelity I can't imagine. There are so many other ways to rejuvenate your marriage and yourself that don't involve throwing away your marriage. Have you tried talking to your wife about your boredom? She might be feeling the same thing, but just hasn't said anything a bout it. If you want your marriage to be different, then make some changes. Tell her what you want. If she wants you to be happy, she'll do what it is that you're asking, so long as she thinks it's reasonable. If not, and she doesn't appear to be interested in making any changes, at the very least you should go to counseling -- alone if she won't go with you.
I don't know what state you're in, but just remember that if this blows up in your face and she wants a divorce, you'll be giving her half of everything you both have worked to acquire. Ask yourself if an affair is worth it. When you realize that it's not, then get to work making your marriage what you want it to be. It's not just going to make itself into that without your input, you know.
Good luck!
2006-06-21 06:57:59 · answer #1 · answered by Judgie C 3 · 7⤊ 0⤋
Cheating is destructive. Are you willing to become an adulterer? That will stick with you forever. How can one feel rejuvinated when they have violated their wife and their vows in such a horrible way?
An affair takes time, money and LOADS of brain-power to keep it secret and contain your demons. Why not spend a tenth of that time/energy/money on your wife and your marriage? Put some work into THAT and you will be blessed.
We all get in our "rut" at some point. It happens in the best and happiest of marriages. But do you want to have a typical/usual/expected marriage? Or do you want to have something that will blow you away?
Healthier in, healthier out. Garbage in, garbage out.
Stand up, be a man and lead your family. And you have to make the decision if you are going to lead your marriage into healthier and happier times or if you are going to lead it to doom and despair.
2006-06-21 07:13:00 · answer #2 · answered by iam1funnychick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now a days an extramarital affair can make your dick explode dude. Spark up your marriage and leave the affairs to the losers. G' luck!
2006-06-21 06:50:03 · answer #3 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it, it will destroy EVERYTHING in your marriage. Why not talk to her and tell her how you feel. Tell her you both need to put a little spark into your sex life. Talking, opening up to your partner solves alot more than an affair. Your asking for trouble if you go that way.
2006-06-21 07:58:05 · answer #4 · answered by older&wiserforit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obvisously you haven't asked her yourself. Would you agree for her to be with another man?? It'll seem like it's rejuvenating something with your wife, but it's only your selfish needs wanting to be met. It'll cause more pain and drama than you can probably imagine. No good deed goes unpunished. One affair won't do it for you either. You'll want to continue or it'll lead to more. Fix what you have already. 30 years is amazing!
2006-06-21 06:55:59 · answer #5 · answered by meghanw1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you just now bored after 30 years, it can't be all that bad. To answer your question, yes it will ruin what is left of the marriage. Sit down and talk to her....she will appreciate the honesty and the love you feel for being faithful.
2006-06-21 06:51:08 · answer #6 · answered by Tangled Web 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that women do not respond very well to what I am going to suggest, but you need to talk to your wife about this. She needs to know how you feel about your life with her. If this does not get you what you want, DO NOT cheat on your wife. You either deal with it or you leave her. Most men cheat because it's easier than dealing with the truth with their wives and because it's easier than leaving and going through a divorce. Believe me that talking and making a decision about what you want is easier than her finding out your cheating and your world blowing up.
2006-06-21 06:54:14 · answer #7 · answered by writeroftheyear1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
absolutely do not do it. get counselling, talk to her about your desires, think back to what made you attracted to her 30 years ago and see the good in her each day. Do not focus on the little nits and negative habits that may be your focus today. None of us are perfect so just look for the good.
2006-06-21 06:54:57 · answer #8 · answered by Johnny O 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be a bad idea. Maybe go away together and explain that you are looking for more excitement.
Women are difficult at times. If you want more in the bedroom from her, treat her better out of the bedroom. :) Good luck!
2006-06-21 06:50:33 · answer #9 · answered by Katherine M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
affairs only make matters worse, why don't you buy a book with some new positions and take your wife away for the weekend and don't leave the hotel room..... just have fun rekindling your love
2006-06-21 06:52:09 · answer #10 · answered by mimismom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋