2006-06-21 06:43:37 · 7 answers · asked by Aint No Bugs On Me 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
That's rather vague...is there a situation that you're hoping to be charming in?
I don't know...perhaps smiling a genuine smile a lot will help. Being sweet. Being involved in a conversation. Genuinely caring about the people you are around. Being genuinely interested in the people you are with...
You know, the recurring theme here seems to be "being genuine".
Be true to your self...be nice and courteous and you'll be 90% towards the "charming" goal you have.
2006-06-21 06:48:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Remember that in the long run, folks may not remember the things that you said or did, but they will always remember how you made them feel.
Making them feel good about themselves is the most charming that you can be. You don't need to be lying to their faces to make them feel good, but there are positive things that you can say that will make them believe that it isn't just you who see them this way, that maybe others do, too - and that makes them feel good! Charm - its a tool.
Gossiping and backstabbing and a generally gloomy attitude are NOT charming. But you can be charming without being a goody two shoes, either. The best charmers seem open and friendly, but still maintain an air of mystery - that there are things about them they will never share - this has the added benefit of making folks believe that they could even maybe tell you their secrets and you wouldn't tell anybody else. This could benefit you in many ways, particularly in business.
Charm works best as an overall package, and has taken many people very far in their lives. Eventually it will be something that you don't have to work at, it just comes naturally; then you truly ARE charming.
Best of luck!
2006-06-21 17:12:37 · answer #2 · answered by Crooks Gap 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know its nice to get an answer that instantly solves a problem, but with something like charm, its better to be confident as a person inside yourself first. If you feel comfortable in the way you look, the way you dress and the way you act, your confidence will start to rub off on other people, and that will be the most charming thing of all.
Obvious things to avoid are things like, dont treat people in a way you wouldn't want to be treated; dont look down on anyone because of physical appearances - some of the most genuine and amazing people are ones that struggle themselves with their inner confidence, as it makes them stronger, and if you spend a few moments with them, you will start to feel better and more charming thanks to them. I think...
2006-06-21 14:01:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually, people either seem to be (a) independent and assertive, but rude and impolite, or (b) kind and considerate, but weak, whiney, and emotionally needy.
I think the key is to combine the best from the two above, but discard the worst. In other words, be independent and assertive, and also kind and considerate at the same time. Discard the rude, impolite, weak, whiney, and emotionally needy properties.
2006-06-24 02:02:52 · answer #4 · answered by drw311 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You just need to be yourself. If you want to pick up somoens atention, try to dress yourself better and be cheerfull but not to much.
2006-06-21 13:53:24 · answer #5 · answered by Mel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a gift not a lesson to learn. You either have it or you do not.
2006-06-21 13:46:59 · answer #6 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't try to be some one else. be your self. there is some one for every one. you just have to look for them.
2006-06-21 13:47:36 · answer #7 · answered by Emily 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋