what would be the best solution if both partners do love each other so much but there are just differences that can't be change and comes in their way. and these differences make them bitter to themselves and to each other. do they have to part ways? or to try to work things out for another chance. it's been almost 5 years since they're together as married couple.
2006-06-21 06:41:56 · 23 answers · asked by camcam 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Is compromise a possibility here Camcam? If neither person can change for what ever reason, can these two people understand that and compromise on it. They will accept eachothers differences and together make an effort not to let these things come up within the relationship. I am usually big on talking to each other about what is affecting us but if this can't be helped here then they need to accept each other for who they are and make compromises. I wish them luck
2006-06-21 06:45:05 · answer #1 · answered by Ekimo 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
wow that sounds EXACTLY like my relationship! Well this couple has made it for 5 long years. So evidently, they know how to overlook the problem(s). The question here is how much they love each other. If they let things get in the way of THEIR marriage, then they dont love each other, well at least not enough. So is it love? hmmm 5 years. They can always say it was good while it lasted if it is starting to decrease their happiness as individuals. and hence, move on. But it might be hard to move out of a 5 year relationship because finding someone else later on down the road to learn all ur strengths and weaknesses may take quite a while. So they might actually just end up back together anyway. Perhaps a break will help. (thats what me and my boyfriend are doing). A break will not only give them time to think but most likely help them find a new found respect and appreciation for one another.
hope i helped :)
2006-06-21 13:51:37 · answer #2 · answered by thats_life07 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been in exactly the same position!! When you end up living like brother and sister! Trying to be nice, thinking every few days that you will really try and make it work..Only ever lasts for a few days and then you end up sniping at one another again! My ex husband and I still love each other but in a different way...The best thing we ever did was to make the break..It was the best thing for the kids too...Kids pick up on everything...Now we are the best of friends..Not together but just mates..Visit and help eachother out, but certainly no relationship! I realy think it is best to make the break before things get bitter and you cant even have a friendship. x
2006-06-21 17:08:51 · answer #3 · answered by danjoelucy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think marriage counseling sounds like the best option. They need to find out what is causing the tension and fix it. To me it sounds like they resent each other for something that they think the other person did or made them do and aren't happy with themselves or maybe the situation that they are in. If they truly love each other then why are they hurting the other person. They don't need another chance. They need to work on this time!
2006-06-21 13:50:36 · answer #4 · answered by brittme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are so many types of love. You can tell anyone you love them, but to be "in love" is what you need for a marriage. But even if your in love with that person, if there are differences that cannot be resolved, then it doesn't make for a good marriage. If there is a chance that somehow, someway the differences can be resolved then do that, if not, then it's better to set each other free.
2006-06-21 15:05:45 · answer #5 · answered by older&wiserforit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie if these people are your parents you should sit down and talk to them. Tell them you want them to act like a married couple. Ask them what did they feel about each other when they first got married. Then if they say something sweet. ask them what went wrong, If it becomes into an agrument. Tell them they are behaving like teens and they should handle it like adults and talk it out. And maybe they'll have some new good differences. I wish you the best. If this doesn't work talk out there problems with them.
2006-06-21 13:52:02 · answer #6 · answered by adaml93 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After 20 years of marriage I have learned sometime there are just differences - both partners have to accept the differences and try not to discuss them. If you can't accept them as "differences" then you will always be bitter and that's not fair to you or your spouse.
2006-06-21 13:45:28 · answer #7 · answered by want2no 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first thing you don't change each other.you work together and try to help each other out and talk .i have been marry ed 19yrs and if both ppl can do this thy have a marriage that will last take time to make it worth wild .dont gave up.you marryed each other becouse you loved each other and you wanted stay with each .life to short throw away a good thing when you think its turning bad.ever 1 has there ups and downs work with each other and you will see why love is true.
2006-06-21 13:50:48 · answer #8 · answered by daydreamer315 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they should stay married, the only thing is they shouldnt spend time together during times they are dealing with things they are disagreeing apart. for instance, if they argue over tv shows, they should not watch them together. it is neither spouses job to control the other spouse, no matter the reason, attempting to stop someone from doing something is wrong, even if what they are doing is wrong. Just do what you like doing together together. If its money, stick to separate checking accounts, and don't bother the other about how they spend their money. If the love is there, i know the couple can do it!
2006-06-21 13:46:11 · answer #9 · answered by bonkti 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say at least try to work it out..you made a promise if u love each other then it is ur job to make the other person happy..sometimes that means sacrificing a habit or 2.the other persons happiness should mean more to u than "whatever the diffences are"
2006-06-21 13:47:20 · answer #10 · answered by His 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋