My ex-husband and I have always been so close and it seems that we've finally grown apart. It sounds funny but we've always had a blessed relationship. Just because we couldn't be together anymore, it never meant that we stopped loving each other. But now, we've both moved on but I can not help that everyday now, I agonizingly miss and want him more.We've had our times, during lunch, a few stollen moments but now it's all stopped. I've been in a new relationship but it doesn't compare to what I had by any means. Now he wants to try his luck again out there, after grieving for two years over our divorce, but all I know is that I would do anything for us to rewind to where it was before we seperated. We've become such different people and our new lives are destroying us by bad decisions and his newly found excessive alcohol abuse...I have this sick fantasy that we can "save each other" am I just being outrageously spoiled wanting him back or could this actually happen?
2006-06-21 06:34:53 · 9 answers · asked by Juniper N 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Has he turned to alcohol because of the divorce or was there an alcohol problem and that is why you divorced? If he has just started abusing alcohol because of the divorce, maybe you can help him through this if he wants your help. I believe a divorced couple can get back together and have a wonderful life together. Once your divorced from that person, you see what you gave up, you see the mistakes you made in the marriage and when you go back into a relationship with that person again, you don't make the same mistakes as before. I know how you feel. I'm still madly in love with my ex. But he doesn't return the love. If your ex does return the love, then that's half the battle. Good luck, life it too short, go for it if you think it will work out.
2006-06-21 08:13:56 · answer #1 · answered by older&wiserforit 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes i feel this is very possible ..... I dont see why not. If the two people who are divorced are not remarried i say go for it and this is great!!!! God would want this for your life and for your marriage. He needs to go to AA and get help for the alcohol abuse and i recommend marriage and relationship counseling for both you and him. Start off by being friends again and dating and getting to know each other all over again. Take it slow this time and dont rush into anything too fast. This can actually happen if you want it to. If you are not married break it off with your current guy and move towards working on things with your ex. Is he remarried? I hope not. I wish you both the best and if you ever need to chat i am here as a friend to you!
2006-06-21 07:56:13 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have moved on and it seems that there was a finale, no you probably don't want him. You want what could be. Was he your first love? If he is than that could be it. I am married and have been for 13 years and I will find myself thinking about my first love when things aren't going good between me and my husband. Now, if that isn't it then, why don't you and him talk and try to get back together? People can be married and then divorced and get back together. Anything is possible but do you want to if he is drinking? Or maybe you did meet with each other after the divorce because it was comfortable and familiar.
2006-06-21 06:43:14 · answer #3 · answered by brittme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hard question. I'm guessing that the problem with your previous marriage was a lack of communication from what you are saying. And it sounds like now you two are still not talking about the way you both may still feel about each other. Try to reconcile and tell your new boyfriend to wait on you. If things work out with your ex then new boyfriend was never meant to be. Be careful of the alcohol. He may be just trying it to sooth pain, but of course that doesn't usually work. Get counseling as soon as you can for yourself and then for your ex if he wants to.
2006-06-21 06:46:53 · answer #4 · answered by Jeremy L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my first question is have you tried counseling? no you are not crazy in thinking that you can repair this broken relationship...have you told him any of this? maybe he feels the same way but doesnt know that you feel it too. i would talk to him and see where he stands on the situation, if he feels the same then i would start it off slowly, maybe by going out on a few dates and try getting to know eachother again, there are probably things that have changed between the two of you that the other needs to discover before you can move on, i wouldnt rush right back into a relationship with him...that is just asking for trouble. second i woukd try and get him to go to some AA classes...good luck and i hope that it works out for the both of you!!
2006-06-21 06:43:44 · answer #5 · answered by my_lttle_devil 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-18 03:01:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-13 18:36:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all if he is abusing alcholal it won't be what you think, it may even be worse ruining your friendship, however if he gets help and you both truly love one another then work it out. just because you are divorced doesn't mean you can't fall back into love again
2006-06-21 06:40:57 · answer #8 · answered by mimismom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should sit down and talk with him and explain your feelings, maybe he will feel the same way, but was too afraid to say anything.
Never know till you try.
2006-06-21 06:48:08 · answer #9 · answered by daisy2006 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋