Communication? Do people really want to know????

Question

I am wondering if there is really anyone out there that wants real communication.

I have been accussed of being to blunt and way to harsh but I am honest. Is there a particuliar way that one should practice honesty. I mean, really if I am honest it is going to hurt sometimes - if I play or dance around how something that I say may make you feel - then am I really being honest?

I once had a friend tell me that just because I am honest does not give me the right to tear someone's heart out.

My question is this - is it my responsibility as a REAL person to be honest or to worry about how someone may feel about my honesty?

Just wondering?

Any feedback is greatly appreciated but please remain HONEST!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 1

there is nothing wrong with being honest... in fact, my husband i think can be harsh as well but like he says, hey, im being honest--- I personally, am always worried about hurting other peoples feelings so i keep my feelings to myself.. but like the old saying goes, the truth hurts so therefore, if your honest then your a good person and i would suggest you remain that way. cant nothing bad come from being "real"

Answer 2

LOL, you sound like a man. Like me.

I have been told that I hurt feelings with the "information" I provide. I always talk to someone and give them all the information I can so they can make logical decisions.
If someone is just giving information then it's each individuals reactions that bring up feelings. Not everything will effect everyone the same way.
Now it is different if I attack someone. Call them dumb, ugly, or an idiot. That is desinged to hurt feelings.
If I tell someone that they bought the wrong product, lets exchange it because..listing information.. and the other person says I hurt their feelings, that is not what was said. THEY let their feelings get hurt. I just advised, with information, a better choice.

If you do something wrong and are corrected with positive reinforcment and correct information then you have been through a learning experance.

I you are called a mindless dork and are just told to take it back, you were attacked, did not learn anything other than the other person thoughts about you, and really did have something happen that should hurt your feelings.

Answer 3

Actually i have teh same problem.Noone ever has to guess the way i feel about something cause they know i will just come out and say it.I have found that you just have to evaluate the situation at hand.You know if you can be blunt or have to tone it done a bit from person to person.I still get myself in trouble daily for not knowing how to contain my honest and blunt tongue.Good luck to you and remember always keep it real.

Answer 4

I prefer honest communication, but there are ways to deliver the message so the person receives in gently. Simple things can change how you portray your message...like instead of saying sentences that start with "you"...try saying "i feel or i think" Everyone is different and needs to be dealt with differently...some people can handle brutal honesty and some people will be benefited by the same message but in a softer way.

Answer 5

It's definitely possible to be both completely honest, and still be sensitive to that person. For example - what you might want to say is "You're REALLY FAT". Instead, you could show some concern for them, and be sensitive to their feelings by saying "You appear to have a weight gain problem, are you aware that there are some significant health risks that may exist?" This gets your point across, it's still fairly blunt, yet it's not right up in your face insulting.

Answer 6

I to am a honest person. But I have found out that some things are better off not said in order to spare someones feelings.
live and learn

Answer 7

i think honesty is a virtue. you can be honest without being mean. but i feel that if someone is hurt by your honesty then they really didn't want to hear what you had to say. it is then, them with the offending problem, not you offending them.

Answer 8

yes i do very much that's why i am on this site to communicate my life knowledge to other people so i may help in there lives and make them think about other ave of life

Answer 9

the problem is most people say they want to hear the truth, but in reality they only want to hear what makes them feel good

Answer 10

mm.....honestly speaking...why dont u keep ur v-neck a few more inches down ms.LAURA

I speek HONESTLY ...whatever comes to my mind ,.then how about my HONESTY...ms laura DEAR!?do u accept my comment with good heart??