2006-06-21 05:52:10 · 7 answers · asked by caribbeangal 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
That's a decision you should both make together. Some couples like to get busy right away, others want to enjoy time as just a couple for a few years first.
My recommendations would be that as long as you are young (not pushing 40) to wait several years for children. The alone time you have now will be scarce after the fact. It is really nice to just have the two of you and be able to pick up and have fun without worrying about diaper bags or baby sitters.
Children can stress a relationship in many ways. They are expensive to start. Daycare for an infant can easily exceed $200 a week! During the first year, your sleep will be interupted and mom, especially will often be very tired - too tired to give her husband good attention.
In addition, with divorce rates so high (and I speak from experience when I tell you single parenthood is no fun) it would be an excellent idea to strengthen your marriage first so you can withstand the stress of children AND know that your marriage can stand strong on its own without a child being the sole reason you are together.
- Ideally your relationship will be stable and strong,
- you'll both have enjoyed a few years of selfish time and be ready to put the children's needs first
- you'll be financiallly ready to deal with the impact of having children including possible time out of the workforce for one of you to stay home (if that's something you want)
You should only be getting married if you are SECURE enough in your relationship to believe you will make it work indefinitely. If your relationship is that secure, than there should be no need to rush into parenthood, because you know you have all the time in the world.
Best of luck.
2006-06-23 10:22:21 · answer #1 · answered by Lori A 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
really as long as u have some money and a nice home then u are 1/2 way there if u think u are emotionally ready and could be prepared to give up work and look after a baby 24/7 then go for it how old are you ?
2006-06-21 05:56:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well wait for a bit before you get pregnant, my husband and I waited a year! (well is was a surprise!)
Wait for a bit, get to know each other as a married partner!
If you feel you need a baby right away talk with your spouse!
2006-06-21 06:02:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take time to enjoy each other first because you never will get the chance again if you have a baby right away.
2006-06-21 06:08:06 · answer #4 · answered by Kristina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on the people, if you are both ready now, do it. but if you feel like enjoying eachother for a while, by all means enjoy it.
my husband and i were ready right away. but we were together for 6 years before we were married. either way, good luck!
2006-06-21 05:59:36 · answer #5 · answered by me m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the same night u get married its a great felling enjoy
2006-06-21 05:56:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whenever you and your spouse are financially and emotionally ready. Don't let other people tell you that you should have kids soon. It's up to you and no one else.
2006-06-21 08:26:33 · answer #7 · answered by Trixie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋