I'm engaged to a guy we are in LOVE. He has no children, has never dated anyone with children, but I have 2. Sometimes I wonder if he think it'll be better for him to be involved with a young lady with no children and they start there own family. He don't give me that impression at all, I'm just wondering, should I feel like this. Is anyone in a relationship like that? What kind of advice do you have for me?
2006-06-21 05:17:33 · 14 answers · asked by me 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My man has adopted children(not 1,2 a whole orphanage in his home)but that shows hes a golden hearted,self-made,caring wonderful man wholl make a wonderful husband and father.
2006-06-21 05:37:08 · answer #1 · answered by docfreudianslip 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am engaged to a wonderful man (I also have 2 children from a previous marriage), and think about it this way; would he have asked you to marry him if he wasn't accepting of you AND your children? He knew about your children, and obviously loves you (and them) enough to start a life with the 3 of you. Try not to worry too much about this!!! He sounds like a good guy...and if it's an option for you, there's no saying that the two of you can't have a child of your own once you're married...Good luck!!!
2006-06-21 05:28:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are engaged, he does not care about whether or not you have children, he loves you and wants to be with you. Don't second guess him.
I just remarried in Sept. He has 2 kids I have 1. We married each other, not the kids. Children grow-up and move away.
Have a wonderful life with your new family.
2006-06-21 05:27:36 · answer #3 · answered by Simply Lovely 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had both a step mother and step father. My step-father was wonderful . My step-mother was horrible(she reminded me of the witch in the forest on hansle and grettle)
I am know a step-mother of 2 and a mother of 3. I love my step children as if they were my own. I say if he is good to your children and your children love him and it doesn't bother him everything will work out. Although as a step parent it is harder and a few more trails than being the actual parent -- things really can work if all parties are willing to work together.
2006-06-21 08:43:18 · answer #4 · answered by mother of 5 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wellu have a reason to feel that way b/c u always want to know that ur kids r going to be safe but i think u need to sit down and ask him if he is pretending to find a girl with no kids and if he is capable of helping u with ur kids if u were to marry him and talk to him about all ur concerns like i always say communication is the key to everything.
2006-06-21 05:22:41 · answer #5 · answered by JAZY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he accepts and loves your kids as much as he loves you then go for it .... He is well worth the time and effort.... Talk to him and ask him how he feels. I am sure he loves you for you and the kids .... HE seems to be ready to accept the who package and that is a great thing. My husband had never married and i had four kids when i met him and he loved me for me with my kids and he did not have any kids at the time but he loves them as his own. He is a great dad and husband and i could not ask for a better husband or dad for my kids. He is everything i could ever dream or hope for. He is the best!!!! We would like to have one of our own together someday as well and we are trying lol. I wish you the best with this man and love and cherish him for who he is!!!! Don't let this one go:) There are not many men like this out there and they are a rare kind. Hold on and treasure him and don't let him go. He loves me for me and the kids are a part of that. I would never have married him if he did not accept and love them as part of a packaged deal.
2006-06-21 06:59:28 · answer #6 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in this situation, too, and I'm not worried about it. My son loves my fiancee and she loves him and is totally ready for being a stepmom. You think that your guy would be better off with a childless lady, but he's sure he'd be better off with you, and if that comes with children in the pic already (which it does), then so be it. How is he with your children? How are they with him? Is everyone copasetic? Then don't worry, be happy!
2006-06-21 05:50:01 · answer #7 · answered by jaybirdri 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it depends, how much in contact are you with the father, are there problems with the father. If so than i wouldnt casue him stress. Im in a relationship with a stepdaughter and it is hell dealing with the mother of the child one becasue we have custody anf the mother is stupid and immature. How does the children feel about him. You have to consider all the possibilities, plus you have to be happy as well. So just talk to him and tell him how you eel about it all and how much it bothers you, if he is willing to stick throught all of the possibilities of drama in the future than marry him
2006-06-21 06:22:08 · answer #8 · answered by tigressoflilies 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can tell you my husband didn't have kids, nor did he hate anyone with kids. I had 3 at the time I met him. He did so good with them. He acted like they were his. He is the greatest blessing in the world to me and my family. After we were together for a couple years we had our own daughter - and he has never acted different to my other kids then to our daughter.
2006-06-21 05:28:10 · answer #9 · answered by bluskygreengrass 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first of all he obviously loves your children he loves you you said so yourself, and if he had a problem with your children i'm sure you would know it by now, i am a step mother and i love her like my own daughter i'm sure he will be fine just relax i think you are just nervous
2006-06-21 05:48:19 · answer #10 · answered by mimismom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋