I am old enough to marry but my parents insist on finding me Mr. Right is this proprer or legal for then to do i don't live in those country"s were they do that! I am 21 and i cannot even look at a man !
2006-06-21 05:16:58 · 22 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
do you think it is proper for then to do this i feel like i should move out but they won't let me move out either!
2006-06-21 05:18:53 · update #1
i am in usa and can my parents hold me hostage"
2006-06-21 05:24:08 · update #2
im have alot of money safed i can bye my own business and home but they won't let me i have to serve there quest at there partys like i am a maid huh ! i want to move out of usa that the only way i can get out of this situation would you slave for you parents and be locked in your room so you cannot talk on phone or see friends!
2006-06-21 05:29:34 · update #3
I don't know your family's traditions or customs, but if you are of age in the country that you live in, maybe it is time for you to move away from your parents and start a life of your own. If however you are not then you need to follow what they say...best of luck, glad I was not in that situation
2006-06-21 05:19:46 · answer #1 · answered by Sarah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont have to marry anyone you dont want to if you live in the US. However see who they find first before you say no. If they dont want you to meet the man before the wedding date then say no. But if they are willing to let you meet the man they think is right for you, then get to know the man. Maybe you will want to be with that man. It would be great to meet a guy that is your age that you already know from the start wants to get married. Do you trust your parents? Because if you do then maybe they will pick a good looking, intelligent, nice man for you. So give it a try. Just insist that you want to approve the guy too, so you need to meet him before any wedding arrangements are made.
I have an Indian friend who was brought to the US when she was 4 (so she is completely Americanized). Her grandparents make her sign a dowry every few years. They plan to arrange her marriage and give the man a dowry, even though she is against the idea. But she goes along with it and just continues to sign it.
2006-06-21 12:23:34 · answer #2 · answered by Educated 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is hard to decide between your family and traditions and your desires.
We too easily dismiss arranged marriages. They are often good. Choosing ourselves, 2/3 of the time it is not good.
I, myself, married outside my religion. She was the person I loved, and chose. It wasn't so simple! We divorced. Now I am in a relationship of 8 years. It is boring, but we live well, and treat each other well. I would say I am now happy. I now focus more on my family and my job.
No one can legally make you marry. It does not matter to whom. Even if you are forced through a marriage, you can have it nullified if you were forced.
It is up to you to choose how you want to live. You may have to leave your family home if you decide you want to date men. But that needs to be your choice. You must do what is best for you regardless of what your family, or people on Yahoo say.
If you are 21, you are legally free to go. If you really decide to leave, you should be able to get help with living arrangements through a woman's shelter in your area.
Take your time though. You are only 21 and in this culture that is still quite young.
2006-06-21 12:29:54 · answer #3 · answered by Science teacher 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know in some cultures it is traditional for the parents to choose the husband but you are in the United States and are free to pick and choose whom ever you please. No it is not legal for them to keep you hostage! You are old enough to be on your own and you say you have money to do this then you should be able to. If they try to stop you then you could get the law involved. I hope you do what ever makes you happy, Good luck cause it sounds like your are going to need it.
2006-06-21 12:53:12 · answer #4 · answered by shywoman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, they definitely should not. If you are twenty-one and have money, you should move out of parents' house and start your own life. If they try to hold you there against your will, call the police, because wrongful imprisonment is a crime is most places. Good luck!
2006-06-21 13:23:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! where are you at? Your family has no legal right to keep you from moving out, and they can't force you to marry someone either. It sounds like they are very controlling. You would benefit from moving away, your family can't stop you, and if they try, you can call the police to help you.
2006-06-21 12:27:48 · answer #6 · answered by Astro 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well as I see it you need to have a long discussion with yur parents. Especially if your still in there house. You need to make them see you are responsible and go out with young men who they would approve of with out them choosing the man. Show them you have good judgement. Also your young dont be in any rsuh to get married remeber forever is a long time.
2006-06-21 12:21:55 · answer #7 · answered by joeypags36 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds crazy. You need to call your local police and tell them your parents are holding you against your will and you need help getting away from them. They will send a car when the car arrives make enough noise so that they will be sure to hear you.
2006-06-21 12:37:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hostage situation. Somebody call 911.
2006-06-21 12:25:32 · answer #9 · answered by Johnydepp 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're going to have to live with that man forever; not your parents. You can search for a man on your own. And when you do find him, elope so your parents don't have control over your wedding as well!
2006-06-21 12:40:06 · answer #10 · answered by loloshorty9 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋