My wife is due in one month and she is so uncomfortable. We still try to be intimate but it seems that it is the last thing on her mind now. I understand and I respect the fact that having a baby is a much bigger deal then making love. I love her so much and think the world of her because she still tries to do her part. It seems like now though she just looks at sex a somthing to be endured so that I will leave her alone for a few days. I don't want this to be the case but still want that intimate connection with my wife. What can I do to keep the romance alive and not make sex like a chore instead of a act of love?
2006-06-21 05:15:19 · 21 answers · asked by Erowe 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Being a mother of two myself, I can understand your wife's angst. With my last pregnancy, I didn't think I was going to make it through the last month at all. And as with your wife, I did not want anything to do with sex. It was very uncomfortable. How did my husband solve this problem? Little simple things, foot massages that lead to leg massages and I think you might be getting my point. He was pampering me, and I needed to be with him so badly at that point. Not to be too preverse either, that the normal ways for us to have sex weren't working for me, but I found the best position for us in the last month or so was him sitting on the couch, and my straddling him. Worked out pretty nicely. Yes, it was still a little awkward, but we still felt so connected with each other that it was worth it. Just try to be there for your wife, and stand by her side as much as you can through this last month. It is one of the hardest months to get through. I wish you two the best of luck!
2006-06-21 05:24:16 · answer #1 · answered by browneyes45506 2 · 12⤊ 1⤋
Don't make it sexual. You can be romantic without being sexual. Surprise her with a huge bouquet of flowers, a romantic dinner (home cooked or not) and a nice massage.
It wont be much longer and these things will be a distant memory for her as the baby comes first. She deserves and needs to be pampered right now.
She would probably really appreciate it...and maybe sex wouldn't be such a chore afterwards! And even if she still isn't interested at least you guys would have some special time together even if not intimately.
2006-06-21 12:19:57 · answer #2 · answered by foolnomore2games 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Intimacy and sex aren't the same thing. You can still be intimate with her and affectionate toward her, without intercourse. She's probably feeling pretty crummy right now (physically) and sex is likely way low on her list of things she'd like to do. Be sweet to her, and if she wants more let her let you know. If the sex becomes a chore, then the experience is going to be less (pleasureable and frequent) for you both.
2006-06-21 12:24:33 · answer #3 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a wonderful husband and man. You are doing the right thing. She would endure it for you to make you happy, but good god she is nine months pregnant and suffering enough. If you want to be intimate try rubbing her feet, running a bath for her, massageing her back. If she felt better about herself and more comfortable she may want to have sex with you and have it be her idea. Also maybe think outside the box...what does she like?
2006-06-21 12:20:30 · answer #4 · answered by dom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try cuddling and compliments. Many women feel a fat and ugly when they're pregnant and that can make it hard to get in the mood for sex. Tell her how beautiful she is every day. Trying different positions help also. By now some positions are going to be uncomfortable to her making her less likely to want to "make love".
2006-06-21 12:24:01 · answer #5 · answered by biology_is_me1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand were ur coming from, but u have to understand she is a very pregnant woman, and i'm sure after the baby is born the sex life will rekindle, but focus on her right now, and maybe she can pleasure u orally instead of actually doing the deed. Good Luck, I hope all is well with the pregnancy.
2006-06-21 12:20:29 · answer #6 · answered by Jen S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
prop up as many pillows as you can find for her to comfortably lay on her stomach. Or go buy a really thick and long(as tall as her) piece of foam and cut a hole in the middle for her belly. Now rub her back with some of her favorite lotion. Kiss her neck every now and then while you do that. Beforehand , light candles, put on her favorite music, and make sure she ate her favorite meal. When a very pregnant woman is happy, you are more likely to get some lovin. Good luck!!
2006-06-21 12:20:03 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most women prefer to not have sex during the last month because it's too uncomfortable. Also, there's a possibility that orgasm can trigger labour. Don't force it on her if she doesn't want to. Instead be affectionate without any implication of sex. If she wants to be intimate she'll let you know.
2006-06-21 12:19:54 · answer #8 · answered by Blue Jean 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When my wife is pregnant having sex is unconfortable after about the third month. Having intercourse brings on contractions which are very painful. For the next six months of pregnancy and six to eight weeks after birth, I have blue balls. I feel your pain man but some have got it much worse.
2006-06-21 12:22:18 · answer #9 · answered by nartox 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Short answer........ Everyone is different . Have you both tried masturbation sessions together ? I find it hard to believe that it is the last thing on her mind , your hormones and blood flow (down there ) can cause you to want to "orgasm" several times a day with just a simple rub ! My girlfriend and I say , pregancey sex is the best sexual time !
I read the other answers . Yes you can have sex!!! Md say ok !
I guess I am only speaking for myself and my husband was very lucky to have me be so..........................
2006-06-21 12:23:32 · answer #10 · answered by Lauren H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋