what if your husband is too big?

Question

my husbands penis too large and every time you have sex it hurts what can i do to control this? i tried on top but he pumps too hard when im on top, like he cant control himself, doggy style is out of the question it hurts too much, is there something i can take to control this or what should i do

Answer 1

Nope, unfortunately you just have to talk to him and explain to him that sex isn't pleasurable for you when he does this. He needs to take your comfort and pleasure into consideration.

Answer 2

Went through this. First time was like I was losing my virginity again, but continued to have sex. At times it hurts(like if we haven't done it in a week or so). But I formed to his penis. Surprised you haven't, try KY lubricating jelly. If you already have then see a doctor about that.
It doesn't hurt at all when I'm on top or legs spread like scissors. But doggy still hurts me a little to this day.
Get drunk that numbs the sensation too, but you will feel the pain in the morning.
Good luck with that.

Answer 3

This is gonna sound strange but it works. As you help get your husband excited by holding or pulling on his penis with your hands, take a gob of vaseline in your hands and rub it on your husband's private part. When he inserts it inside you, it will lubercate your vagina and make the process not hurt. You might even enjoy yourself because you are suffering from lack of erosal. You are too dry. If you could get your husband to take time and rub your arms or legs, this would help you feel more loved & your body would secrete it's own body fluids to help things not hurt. Until then, the vaseline will do.

Answer 4

He absolutely has to control how deep he penetrates whether he is excited or not. It really hurts to have your cervix smacked and if he loved you, he would understand that. Have you thought about perhaps finishing him off when he's really excited with oral. I mean, you can still have great sex, but right where he gets a bit uncontrolled, give him oral. You would have to set the rules that you decide how much of him you can take and choking is disrespectful and unloving.

Sorry if I was too graphic, only trying to help.

Answer 5

There are over the counter lubricants you can use if you aren't a natural lubricator. If that doesn't work, try having a couple glasses of wine to relax your body. Let him know he just can't be tearing up your walls and he needs to take it slow. If you grease up really good, I bet you'd learn to enjoy it. You've probably already siked yourself up before you even get started that it's going to hurt because he's too big. The vagina is very stretchable. Lot's of lubricant and wine work wonders for the sex life. Nice and slow movements until you get the hang of it should work fine.

Answer 6

Really you need to discuss with him that you are having an uncomfortable time. He is going to have to learn to control himself if he wants to continue having sex!

Make sure you are using enough lubrication. There is no shame in slathering on the KY before sex. I think that much of the problem may lie in you not being "ready". He is going to have to spend extra time in foreplay to make sure you are going to be receptive.

Another thing you can try is get a toy that is a little bit smaller than him and use it first to try and stretch yourself out.

Answer 7

I actually did a little research on this a few years back. I was only able to find out basically 2 things.
1-They make a device that goes over the mans penis and when it is on it will only allow him to go in so far. Its like a cock ring but bigger. i would say go to your local sex shop and ask. Like we have Fair-villa Mega store by us.
2- The other way would for you to actually use your hand and wrap it it around his member. This will prevent him from going in to far.
hope this helps and good luck.

Answer 8

I have the same problem. When i am on top, he pumps like there is no tomorrow and it hurts. What i do is when i am on top is to go on it at my own pace and i tell him no to move cause it will hurt. And when you get a little use to it, tell him to pump slowly and get a rhythm goin that feels comfortable to you.

Answer 9

i'm assuming u waited to do it when u got married?? because u definitely should've considered this b4 getting married. Married people should be sexually compatible. that applies to your situation as well as an opposite situation where a guy may be to small for a woman to enjoy. i hate to say it, but it sounds like u may need to Put your man on pu$$y punishment until he learns how to ease u into handling his size. i mean really, if a woman can push out a baby she can certainly handle a large penis. it's a matter of getting accustomed to it.

Answer 10

Suze on the sunday night sex show would tell you that you are bragging about your husband or have mental issues with relaxing. You can have a 9 pound baby come out the same space.

Answer 11

side by side or when you are on top make him sit up as well then you'll have control of the pace and depth also try being a little more experimental to see what does and doesnt work for you