I had strong feelings before for my bestfriend (girl ofcourse) but I was able to move on and just continue on being friends because I felt that she wanted it to be that way because she is seeing someone then. But turns out that the guy she is seeing is a total jerk and doesn't treat her right. The thing is, when she was seeing this guy, she changed. We didn't hang out often anymore, she didn't call me often anymore. It was like I was demoted to just a friend. And during this time, I was so jealous of them and I just realized that I do love my bestfriend. I was crazy about her during that time and kept on thinking of her like everyday. But I noticed that she was so into that guy (she even makes out with the guy in front of me) that I didn't bother letting her know how I feel and I also didn't want our closeness to end if she doesn't have any feelings for me. So going back to the present and his loverboy being a dick, she is back to her old self and tries to hang out with me again.
2006-06-21 05:05:47 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I don't know if I should avoid her since I feel different now and I think I have moved on. I don't want to rekindle what I have felt for her before because I know that it will only hurt me in the end. I dunno why I like her so much. She is a major spender, spoiled, high maintenance, and she isn't serious in her studies and probably won't finish college. But she is a really cool friend, is fun to be with, and she is really hot. If I use my mind though, it would be better to just bottle up the feelings I have for her inside because it would be better for me overall. But if I follow my heart, I will be more happier in life. So, should I follow my mind or should I follow my heart? Be bestfriends or be friends? Do you guys think that she is using me right now only as a filler? or should I comfort her since it looks like she needs someone right now? what do I do?
2006-06-21 05:13:04 · update #1
When I was younger, I was *always* dating someone, and my best guy friend was dating, and then had a child and was engaged.
Long story short is that none of our relationships, even the one with his daughter's mother, worked out.
It took over 5 years for the timing to be right, but we have now been together for over 3 years, own a house, and are getting married in '08.
Go for it! It was the best thing we've ever done. I can't tell you how great it is to be dating (or even marrying!) your best friend. :)
P.S. Don't go for it NOW, wait until the timing is right. If it's meant to be, it'll happen. Cliche, I know, but it's the truth.
2006-06-21 05:09:35 · answer #1 · answered by Aussie Mommy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask her why she treated you that way. But dont be too serious cause she might get upset. Start the conversation off slow and light then just slid that question in. She may have been wanting to make you jealous to see if you like her or she may have not known what she was doing was hurting you. After about a week just ask if she thinks there would be a chance of you two getting together. Again, not drilling her to make her answer you just jokingly ask 'Hey do you think we'll end up together?' Let me know what you think.
2006-06-21 05:12:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of times, a person will try to change to please his/her current relationship partner. Sometimes, this will make for a good fit, but the vast majority of relationships end due to the change. The person either resents his/her partner for making him/her change, even if it was all his/her own doing, or the person just realizes that he/she can't change and misses the old life. This could explain why she treated you that way before and isn't now.
As for your feelings, you talk about moving on, but the fact that you're asking us perfect strangers for advice proves you haven't really. You need to address your feelings with her, if you are both single now. You WILL regret not having done so. Just keep in mind that things that aren't meant to be won't be, but things that ARE meant to be will still need a little work to keep them that way.
2006-06-21 05:22:00 · answer #3 · answered by jaybirdri 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my friend I have been there before. I had a situation where for years I crushed on my friend and did not allow her to know. I finally stepped up to the plate and got my heart ripped out and trampled on. Te best suggestion that I can make is to remain her friend. You have seen the type of guy she is into and it doesn't seem to be you. Be the best friend to her that you can be. But move on and live your life. If you keep your head down and your heart in a crush that may never happen you might miss the relationship that is true for you and regret it for the rest of their lifes.
2006-06-21 05:20:10 · answer #4 · answered by Mason H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go head, Go for it... It won't hurt you to tell her... First try to give her little hints towards your feelings and see how she responds then if she still can't ell just tell her and let her decide or take time to define her feelings towards you but don't pressure her or push her because she will only push away from you and that is the last thing in the world you want!
2006-06-21 05:13:37 · answer #5 · answered by Smilez 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-31 05:59:06 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask her why she slighted you to just a friend. then address what problems you see in her boyfriend, there is a connection between her bf and her as to you being slighted. as to her restoring you to her best friend she's probably realized what she's done and is trying salvage what has been lost. also tell her that you care about her and thinks that she deserves better in dating bf's. maybe the two of you would be better off dating than just being best friends. put a positive inlfuence on her.
2006-06-21 06:46:12 · answer #7 · answered by taxman_ll 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should at least try... it seems like you are very close... take it slow of course but she might feel the same way... you just have to let her know!
2006-06-21 05:09:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont bottle your emotions! take this from the queen of it. you'll end up exploding like a champene bottle shaken too much...... and probably hurting her.... but i wouldnt go for it just yet, tell her how you feel and let her decide
2006-06-21 05:23:54 · answer #9 · answered by jesus_freak_forever3days2grace 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell her how u feel if she doesnt love u then the two of u could still hang out as friends.
2006-06-21 05:15:23 · answer #10 · answered by pOOhPhAT 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋