I am NOT an unfit mother nor am I on drugs or in trouble of any sort. I truly know I did the best thing for my child. But I need some support as my heart breaks every day she isn't with me. Ex does everything he can to poison relationship with my child as does his family. He refuses to let her fly over and spend time with me and my partner. He has used scare tactics of every sort to make her fearful of coming to see us.(i.e. Terrorism, plane crashes, flying over deep water) We've combatted each of these with actual facts and figures from other parties. I've played fair from day one of my leaving my ex. I've done the so called Christian way of handling myself. I didn't want a messy divorce with my child drug all the way through.I know what I did was right...but I'm not sure I will live through this. I need to talk to others who are in this similar situation.
2006-06-21 04:45:32 · 8 answers · asked by K's Mom 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hey i am going through the same thing and I understand how you feel. I am just like you and I am not unfit nor do drugs. I think it was better in the long haul for my children I get them and pay for stuff they need for school, sports etc. Feel free to email me and we can talk to each other as a support group.
2006-06-21 05:07:13 · answer #1 · answered by cici 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I'm a child in the middle of a divorce. I know you are a good person and let your child live with your ex because you know what's best for her. If the child can't vist you, maybe you can commutcate with her by means of letters, phone calls , email, etc., maybe if you talk to her more, she will realize what a good person you are and come to vist. You are a kind, smart, and very
brave. Just hang in there!
2006-06-21 05:18:35 · answer #2 · answered by Binky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry I don't have any support for you,but I let my son go live with his father thinking it would be good for both of them to get to know each other but it turned out to be the biggest mistake I ever made.Four months went by and I noticed I did'nt hear from him as often so I decided to go for a visit. I found my son on the corner of the apartments smoking and selling drugs.He has'nt been able to recover as a matter of fact he is serving 8 years in prison now.Please know what you are doing especially since you know that the family is poisoning her mind about you; that's not healthy for your daughter.
2006-06-21 05:05:48 · answer #3 · answered by sherell212004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter only visits with her father once a week, and it kills me. I know that he is telling her things about me, and trying to make her against me. But I know that seeing him is good for her in the long run. It is very hard when you get divorced, because the children that were always there now need to be shared. If you can, try to go see her. Call and write as much as you can. Reassure her that you love and miss her. Also, you should try to talk to a counselor. It helps to talk to somebody, and divorce involving children is never easy.
2006-06-21 05:10:45 · answer #4 · answered by Sarah D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actions speak louder than words and i am sure as your child grows she will realise you did what was best for her. What you have done was very selfless of you and i take my hat of to you for being so brave in putting your child first. Please be assured children are not stupid and will not be fooled long term by your ex,s behaviour. All the best x
2006-06-21 04:51:31 · answer #5 · answered by happyflamepepper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea right if he poision the child and the courts didnt remove the child whats the complaint you can easily bring the child home get a job and do the same as the ex support your child and be together i smell fish
2006-06-21 04:51:13 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he wont let her come over then you go andd c her. i miss my daughter after being at work all day so i dont know how it is never being able to see your child. get a visa and go and live there close by. do anything to get yourself there or you might lose your kid.
2006-06-21 04:59:32 · answer #7 · answered by paulamathers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
EMAIL ME AND TELL ME WHY YOU GOT DIVORCED AND ARE YOU SHACKING? jus_032000@yahoo.com
2006-06-21 04:54:27 · answer #8 · answered by Justin D 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋