Did he cheat on me?

Question

My boyfriend and I have been dating for 2 months and talked awhile before we actually stated we were together. Just recently he was at a party, while I was at work, and his ex-girlfriend was there. His ex-girlfriend, Ashley, and I do not get along at all. Everyone that was there told me that they went outside to talk, but it was just the two of them. It has really been bothering me because everytime we talk about it all he says is that they just talked about how they have been. So I say why couldnt you do that inside. He simply says the music was too loud, but other people say it was fine. I kind of have a trust issue, I believe, and it has really been upsetting me. It's not that I don't trust him, I dont trust HER. Everytime that he gets a new girlfriend, she always try to run back to him.. and I don't know what to do. *tear* I guess I just need a little advice..

Answer 1

if you did find out he was cheating on you, what would you do? if you were me im just saying that i beat the crap out of her!!!

Answer 2

Well, unfortunately you may never know what happened between them outside, but it's probably a safe bet that they did just talk. Unless others at the party can atest that they came back all disheveled looking and with leaves and grass on their clothing. Music volume tolerance varies by person as well. Your boyfriend might have felt like he was having to scream over it to have a normal conversation. Now, did he tell you of all this himself first, or did you hear it from everyone else? If he told you first-hand, it's likely nothing indecent happened. If he corroborated the other people's stories, I still doubt anything happened. If you care for this fellow, you have to trust him until he proves otherwise he's unworthy. There are signs to look for if you think your mate is cheating. Check the link below and if he exhibits almost all of these qualities, then he's probably cheating. If he only exhibits one or two of them, it's coincidental. For example, one of them is about changing habits in grooming, but a new job is often the cause of this one as well, so keep things like that in mind. In addition to the link, you can search google with "signs of cheating" and it will give you more info. Good luck!

Answer 3

When a couple breaks up they often do so in the heat of anger. Sometimes realize after the breakup that what they said was extremely rude or whatever. they begin to feel guilty and feel the need to apologize to the person. It was possible they had something else to smooth out. This is just a guess, but I know one thing. He's with you. not with her. If he had feelings for her he would still be dating her, he wouldn't be dating someone else. I have talked to my ex's at party's before and sometimes it's awkward trying to have a normal conversation with them in a crowded room. Everyone is gawking at you or whispering behind their backs wondering if something is developing again. If this was happening or if he knew there were people there that would start a nasty rumor he might have just wanted to get out of the public' eyes. You also are going to have to trust his word until you catch him doing otherwise. (Innocent until Proven Guilty)
~Good Luck with your boy

Answer 4

that girl is obviously has issues. Theres nothing that YOU did wrong, it was the ex. She lost him and now she realizes she doesnt want your boyfriend to have a girlfriend. Either 1. you think about the situation from her point of view like lets sy your boyfriend broke up with you and he's dating another girl, wouldnt you want to get back together with him? 2. Tell your boyfriend that if he doesnt want to put your relationship on the rocks, then stop seeing y our ex. 3. Break up with your boyfriend. you dont need all of this drama not knowing if he's cheating on you or not. 4. Talk to his ex, and sound sympathetic, even if you have to fake it. Its for you relationship. 5. cheat with your ex and see how your booyfriend feels. Good Luck!

Answer 5

Ur mistake was letting him know Ashley is not liked by u.Guys always try to get girl they love jealous by doing such things from time to time.imagine why would he only go outside to talk to ashley in the whole party lol just so u get to know and u would get jealous.my man was the same way he would purposely do it not to hurt me but get me jealous see how much i love him i guess it makes men feel nice or something so i just stopped reacting and stopped being jealous he came around on his own and stopped doing it.never tell a guy which girl u dont like chances are hell make u jealous with her or if u break up hell go to her or cheat on u with her so stay cool and calm just say u two spoke in the party ok fine lol

Answer 6

I wish unmarried people would learn what "cheating" is. If you are not married to the person, either licensed or common law, a bf or gf can not cheat on the other. They are a free agent until there is some sort of legal agreement between the two.

True you may not be happy with him because he chose to be with his ex-girlfriend but you have no control over his actions just as he has no control over your actions. Your only recourse is to no longer desire to date or be with this person or accept that he is a free agent of his actions and continue to date him. This also works the other way, you are also a free agent and can date anyone you desire.

Answer 7

his ex probably wants to get back with him, so this was her plea to do so. i wouldn't be worried about him cheating, but if these situations keep occuring, and they were close, he will eventually drift away from you. and if he drifts away from you, then the person who's easiest to get back with for support is his ex. so just make sure that you're making him happy and not being overly protective. don't dwell too much on the cheating question, and don't overly ask him because then he'll be annoyed. he will also learn to hide more things from you so you don't worry. and you don't want him to hide things from you. so until you have proof, you just have to trust him.

Answer 8

Well first off you need to really ask yourself if you really do trust him. Women's intuition is hardly ever wrong. If you do than believe him that they only talked. It sounds like a stressful situation and really you need to ask yourself if you can deal with her being around him since it sounds like they have the same circle of friends. Best of luck.

Answer 9

well gurl i was going through a situation just like u. especially because i couldn't stand his ex but ne way, its like this u want o be wit him and this could be a lie so stick wit him just put him on lock, then u have to keep in even closer eye on that *****. she seems like she s sneaky. Ur Friends will be on Ur case but who knows that may be Ur future

Answer 10

you keep doing what you are doing. being jealous will end a relationship quicker than anything. if he is cheating give him enough rope he will hang himself. as for her he should know how she is. if she was all that he would still be with her.

Answer 11

If you honestly believe that he didn't cheat on you, then let it go. HOWEVER, put your foot down and let him know that you won't stand for that anymore. If it happens again, leave him.