do you think people can change? what does it take to make them want to?

Question

what did it take to make you want to change?

Answer 1

I cannot comment on what it takes for others only for myself - the final motivation may be different for each person.

Illness did it. My EKG came back abnormal, I realized I was toting around a lot of repressed anger for many years. And I have a strong desire to see my (not yet born) grandchildren.

I'm still learning how to be the person I once was, and I know in my know-er that I WILL complete the change.

Answer 2

Don't try to change yourself, or anyone else. You grow up and become what you are. Besides, why would you want to change? If it's because of a relationship,you should have to change. Friends and loved ones should always love you for who you are. There is nothing wrong with you, and if you change to please someone else, you will most likely be unhappy. The first step toward having people love you, is loving yourself. Sit down and write a list of all of the positive qualities about yourself, and then admire them for a while. The next and most difficult step is to write down all of your not so great qualities; compare them with your list of great qualities, and I want you to realize how overwhelmingly, the good qualities out number the not so great qualities. I hope this helps you realize what a great person you already are, and that to change to please someone else would be silly!
♥ Maya

Answer 3

Real change only comes about through an internal drive - external factors may help, but they don't fully change a person. Yes, people can change, but only if they are so disgusted with their behavior that it makes them sick to think about going back whether it be smoking, cheating, lying, over-eating, playing the victim, laziness, etc. And, of course people change over time simply because they are living and any living thing grows, matures, and changes. But, major life changes must be internal.

Answer 4

It depends what changes you are talking about! Supposing you want your best friend to stop smoking because you worry he/she'll take ill ultimately .... Best way is not to go on at them about it (You'll cause them stress make them want to smoke more) But instead leave leaflets hanging around about no smoking days etc. You can also get someone else to talk to them (Amicably not too forceful) and then let the message sink in. Ultimately it is the person's will to change and that's that reason why you can try to educate them as you can, make sure they know you love them and value their company enough for them to realise they're not under threats of being brainwashed to changing their habits/ideas or whatever, simply because for your own benefit!

I used smoking as an example because it is such a a hefty one but you can try educating people for other reasons.

Some people will change, others won't. It depends on willingness/lack of, determination/lack of and !!! Their own perception of what is good for them as opposed to someone else's perception of it!

Best wishes

Best wishes

Answer 5

People can change. How much or in what area depends on the person. to make them change they need to realize that they need to change and they have to want to.

Answer 6

I think people can change, but they cannot be forced to change by someone. The person willingly has to want to change. Someone cannot just change a person for their liking or anyone else. The person needs to change on his/her own and if they don't want to change, then he/she is not going to change. And, no one can do anything about that. Nothing has made me want to change, personally I'm an outgoing and nice person, and my family, and friends accept me for who I am. I don't change for anyone, if someone doesn't like me for who I am, I'm not about to make them like me by acting any different than myself.

Answer 7

You really cant make someone change, they must want to change.