Now that we have been married 6 months he seems to irritate me, for no reason he is still the wonderful man I married and when I think about him I still have that sense of awe but when he is around it feels like I'm fighting with my brother, is this normal?
2006-06-21 04:20:55 · 28 answers · asked by kc 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's too bad you worshiped him. You sound kind of like my seven year old. There was a toy he saw on TV. He wanted it SOOO bad. He begged for it, he saved money for it, he pleaded with Santa for it. When he FINALLY got it. He played with it for a few days then it got stuffed in the back of the closet. This is a problem You have to work out, not your Husband. You need to quit thinking of him in terms of a God, and realize he's just a nerdy guy who farts and picks his nose like the rest of the world.
2006-06-21 04:33:20 · answer #1 · answered by mslorikoch 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hello!
You have a very positive attitude. This is great but we all
must look at your husband positive side. Write them down. What made him so wonderful? Than this is just a suggestion but maybe a little prayer would help? Bruce Almighty is a good movie to look at for inspiration and prayer. It sure wouldn't hurt for both of you to watch it together. When you mentioned worship him. I thought of the Big Guy or God. It wouldn't hurt to contact him through prayer. Isn't it God who knows your husband best? Wouldn't he know what do to help you?
Worship is a spiritual word.
Honey goes a long way. So maybe have a romantic dinner and speak to him about your feelings. Maybe he doesn't know or realize his actions. Communicate your feelings about
How he makes you feel. If you both work and your holding up
the home front. Discuss chores or cooking? Put up a schedule.
Change off routinely so everyone gets a fair deal. Doing the chores is not romantic? But sharing these responsibilities will certainly help eliminate some of your imitation. I know allot of husbands and wives have similar issues. Sit down and let him know what imitates you. He should have a listening ear. It wouldn't hurt to give these suggestions a try. Hope I've been of some help. Plus
I will say a prayer in your behave. Have a good day!
I have a good feeling about this.. There is a reason that I picked your question to answer.
Sincerely,
Vernette Dahl
Contact by email: vernettedahl2005@yahoo.com
2006-06-21 12:07:25 · answer #2 · answered by ttttttttrump 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep, totally normal. You are now living with him and view him a in a different capacity. You are starting to notice how human he is. He is no longer this wonderful man who you are marrying. He is a wonderful man you are married to. I know it sounds the same, but anyone who is married can atest to the subtle but important difference. The trick to being married is learning to love or ignore the things that annoy you. You'll be amazed how much you start to miss those little quirks when he is gone for any amount of time. It'll be cool for a little while but you'll miss it. It is part of who he is and part of what you love, despite the initial annoyance. You have to be able to overlook those things. Believe it or not he is probably discovering things about you that bug him. If it is really that big an issue, sit down and communicate. You hear this all the time I know...communication is key...but they aren't lying. Without being angry or accusatory, tell him the things that you find detestable. Ask what things you do that annoy him. Have a conversation about this, not an argument, and work toward changing. Yes, he will still annoy you occasionally and you will still annoy him. But with a better understanding of why this is, it will be a little easier to overcome.
2006-06-21 11:26:39 · answer #3 · answered by bubb1e_gir1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You idolized the man as Prince Charming, the flawless Adonis that marry you. Now you just realized that he is HUMAN and therefore, not perfect.
This is normal when the thrill of the novelty wears out. You have to know that honeymoons do come to an end and then you start your life as a couple and a life partner....
Good luck
2006-06-21 11:24:43 · answer #4 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is completely normal. THe old phrase "familiarity breeds contempt" applies here ... it's easier to idolize someone that you aren't around 24/7. Hold onto that feeling of awe for this guy that you love. You're simply going through thew adjustment period of the newly married.
2006-06-21 11:25:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion it is normal. At 6 months, you are still adjusting to a new kind of life with exciting changes (some good, a few bad). I wouldn't worry about a thing. Just try to adjust, and if you have problems, see a marriage counselor (nothing to be ashamed of, nor is it an admittance of marriage problems).
2006-06-21 11:27:34 · answer #6 · answered by rjss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is normal. The truth is that your expectations at the time of dating was so high and was more of anxiety that when you eventually married he seems to be just a man. It's like dieing to meet your favorite football star only to meet him and nothing seems to change.
What you are passing through is just a stage in marital life. I will advise you to appreciate God and appreciate your husband the more. Sometimes when things work for us too easily we don't appreciate it.
Take it easy, you will soon have cause to smile.
2006-06-21 11:28:40 · answer #7 · answered by Sage_Learner 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first year really is the hardest. Getting used to each other and spending that much time together really is something that can be difficult. I remember the first year I was married I really started to get all out of shape about the "stupid" things my husband would do...we both learned to chill out. It just takes time.
2006-06-21 11:24:08 · answer #8 · answered by justneedascreenname 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's becoming the norm. I had the same thing happen to me, I ended up being married to him for 4 years then left him. Just try not to sweat the small stuff. If it continues, you may need to go to couseling.
2006-06-21 11:23:05 · answer #9 · answered by purpleama456 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are probably spending to much time together. Do you go out? Does he? If not then maybe you guys should start having a little life of your own, then sharing everything. See if that helps.
2006-06-21 11:23:42 · answer #10 · answered by ronce_1118 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋