Ideas for revenge?

Question

I had a ‘friend’ who I trusted a lot who I discovered was spreading cruel and untrue rumours about me behind my back. When I tried to speak to her about it she just played innocent but I know for definite that she was responsible (several different friends told me and I overheard a conversation in her house once). So any ideas about how to deal with it should I get revenge or is living well really the best revenge?

Answer 1

Let it go. No matter how untrue or cruel the rumors were. The best thing you can do for yourself is to stay away from people like that and go on with the better part of your life which most definitely won't include her anymore.

Answer 2

Revenge won't solve anything.
In the end, the two of you will just go back-and-forth, trying to one-up each other, causing a lot of pain and hurt.

If possible, arrange a party or some kind of gathering, with those people who told you what she said.
Also invite her to the meeting.
And a few other people that you suspect were told the lies.
Then, once everyone is comfortable, announce to the group that you've been hearing rumors about your character.
And ask your friends that if they have any questions, to address those questions directly to you.
Let them know that you are willing to take responsibility for any actions which are true.
Tell them that false rumors not only hurt people, but the person spreading those false rumors are unworthy of a trusting friendship.
And then conclude by saying that whomever has been spreading false rumors about you, you now forgive them.

Answer 3

I would be careful. Any attempt at revenge could actually validate her claims. Your best bet is to rise above so that the mutual friends can see what's really going on. Although there can be a great deal of satisfaction in revenge. It should be anonymous though. If you seek revenge, find a subtle, sneaky way to release the damning information so that no one knows it was you. Leaving piece of paper where others can find it is a good one. Having a guy friend call her number while her boyfriend is around. Putting her number on the bathroom wall. I'd better stop.

Answer 4

The sweetest revenge is always to prove them wrong.
By actions, not words, make it clear that these were vicious rumours, and not based on truth.
If you go around bitching about her, then everyone will know why you are doing it, and it will just make you look bad.
Don't give her the satisfaction of knowing that she has got to you.....I would go so far as to make out that you are really happy and enjoying life whenever she is around. This will make her look like the loser that she is, as whilst you are enjoying life, she has to spread gossip to make her life exciting.
But if you need to do something immature to make yourself feel better, make it look accidental, not plotted - ie - "drop" a really unflattering picture of her in a bikini ( or something like that) out of a magazine / drawer when there are people around.
Just don't stoop to her level and get catty, and you will soon see who has the last laugh.

Answer 5

Poor you! Rise above it and move on - treat her with the respect she deserves - NONE!!

As long as you know the real truth then thats all that matters and true friends and family will believe you. The best revenge in my book is by living your life and enjoying yourself. She is obviously jealous of you and has such a boring life that she has to actually do strupid stuff like that!

Answer 6

Live well.

You don't want to be like her. She's insecure, gossipy, and none of her friends can trust her now that they've seen what she's done to you. Why should you be like that by stooping to her level?

You probably won't have to get revenge. Your "friend" will bring her own punishment on herself, eventually. Usually these people end up destroying what friendships they have and are abandoned, the harder they try to make themselves feel important.

Just continue to live kindly and true. Confront her if you want -- not out of anger, but just "I know what you've done, I forgive you, but I can't be as good friends with someone I can't trust anymore, I'm sorry."

Let your friends know that the rumors are not true, if they don't realize it -- but don't get caught up in trying to justify yourself.

The best justification that you have is to "shame" your friend by being a decent human being and someone worthy of trust and respect.

Hang in there. I know that betrayal is hard. Find new people whom you know are trustworthy.

Answer 7

Ur best revenge is to be happy and at peace with urself most of all make sure u climb higher than her so u can look down on her.Never wrestle with a pig cos it will be happy when u're dirty. So let her be,u sure don't need such kind of friends cos they pull u back.Spent more of ur physical and mental resources trying to be the best of the best.

Answer 8

first of all this friend is not a friend,as they do not do that, i know, coz i'v had a few "friends" like that! the best revenge is just to pretend that none of this bothers you, coz they obviously wanted a reaction from you,its an attention thing! so just ignore then completly,but don't be rude answer the phone and that,but just keep making yourself convieniently unavailable when they're there. if all that fails,then just punch them and be done with it,lol! good luck and keep calm. :)

Answer 9

I had the samething a few years ago my friend and i were that close we were like sisters. We went on holiday together with our children and i told her things no one else knew. I got sh*t on from a great height by her. i couldnt believe she was not really my friend at all. It hurt like hell, ive never contacted her or wished her any harm. I dont miss her in my life as im content with my real friends and family. I think that your 'friend' has issues with herself and is jealous of you. let it go honey your much better than her she will want you before you ever want her x x x

Answer 10

Rise above it.It makes you a better person.Dont bring yourself down to her level.Your true friends will know her rumours were a lot of rubbish.It sounds like she is jealous of you,and trying to make your other friends turn against you.Well ha ha it didnt work.Live your life without bitterness,she is not worth the effort.Take care