2006-06-21 03:19:54 · 25 answers · asked by tysonville1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
well sometimes we can't help who we fall in love with and believe me I fully understand your situation. There are several reasons why men that say they are unhappy at home won't leave, sometimes it's because they might be unhappy but the wife has no idea there is a problem. But sometimes there is no real problem at home and he just wants something more. What you do depends on how long you are willing to wait if you can't take it anymore then it might be time to move on.
2006-06-21 12:53:39 · answer #1 · answered by tarzan's lady again 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's married. You leave him alone and if he decides to leave his wife, THEN you can persue a relationship. But realize, if he's not divorcing, then chances are he doesn't want to leave her. He probably still loves her and the odds are against you.
Find someone who is single and don't get involved in a situation where everyone is bound to get hurt. And realize that if he would cheat on his wife now, it's not necessarily any different for you.
2006-06-21 03:25:50 · answer #2 · answered by Melissa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It isn't helping him or his wife to save their relationship if you try to pull him away -- and if he does get divorced and you are involved, can you live with the knowledge of how you undermined another woman who thought she could trust her man?
His lack of commitment to his own wife would also raise questions in your mind about what he might do to you if he becomes unhappy with your relationship.
It is also a bad bet to depend on a man to leave his wife for you. Right now, he is unhappy... but you are helping to secure him in his current lifestyle. He gets the financial security and stability of being married, while he can go to you for all his emotional (and maybe physical) needs.
He might not mean to do it, but he's using you to alleviate his unhappiness, rather than finding ways to deal with his current relationship.
So, with your involvement, he has even less reason to divorce.
I know you are really attracted to him and feel like you care about him, but you are only contributing to heartache -- not just his and his wife's, but your own.
Find a man whom you have no doubts will be committed to you as a person.
2006-06-21 03:30:21 · answer #3 · answered by Jennywocky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay away!!! All marriages have ups and downs. He needs to deal with his feelings and situations at home, NOT with you! The grass isn't greener on the other side, he needs to take care of his own yard.
Remove yourself from the situation, do NOT take his calls, mail, or presents. Develop your own hobbies and interests. It will be very hard at first, and hurt for about a month. Then the feelings will start to resolve. Remember, if he is cheating on his wife, he will cheat with you, too. Maybe not now, but he will eventually. Respect yourself, care for yourself, do not be used in this selfish way.
2006-06-21 03:30:40 · answer #4 · answered by suebayrn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as its not my husband cause someone would get hurt. Hes married chick MARRIED! He didn't get that way being unhappy, and when u mess w/ a married man the wife will always win, one way or another. He will remeber the happy times soon enough and will make new ones. sorry
2006-06-28 03:24:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wont divorce for a reason----- and I sure hope you dont fall for his cheap talk because what goes around, comes around and if ever your happily married, your husbands gonna tell some young floozy that hes not and say the same lying lines to her. Leave the marriage alone and dont be considered a "home wrecker". Trust me---- he's playing you.
2006-06-21 04:16:01 · answer #6 · answered by heavensent41770 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
like some one already said he is married he may be unhappy but he chose to be married he choose that women he choose not to be faithful to her so even if he does leave her why the hell do you think hell stay faithful to you what makes u different then her why do u think that he wouldnt lie to u his lover if he can so easily lie to he women he was bonded to forever in the sight of God and man so my advice to u get ur own man and leave married men alone he has a family that u are breaking up!!!!!!!!!!
2006-06-21 03:28:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to ask yourself...Is he really not happy with his home life...If he wasnt happy...more than likely he would leave it behind. I think he just wants the best of both worlds...And you have to ask yourself...do you want to be the "other woman"? Hun...it sounds bad...but you need to get out...life is to short to be waiting around for someone thats not coming. Good Luck with yourself...you will find someone else that loves u back and that will be with you.
2006-06-21 03:27:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is an old saying that you always want what you can't have. Maybe you are more in love with this idea than with the man. Leave him alone.
2006-06-21 03:52:25 · answer #9 · answered by Jen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MAYBE, HE IS TELLING YOU HE ISN'T HAPPY, AND TELLING HIS WIFE, HOW MUCH HE LOVES HER. IN MY OPINION, I WOULD NEVER GET INVOLVED WITH A MARRIED MAN, HAPPY OR NOT, IT ISN'T RIGHT, IF HE REALLY CARES FOR YOU, HE WOULD DIVORCE HIS WIFE AND START A NEW LIFE WITH YOU, SOMEONE WILL ALWAYS GET HURT, ODDS ARE IT WILL BE YOU.
2006-06-21 03:46:58 · answer #10 · answered by BETTYBOO 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋