or would you stop.Or would you carry on in secret? It's not as dumb a question as you might think, alot of people are unwilling to change the things they do,just to make someone else happy.I'm not talking about any one in particular,I'm just curious to your answers really.Thanks!
2006-06-21 03:13:44 · 19 answers · asked by cc 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
It's a great question... really it is.
I find myself making that call a lot.
I'd say... consider the GREATER GOOD... and act accordingly.
For example... My wife doesn't like ANY INTERACTION with my EX-WIFE... she doesn't even like me TALKING to her... But my SON (who lives with me) is a product of that marriage.
Sometimes My ex and I will communicate through e-mail... to deal with an issue... and I'll just NOT MENTION that to my current wife.
The greater good. There are other examples... but this one I think is pretty cut and dried.
2006-06-21 03:17:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 20⤊ 8⤋
That really depends on how important the issue is to me and how much it upsets my girlfriend.
If the issue is that I shouldn't smoke unless I'm next to a window, I would stop doing it. It's really not a big deal to smoke next to an open window or go outside, and the relationship is worth more than worrying about something little like that. If it upsets her and it's easy to fix without seriously upsetting my lifestyle, no problem.
But let's say she was upset that I perform my poetry once a week at an open mic and said I couldn't do it anymore, I needed to spend more time with her. Well, then I would still do it... that's part of my life and my personality, and I have friends that I go to see and read with. I would tell her that, and I would also recognize that she wants to spend more time with me... so I'd tell her I'd find time somewhere else, and we could talk about that. But I would not stop going to the open mic night.
Just a couple of examples! :)
2006-06-21 03:19:17 · answer #2 · answered by JStrat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would try to understand why it upset my partner. My partner would have to be able to explain why I shouldn't do it and if I thought they were right (it may well be something I hadn't thought about or was even aware of) I would try my best to change, If I disagreed then I wouldn't. If it really upset her and she couldn't explain why, I would try to cahnge. If I tried to chage but couldn't (more likely without the understanding bit) it would be best to break up. No point in being in a relationship that makes you unhappy, or where one person hurts the other be it intensional or not, I would give understanding and trying to change a real good shot first though. This is why its so important to try to really undersatnd where each other is coming from.
2006-06-21 03:25:11 · answer #3 · answered by freddy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends if it benefits you or not If you weigh the cost/benefit ratio and it turns out in your favour then do it, it also or course depends on individual personality and moral differences, some people value honesty more then others while some value their own needs and wants over everything. There is no right or wrong answer you just have to find out what you value more to yourself
2006-06-21 03:19:33 · answer #4 · answered by christ_questioner 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it was a personality quirk of mine, then i would cary on. But also, i have to admit, i do have something in my make-up that enjoys annoying people, so if it was something that annoyed my partner, as opposed to upset him, chances are i would still do it, for pure devilment.
If you truly love and respect your partner, you should do only those things that make him happy - cut out all your bad habits, friends, company etc - and concentrate on making him the centre of your world
2006-06-21 03:33:31 · answer #5 · answered by B F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not a dumb question but it is hard to answer a question when there is no information. There are important things and such left out of your question that a mate could be doing here.
2006-06-21 03:19:33 · answer #6 · answered by Fergy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What would you do if u had already upsetted your partners?
I'll never upset them twice coz they're my partners. However, if that's what I must do in any way, I'll talk to them so that they can understand me & will not upset with that. Sometimes it's not that easy to talk & make them understand. It all depends on us.
Either we or our partners will have to sacrifice personal opinions to better everything.
2006-06-21 03:26:12 · answer #7 · answered by à¹? (¯`v´¯)iChAi à¹? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A couple of examples
1. My partner does not like how I fold my money.
2. my partner does not like where I place the milk carton in the refrigerator.
For #1, - it's none of their businesses (or as I've told her before, that is my domain, - not yours)
for #2, -I can compromise.
2006-06-21 03:18:47 · answer #8 · answered by MK6 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what it is and what kind of relationship you have. If it's gonna hurt him or her should they find out, you better stop doing it or tell them right away. I find that being honest is far easier and more rewarding in the long run.
2006-06-21 03:20:01 · answer #9 · answered by Doppelgangland 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on the situation b/c there are things that I do that drives my husband up the wall, and I continue to do them. Then, if it is not something silly, I will quit.
2006-06-21 03:22:53 · answer #10 · answered by RainCloud 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ive stopped many things that upset my husband, for his sake, and he's done the same for me. Thats how marriage works. Everything for the sake of your love.
2006-06-21 03:15:49 · answer #11 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋