My partner constantly does little things that annoy me (drives me insane) What can i do?

Question

Please help me.

Things like: not cleaning up after themselves, not putting anything in the bin, not using the numerous ashtrays, leaving dirty clothes scattedred randomly, scum in the bath, toe nail clippings, crums, spillages, general mess in the kitchen, loosing things all the time, forgetting things, DIY disaster ...

Need i carry on?

Answer 1

Talk to him about it. Make him understand that you can not go on like this, perhaps he'll straighten up. I had the same problem with my older sister. I like that my things be kept tidy, and she's always making a mess. I talked to her about it several times. Now we don't live together anymore, but she often comes and stay for a week or so. When she's over she knows to clean up after herself because she knows I won't tolerate it.

Answer 2

10 things that drive me to the brink of mental insanity..... 10. The yellow watery liquid that comes out of the mustard bottle. 9. Someone who feels it's cool to text message you using all acronyms (OMG, LOL, U R A QT!) Speak English! 8. A friend who ignores you on the phone, because they are talking online. You hear them typing, and say, "Do you want me to call you later?" They say, "No, sorry." But continue to type! And the silence continues!!! 7. Middle-aged moms who think they have the magical ability to talk on their cell phones and drive, all while having 6 kids in the car. Meanwhile, they are swerving into your lane, and side-swiping you. 6. When my cats knock down my Christmas tree and break all the ornaments....I know they did it on purpose!!!! 5. Paper cuts between my fingers. Ouch. 4. Jared from the Subway commercials. Enough already! Congratularions on losing weight. Now get a new spokesperson....maybe a cute chiauau (sp?).....oh wait, that's Taco Bell. 3. People who try to force breakfast on me. (Example: You sure you don't want something little? Like maybe a piece of toast?) NO!!! I said, I don't eat breakfast! Do you think your toast is magic or something, and will make me magically hungry? 2. When the weather guy wears a navy blue jacket with a fuschia and purple tie. This is going on as we speak, and I can't even find out if it's going to snow tomorrow, because I can't look at him. 1. My all time number one.....when someone takes up one and a half parking spaces. You know who you are.....I want to key your car!

Answer 3

True love is when we can accept someone and love them despite their faults.

That said, there is nothing wrong with sitting down with your partner and talk about the things that are bothering you. I wouldn't necessarily just sit and give this person a list of everything that is wrong with him/her. But instead, sit down and explain that you are concerned because you feel like all of the housework is falling on your shoulders and it would be really helpful if he/she helped you pick up around the house.

Don't tackle all the faults at once, but pick the ones that are most important to you and handle them one at a time. You don't want to be a nag, but you are entitled to express how you feel.

This could be an opportunity to grow closer together. I would also give your partner an opportunity to talk to you about any of the things that you do that drive him/her crazy. A Partnership works both ways.

If your partner is unwilling to change these things you then are faced with decision - are these things that are driving you crazy worth putting up with to be with this person? It's possible that it is. If not, then you have to decide if this relationship is really working for you.

It is difficult for a very clean person to live with a messy one. It takes a special relationship to survive this particular challenge.

Answer 4

try and think if you can live with it. if you can then learn to love it to avoid you getting insane. take a piece of paper and write down thing that annoys you about your partner and also things that you love about your partner. I am most certain that if you love him the love side will outweigh the annoy one.

the other way is to go against the "two wrongs dont make a right". you behave exactly the same way he does and try and put up with it for a week, without cleaning up anything and see how it goes. i bet something will definately change.

good luck

Answer 5

Increase your tolerance level and try to ignore the irritation as much as possible, talk to him (cant humanly possible be a her!)(or maybe not, in which case) or her to find out if anything is the matter and let him/her know exactly how you feel (especially if you still really love them) OR get out of the relationship. Its your choice.

You should be in control of your emotions by the way and if you cant choose to be tolerant (if its impossible without giving unduly and unfairly too much when compared to your partner), then just let it go, its probably not worth it anyhow.

Answer 6

Don't let it annoy you

we live in a world where we break up with someone for these small reasons

if he makes you laugh and you love him then that's what matters

take one thing at a time that annoys you and ask him to stop doing that one thing -

so for example say I won't clean anything of yours unless it's in the laundry basket!!!!

also don't clean after them
leave it - he will get fed up with it one day and will start doing it himself

otherwise just get a cleaner!!!

Answer 7

I hate to tell you this but that is the male condition. Me and my partner had the same problem we talked about it i mean really talked then HE suggested i made him a written routine it took awhile but now even though he leaves his clothes on the bathroom floor i know when he comes back from work he'll put a load of washing on

Answer 8

Well have a serious talk with him/her and let them know on a serious level how it makes you feel. You had to of put this in the marriage divorce section for a reason tell them that is the behavior does not change youll have to go. That is way more than I would be able to handle myself.

Answer 9

Try going on strike for a while, then let him sit in his own filth. He'll either do something about it or you'll realise what a pig he is and come to your senses. Thank his mother for bringing him up so badly!

Answer 10

Start making plans for a new partner, or just to escape the trash one