I have a friend called Daz. Whenever I speak to him he is in the pub or has just left the pub. Whenever I see him he is pissed and always has a can in his hand. He often wakes up in strange places and wee's himself. He won't admit he had a problem what can I do?
2006-06-21 02:56:57 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
sounds like he has a problem..........u can't fix it.
2006-06-21 02:59:19 · answer #1 · answered by SouthernKNC 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say he definitely has a "drinking" problem. Drinking can certainly change ones personality. They often do NOT admit they have a problem. My ex was an alcoholic, and he NEVER admitted he had a problem. He said he can handle drinking. Unfortuneately, telling them they do HAVE a problem only makes them angrier and they deny it to the hilt. Sometimes they have to hit rock bottom before they pick themselves up and realize what they are doing to themselves and people around them, especially the people that care about them.
You can try talking to him and letting him know that you are there for him whenever he needs you. Tell him you are worried about him and if there is anything you can do you will be glad to help.
2006-06-21 10:04:35 · answer #2 · answered by allyp51 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend will only seek help if or when he recognises he has a problem. If he does have an alcohol problem, several areas of his life will have been affected ... i.e. physical health, mental health, work, relationships, self esteem, finances - if you ask him questions about these areas and can get him to make the connection between any problems he has and his alcohol consumption, you will be helping to motivate him towards recovery. Also it can be tempting for friends and relatives to protect a drinker from the consequences of their drinking i.e. lend them money, make telephone calls to excuse them from work, lie for them etc ... this is not helping the drinker, it is enabling them to continue drinking. Eventually it is the problems caused by drinking that will motivate a person to seek help. This is an opinion only but I speak from personal and professional experience.
2006-06-21 10:24:01 · answer #3 · answered by Big Eyed Fish 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry to say but not alot really, u can tell him that your concerned about the amount he is drinking but it will probably go in one ear and out the other. if he wants to quit then he will have to make that decision for himself if he doesn't c the problem then why would he wanna sort it out. u could point out the local piss head that stands about the town with a can and tell him that's where hes gonna end up c if that knocks some sense into him.
2006-06-21 10:59:29 · answer #4 · answered by blondebirdcrazy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try and go to a place or do something where there isn't any alcholo - like go to the cinama and not have a drink before you go.
if he can stay without a drink for a few hours - then there's hope.
then the next time try something that takes a whole day with no drinking - like maybe go hikking - or something where he can't get a drink -
it really works - but need lots of your time
if he can't take it ( ie no drinking for even a few hours) then I'm sorry to say you can't help - he needs AA
2006-06-21 10:19:10 · answer #5 · answered by Lulu Ferrari 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first step is admitting you have a problem. AA is a wonderful program. Maybe give him some literature about it or try to have a heart to heart with him. Just let him know he's got someone to talk to. It's a good thing you're concerned about your friend, but you can't fix his problem.
2006-06-21 10:02:39 · answer #6 · answered by MANDY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it does seem to me that your friend has a problem with alcohol,unfortunatley there is not a lot you can do for him at the moment until he realises himself first, alcohol is an awful thing to become addicted to i know coz i have been there myself. the best thing you could possibly do for him is to just be there when things fall apart u wont get much thanx for going on at him while he has this problem but believe me eventually things will get on top of him in the end and thats where u will be very much needed. its nice to know ur a good enough mate to realise fair play to u! a lot of support and good friendship means more than anything. he obviously must be quite down in himself to think alcohol is comforting but my theory is its the worst thing in the world to become addicted to.if when he starts to drink first thing in the morning thats the big tell tale sign. good luck
2006-06-26 13:36:24 · answer #7 · answered by fannyannie_1971 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
by the sounds of it yes he is and he needs help asap
ive got a friend like that and he has been into clinics and dried out but then got back on the bottle and aslo the doctors have said if he continues to drink then he is going to die as his liver cannot take anymore and his throat is so sore as he can drink a full bottle of whisky down in one then a bottle of vodka...to me when people get like that is they are crying out for help as with mt friend its because of his child hood.......but your friend needs to stop now or he will be in an early grave.....the problem is alcohol is a depressant even though it feels good at the time it brings you down even more and then you start thinking things and thats when you get into trouble with the law!!!! please print this out and show your friend.... his life is worth living for no matter what it is hes hiding!!!! good luck
2006-06-21 10:54:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, your friend has a drinking problem. Until your friend admits to having a problem he can't be helped. If and when he does realize that his lifestyle isn't healthy and that it needs to be changed, support him. It's hard to watch a friend do something like this, but there's not much you can do right now.
2006-06-21 10:40:58 · answer #9 · answered by Jen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont do anything. Speaking from experience the more you push someone into admiting they have a problem the more they will do it.Just hold tight and when the time is right he will admit it and when they do then you can offer him suport.The thing is that when he does theres not alot you can do he has to want to do it himself.But good luck and keep me posted.
2006-06-21 12:06:16 · answer #10 · answered by kelly w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you like HIM, but don't like his excessive drinking. Tell him you are happy to see him, but NOT when he is drinking. If you phone him and he is at the pub, tell him you will call back later, and hang up. If he comes to you and has been drinking, tell him you'll see him when he sobers up and shut the door in his face.
Sometimes it takes losing friends or losing jobs to make a person realize that the drinking is destroying their lives.
2006-06-21 10:10:42 · answer #11 · answered by kill_yr_television 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋