Just recently hubby bought me a new car, we each have vehicles(mine is newer) plus a van for recreation.Yesterday morning he asks to borrow my car for work I said yeah sure no problem,then he comes in and has to go to his second job,says can I borrow it again,I said yeah ok.Well then this morning he asks can he borrow the car again!Comeon!it kinda takes the "my"outta my car,he just got his out of the shop a few days ago,theres nothing wrong with his car!I let him know I was kinda irritated cause whereas I can go do the stuff I need to do later when he comes home...what if I wanted to do it earlier?? in "MY"car.He says well take the van X( .I don't wanna take the van!!!Am I being selfish??or do you see my point?
2006-06-21 00:49:31 · 20 answers · asked by Lin 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No Kasthy I am not Jobless,I have three children for him!and I am a sales consultant for Mary Kay,so I should think not!I take care of him just as he does me!and if someone bought you a gift and wanted to use it all the time then,my dear it would not be yours!if he wanted to buy a car for both are use then he should have said it was"our"car.I have no problem with him driving it but it is two days in a row now.I don't mind him using it sometime like say yesterday, then again tomorrow or whenver..but this is becoming a pattern.
2006-06-21 01:20:37 · update #1
I see your point, but obviously he doesn't. Did he buy YOU a car for YOU or did he buy it just so he could say he bought you a car? You need to sit him down, talk it out and if the car is yours, it's yours. Explain your need to have something to call your own and if it was a gift for you, then he shouldn't be dictating it's use. Work it out.
2006-06-21 00:57:29 · answer #1 · answered by lmdragonldy 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
No, you are not being selfish. But ya'll are both being uncommunicative. You have three serviceable vehicles - the van is for the odd jobs, I assume - but his car is now out of the shop. Ah, but he has had the pleasure of driving your newer car for a couple of days and doesn't want to give it up. Surely you can understand that - however, you have a few choices: 1) let him continue to "borrow" your car until it becomes "his" car; 2) say "no, honey, I have some errands I will be doing while you are at work today, why don't you go back to using the ______ (fill in the name of the make of "his" car; or 3) "honey, this is kinda becoming a habit with you and I miss using my car - what's going on ?"
2006-06-21 00:56:43 · answer #2 · answered by two 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did your hubby buy the car from his own money? Are you jobless? In this case you should be less selfish cause he worked for you to have a car while you stay home and do nothing. Are you the kind of woman who says "your is ours?"...like his money is your money, too. Then why isn't your car, his also? You are too selfish indeed.
2006-06-21 00:58:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
mmmm i do see your point, but it's not worth getting your knickers in a knot over .my bf bought me a nice new car and sometimes he likes to drive it cause it is nicer to drive than his old 4wd, so i just let him drive it , but when i need it i say nope i need it today love sorry, sometimes you just have to go with the flow and don't let stupid stuff like this cause problems, men are like little boys with their toys, take the van sometimes and take the car sometimes it really is no big deal.forget this MY car and HIs van business, you're marrried so it should be OURS , marriage is a bit like i record , u love whats on one side but u just gotta take what u get on the other ..LOL
2006-06-21 00:56:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be glad to have transportation! You have multiple vehicles so what's the big deal? Some people would be glad to be in your position.
It's kinda like a new toy. After the newness wears off it'll be no big deal.
2006-06-21 00:55:26 · answer #5 · answered by Matt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes your being selfish, more like a spoiled brat. don't you know man? a car is a big toy for then and he just wants to enjoy it as well .what the big deal. if its was the other way around would want to enjoy the car
2006-06-21 11:11:31 · answer #6 · answered by Kitty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is just enjoying the new car. Yeah its yours but it sounds like he is having some fun. If you dont want him doing it anymore just say so.
2006-06-21 00:53:30 · answer #7 · answered by sicilygal2581 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him the car. Then, you will not feel irritated when he uses it. Technically, when you are married, all items bought belong to both of you.
2006-06-21 00:59:50 · answer #8 · answered by wbecca52 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see ur piont why use ur car when his is fine and he could use the van instead i fink u are NOT being selfish
2006-06-21 00:54:46 · answer #9 · answered by Pope Joe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No...tell him this is your car he gave it to you and he can take the van. You need to put your foot down
2006-06-21 00:53:48 · answer #10 · answered by Pete 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋