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Someone you care about is pregnant and alone and afaid coz her boyfriend abandoned her. She looks to you for moral support and you give as much as you can at the moment. If its not enough for her and there's anything else please let me know. I care deeply for this friend and would see her in a better lot than life has currently given her.
Any suggestions at all.
Thank you.

2006-06-21 00:32:23 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Arts & Humanities Philosophy

8 answers

Im sure its more than enuf for her. thanks

2006-06-23 11:39:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4 0

Try helping her get involved with as many programs as you can find.

Help her fill out papers or get a good idea about welfare. Benefits for housing and mortgage for women with children.

Start getting her to consider her education and start learning a trade or continuing school so she can get her diploma or go to night school.

If you guys are lucky maybe she can find a good work at home job. Maybe she can start selling things on eBay. Give her a good idea of how to file taxes while claiming her child.

As for the man who abandoned her she needs to be prepared. He may want to start claiming the child on the taxes too. He may come back into her life and mess up again she needs to shield herself from those who think of her as vulnerable.

She must become active and proud because this is her life and the life of someone else. Also let her have her options and choice if she wants an abortion respect her decision. She is an adult not a child.

2006-06-21 07:53:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

The best moral support you can give her is encouraging her to learn self-reliance. She'll need to draw from innner strength to raise a child alone; many people have done it and their children have thrived.

She feels alone and afraid because someone she cared about and trusted abandoned her - many people would be unsure of themselves in this situation. The best thing you can do is to help her find other resources and support. You can't do it all for her, and will eventually exhaust yourself trying. She's found a sympathetic ear in you - don't allow her to bend it until it hurts.

You're very kind to want to help, but there's only so much a person can do to help another. She has to find inner strength and stop the pity party. We've all had bad things happen to us in our lives; it's what you learn from adversity that determines the course of life, not the events themselves.

2006-06-23 10:36:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

That first answer is the best... there are folks out there who's life is just hard core chaos. If you care for them, maybe the best thing to do is to play the hard line and let them know you can't let their chaotic life disturb your own until they can learn to stand on their own two feet. Mother grizly bears chase their children up trees and leave in order to make them grow up... sometimes chaotic friends need the same.

2006-06-21 09:37:56 · answer #4 · answered by jeffrude 2 · 0 0

unfortunately, there is only so much we can do for loved ones....We can offer an ear or a shoulder, but it is the inner light of THAT person which must ultimately provide the direction and comfort to ones own spirituality......You sound like a great friend and I am sure you are doing all you can do already

2006-06-21 07:37:41 · answer #5 · answered by zoinks22 3 · 0 0

Once a damsel in distress....always a damsel in distress.

2006-06-21 07:37:09 · answer #6 · answered by ikwya 2 · 0 0

be supportive, but you cannot be her only source of strength. she does need to learn indepenedence and strength on her own.

2006-06-21 09:07:14 · answer #7 · answered by LEMME ANSWER THAT! 6 · 0 0

can you become roommates? help her through her pregnancy.

2006-06-21 07:37:56 · answer #8 · answered by dude 5 · 0 0

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