My first marriage of 18 yrs, the abuse progressed, and toward the end it became physical. Eventually hospitalized and surgery. I found a poem for those who are in a situation to read carefully. Please go to my 360 page. Not enough room to place it here.
2006-06-21 00:25:07 · 11 answers · asked by Pammie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Poem had difficulty downloading..it is there now...thanks for your patience.
2006-06-21 00:44:17 · update #1
Please, if you have not experienced this...your comments are welcome, but please do not make cruel comments. Thanks.
2006-06-21 00:48:56 · update #2
OMG!! That poem made me cry. I was the victim of an abusive relationship for 10 years before i could get out. Finally Oct 5 2005 he strangled me and almost killed me. I was put in the hospital and he was arrested on attemted murder. He plead to attempted strangulation and domestic battery and got 15 years in prison from it (both are felonies in my state ).
I went throught the cycle of sorries and flowers and it would never happen again.
The worst part was the night before this he bought me roses. My daughter told me after this happened that she knew he was going to beat me that day.... that is why she went to the neigbors when she got home from school. I asked how she knew that...... she replied "Mom, he bought you flowers last night."
2006-06-21 04:05:30 · answer #1 · answered by wyldfyre 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I have had several abusive boyfriends and have had bones broken, been pinned against a wall by my throat and lots of other bad things. It can take a long while to build up the courage to break away from an abusive relationship as your self esteem is rock bottom so it is no good people saying "Why don't you just leave?" also I hid things from people as I thought it was my fault that I was getting hit. It took a good friend to tell me that it was not my fault and that I had somewhere to go when I decided to leave. If there is anyone reading this please do not suffer in silence, there always other options or somewhere you can go if you are in this situation. You can have a happy life, there is no need to stay with someone who abuses you in any way.
2006-06-21 02:13:44 · answer #2 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can't find poem great photos hope you are much happier now would like to view poem
Thanks for sending me the poem This is very true for some women
Interesting that women truly believe men are sorry for their actions and how we as women start to feel guilty thinking it must be something we said or done which slowly eats at our confidence and our ability to make good choices for both ourselves and our kids
2006-06-21 00:41:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My spouse don't in any way. However, i sympathize with your 18 year lost marriage. I wish I had known you then maybe it would have been another story. Sometimes a little patience and wisdom change things. I'll look at your 360 page as recommended.
2006-06-21 00:30:52 · answer #4 · answered by Sage_Learner 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm no longer a psychiatrist, which will be the guy who might want to perfect answer your question. i might want to say that in case you get remote from that individual for some days and experience like a weight has been lifted off you, then that relationship is abusive to you. i imagine it takes 2 to make a wedding ceremony, so that is confusing to say that one individual is abusive. Relationships can develop into so finished of detrimental skill, you should leave on your own psychological or emotional well being. perchance purely getting some area contained in the relationship might want to diffuse it.
2016-10-20 11:07:11 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my husband has not abused me in any matter and i'm sorry you endured such a loveless relationship for so many years.,it's a shame you could not find the courage to leave before it got to the point of him putting you in the hospital,i had a friend who went through the same crap and it hurt me to sit back and watch her drift away into a world i could not possibly understand,i spoke out to her and to that jerk i tried to get her help but she was beyond that too,only those who wake up as you did though in a God awful way and reach out for help nothing anyone says or does will matter and it is truely sad,i'm glad you and my friend are past that stage in life and i wish you nothing but complete happiness,always keep in mind no-one is more important than yourself,you do matter you are great,beautiful and strong.good luck/maybe you can help others who are going through the same as you once did!
2006-06-21 00:46:20 · answer #6 · answered by PURPLEANGEL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry you got screwed over,Me all the above also(male married /divorced.Married 22 years.Also a NYS Vol. Medical First Responder.Guess some people are just born assholes.Youll get yours someday-God will take care of you,For taking care of others.DAVE,sge4me@yahoo.com
2006-06-21 02:08:49 · answer #7 · answered by lickit4u 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Went and looked for the poem...but nothing. Great wedding picture though...Congrats!
2006-06-21 00:30:01 · answer #8 · answered by Pj 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anyone in that "situation" doesn't need a poem, They need to get the **** out....Then they can read poems.
2006-06-21 00:33:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Abuse is progressive..that is sadly the nature of it. I am so sad you had to suffer.
2006-06-21 00:31:57 · answer #10 · answered by Toolooroo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋