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You care for anumber of people and sincerely for someone in particular. That person sees you as neglectful in your attention even though you try your upmost best. Meanwhile your family is shaking under pressure and the time you spend to help others has removed your social life entirely. You've become an unpaid counsellor to those you love.
What do you do?
Abandonement to their issues is NOT an option-sorry.
Where to find the strength to fight a dozen life issues from a dozen people?

2006-06-21 00:24:29 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Arts & Humanities Philosophy

10 answers

Just give up. Cant win em all. Abandonment is always an option, usually the best. Works for me.

2006-06-23 11:40:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3 0

I would never suggest you abandon other people and their obvious reliance on your advice. It is difficult but you cannot and will not be able to continue giving good advice if you don't give yourself a break, or at least a rest of sorts! Try and get at least one evening a week to yourself, just to let your brain cool off and then you'll be rejuvinated. Try and listen to everyone but concentrate on one problem at a time, trying to solve it before you go on to the next one. Also try and spread them around - if you think two people with problems might be able to help each other, don't be afraid to suggest it. Don't forget how much good you're doing these people and remember also that the bad patch can't last forever!

2006-06-21 07:56:55 · answer #2 · answered by memilina 2 · 0 0

Take the time you need to keep yourself strong. You can't help others if you are weak from giving too much. Give robustly and so the world gives to you but you must be very fit to fight the good fight.

Its like exercise. The more you do, the more you can do. However optimal fitness requires periods of rest. If you don't rest your ability to perform as an athlete philanthropist will lessen quickly.

2006-06-21 21:53:23 · answer #3 · answered by megalomaniac 7 · 0 0

I am a counsellor for my friends too...but in my situation, I listen to them, but I also tell them my issues. When you listen to a friend's issues, when he makes a pause/finishes , tell him YOUR issues. This way, you make him think about something else and you get rid of a part your problems (only by saying your problems to another person, you can find a solution given or descovered). Good luck!

2006-06-21 08:16:03 · answer #4 · answered by ota marmota 3 · 0 0

I dont think you should abandon their issues, but attention to yourself should be of utmost importance. If you are not taking care of your own mental health and stability, you won't be much good to them. Besides, sometimes the best kindness you can offer to someone, is to let them deal with their problems on their own. It will make them stronger and healthier.

2006-06-21 07:47:08 · answer #5 · answered by Tangle Elfshimmer 4 · 0 0

Go in your room and dance to your favorite songs.

Fix yourself your favorite kinds of food even if it's fast food.

Celebrate who you are as a person, what you stand for and your achievements.

Get others involved in your fun activities and if they don't like it then just go without them. You need to have fun and if they aren't hopping on for the ride then to hell with them....for the moment.

I bought myself a q-link necklace and now other peoples negative EMF fields don't effect me. If there grumpy in the morning.... OH WELL that's their problem....for the moment.

Watch your favorite movie.

To keep it short, just do what women do when there on their periods.

2006-06-21 08:25:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

When I serve others I do it for the glory to God not myself. God knows I cannot do it all but there is always something, however small it is, that I can do. When I seek to glorify Him everything else seems to fall into place.

2006-06-21 07:38:06 · answer #7 · answered by Frank O 2 · 0 0

stop being a people fixer and take care of yourself. When your friends see you do that they will realize that the healthy and responsible way to live is to take care of YOURSELF first.

2006-06-21 07:35:32 · answer #8 · answered by ikwya 2 · 0 0

My mom taught me and I'm now telling you:
"If you don't take care of you, you can't take care of somebody else."

Take care. You know what to do... will take some getting used to though on all sides.

2006-06-21 07:28:38 · answer #9 · answered by Puppy Zwolle 7 · 0 0

If Yahoo! answers is consuming your life that much, just stop! Throw out your computer if need be.

2006-06-21 07:28:51 · answer #10 · answered by my brain hurts 5 · 0 0

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