I dunno i feel like ive used up whatever love I had i mean it feels like even if i ever found the girl that i want...i wont be able to fall in love agine i just dont know mabye i should give up i mean seriously first i need to find the girl then i might not even be able to love her the same way grrr it jus seems hopeless
2006-06-20 23:59:20 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Chris, Never give up on love, Never!!!
The reason I say that is because I am currently in my third marriage and very happy cause we have been married almost 12 years...
Now here is the reason you don't want to give up...
I never thought I would have this in my life...
I was married 2 other times before...
My first marriage was in my 20's and lasted 9 years and he cheated on me and was talked into taking drugs...
My second marriage was in my 30's and lasted 7 years and I had my daughter, and again my husband was cheating on me and he was an alcoholic...
Remember now, each time I thought I was doing the right thing...
I never cheated or lied...
I loved like it would be forever...
I had my heart broken twice by those other 2 marriages and by those men I loved...
I was sure I would never love again...
Well I was wrong...
I met a new man about 15 years ago when I was in my 40's...
I went out with him and he had been through the very same thing as me...
He had been cheated on and left by other women...
It is so strange saying this cause it seems we were made for each other by our very past that drew us together...
So now in my 3rd marriage, I am able to love a third time in my life and I have someone to take care of me now, and I know he will never leave me because he had it done to him in the past, so he knows what it is like to lose love...
We both are now bonded by a love that has stood the test of time and other failed marriages...
So my advice to you is, never give up...
Someone else may be on the path to you right now...
But I also say, do not look for them and do not seek them out...
They must come to you in your hour of need...
People are placed in our paths to come into contact with us just when we need them most...
I promise you that...
So please be patient and make yourself a better person in advance for their arrival and just wait...
Love will come again in the right time for you and you alone...
2006-06-23 08:04:11 · answer #1 · answered by aspenkdp2003 7 · 6⤊ 1⤋
Particularly when we have sexual relationships, if there's a breakup after that, in a very real sense we do leave a part of ourselves behind, and the other person also leaves a part of themselves behind with us(1).
It is not humanly possible to change that, but with God all things are possible(2). All you've got to to do basically is trust in Him and what He's already done for you(3). Think of all the things you've ever done wrong(4), and ask Him for a clean slate for everything(5) so you can start over with Him, indeed, your life can become an example to those around you of God and His goodness(6).
He is always there, waiting for you to come to Him, so all you have to do is come to him, as if you were coming to your spouse on your wedding day. This is where you will find rest(7).
Your relationship with God is like a child, which you cannot divide saying 'Left half was Mom's doing, right half was Dad's doing' - your part and God's part in your relationship will be like two sides of the same coin. In Him we live and move and have our being(8).
Trust in the Lord and do good
Dwell in the land and enjoy safe pasture
Delight yourself in the Lord
And He will give you the desires of your heart
Commit your way to the Lord
Trust in Him and He will do this:
He will make your righteousness shine like the dawn,
The justice of your cause like the noonday sun(9).
May God bless you and keep you
2006-06-22 04:29:24 · answer #2 · answered by songkaila 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By saying fall in love I do believe you do not know what love is. Well i don't either. I know that caring for someone and being their friend sure can turn into something that really gives pleasure and happiness. What I thought was falling in love when young sure was not. The sex drive and such was what it was. Nothing wrong with that so enjoy it. Love takes a long time to build you can't fall in love.
2006-06-21 07:32:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Giving up on love means giving up on yourself and things you want out of life. Everybody wants to be loved. Now is a good time for you to focus on yourself. Take a class if your not still in school. Involve yourself in things you like doing that are positive. Work out, read a book, start a project, get a job, work on your car, start eating better, take better care of yourself.
Bad break ups are just that. Bad break ups. The important thing is not limit yourself because of it. Don't let a bad break up make you feel that you're all used up and can't do it anymore. You've now got to make a choice not to stay miserable. Remember you are a wonderful human being and you have qualities that are desirable to others. Love is the one resource that never runs out. A hurt heart can love again. It's just up to you to nurture your self and make yourself whole.
Best of luck to you. You will love again, you just have to allow it.
2006-06-21 14:13:28 · answer #4 · answered by ilah23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't expect to fall in love, God will either give you or not give you that someone, just live life, see what God gives you...
2006-06-21 13:24:51 · answer #5 · answered by theodorais 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with the flow. God will take care of you.
2006-06-21 07:02:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are still young, give it time
2006-06-21 07:07:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋