He broke up with me one day with no warning, after an awesome relationship for 4 years, even he agrees with that. Says he changed, and he wants to remain friends,and see what the future holds. Says he will do things like take me to or bring me lunch at work, but doesn't. Says he will call me a certain night, but doesn't, and when I call him, he has his phone shut off, and still doesn't call me back when he sees that I called.
2006-06-20 23:18:20 · 11 answers · asked by Nita R 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I am sorry that you have been treated this way, but he left, you need to understand that. What ever promises he made are nullified by the fact that he did not want to be with you anymore, and I suggest that he said he would do these things to make the departure less of a shock to you or because he felt that by saying things like this you might put up less resistance knowing that a reunion might be possible.
You know now he was lying, and that a reunion is not in the cards for you. As hard as it is you have to move on, forget him, and find someone nice to trust and build a life with. It is something you deserve, and by hanging on to the past you are not giving yourself a chance.
2006-06-20 23:31:55 · answer #1 · answered by Pete 5 · 7⤊ 3⤋
If he hasnt done these things I would just give up on the relationship. The relationship may have been awsome for 4 yrs but things change. Guys dont always know they can hurt you emotionally cuz they sometimes dont show any emotions or have any. I would take him not calling and etc.as a sign he is not interested and move on and find some one new.... You can find someone who have respect and care for you ... You may be hurt about this for a little while but get back out there and find MR Right. Good luck
2006-06-21 06:37:14 · answer #2 · answered by ice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As you grow, your tastes change. Sadly, that also applies to relationships. Either he has changed in some way so that whatever made this relationship great for 4 years no longer applies, or you have changed over the 4 years and its what he originally thought he was getting into. Either way, don't take it personally. This guys doing you a favor by not answering his phone. You might feel bad in the short term, but ending it and moving on is probably the best for both of you.
2006-06-21 06:25:44 · answer #3 · answered by rmachristian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, sadly if he just broke up with you after 4 years, I might consider taking a closer look at the relationship you have shared. I am afraid that more information is needed before you make a decesion as to why he did what he did. It is a woman's natural instinct to chop up and disect things, and its an equivilant to a cows stomach. All feelings, and wants, and emotions, and hard ships, go through regurgitation, and process through four stomaches, before the final outcome. In other words, we tend to think of the one-hundred million reasons why for everything, every innocent kiss, and the feelings that might arise from them, or the lustful feelings, that sometimes feel like love, sometimes is the reason. Ask yourself some questions about him like #1 how was his childhood life? #2 How was and is his relationship with his mother? #3 How is his self confidence level? #4 Are you, or is he the bread winner? #5 How is your sex life? If one? #6 How well did or do you treat him? #7 What was your family history like? #8 How was your relationship with your father? Feel free to email, with these answers, I might can help you further. spawanee@yahoo.com
2006-06-21 06:37:19 · answer #4 · answered by spawanee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let go. The more you are trying to hang on to this man, the more games he is playing you for. Stop. Just be yourself and don't call him or try to keep him involved in your life right now. Once you show him you have a life that doesn't go around him, he will either come back and your relationship will be better, or he wont and you will be better. Just practice letting it go.
2006-06-21 06:28:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can empathize with your situation, but you do need to let go and follow your own path. He has moved on and sadly, you are obviously more affected by it then he. Why waste you on someone who doesn't want you when there is someone out there looking for you and all you have to offer? You have to believe in that and move on or you'll end up spending all of you waiting on someone who isn't going to return. Don't fall into that trap.Don't let him fill you with empty promises he has no intention of keeping. Dust yourself off and look forward to finding that someone meant for you.
2006-06-21 06:44:36 · answer #6 · answered by lmdragonldy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not have the view of him hurting you, however you expect a little too much that he is unwilling to provide.
you are emotionally hurt, that is not his problem, settle with the friendship for now.
You also need to have a little respect for yourself, as well as him...
2006-06-21 06:28:01 · answer #7 · answered by Angel Wings 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It has to do with a childhood trauma which wasn't dealt with as he became an adult. Its the unconcious hurts one has that projects the way he conducts his adult relationships.
2006-06-21 06:21:32 · answer #8 · answered by v_stroke_28 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he seeing someone? What a moron for not showing any respect for you. Kick him to the curb and get new man.
2006-06-21 06:23:47 · answer #9 · answered by alysonhell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women are just as guilty it isn't just men.
2006-06-21 07:12:09 · answer #10 · answered by RAllen1st 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋