she thinks he will divorce his wife for her.
2006-06-20 22:31:53 · 27 answers · asked by DRK 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
unfortunately, nothing you say to your friend will convince her that she is wrong. and continuously telling her that she is wrong will only weaken your friendship. the best thing you can do for your friend is be there for her when this swine is finished with his game and leaves your friend heartbroken.
2006-06-27 14:31:41 · answer #1 · answered by canadian_beaver_77 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think this is a very good question, you really have to think about your friends feelings and remember she will be blind to any advice you give because of her excitement and 'love' of this married guy. Do not just explain to her that you think she should dump him now, because more than likely she will disrespect you for this as it is an attack on her happyness.
What I would suggest you do is approach her and talk over coffee. Bring up the subject and list his best and worst qualities. The likely hood that this guy will leave his wife is slim, although I dont know enough information, but I know that us guy's require constant excitement, so the thrill of another woman can bring satisfaction as to what is lacking at home.
When you are both listing the good / bad points try to explain that you feel there are too many serious negatives than positives, you are simply listing information she has provided you with, hence you are not telling her news she does not want to hear.
Take your friend to a night club and show her a good time, make sure she gets lots of attention from SINGLE guy's. Never blurt out that she should get rid of this guy, the simple psychology here is that she will remove him by herself when provided with facts she has told you.When an individual realises that there are too many negatives and non too many positives then you can almost be certain they will act accordingly. However do ensure she has a contingency - eg a single guy on the back burner !!!
I hope this helps
2006-06-21 02:22:44 · answer #2 · answered by Mark T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all she is sadly mistaken if the thinks he will divorce his wife for her. Usually does NOT happen. He will just break her heart and walk all over it and she will be down and sad for a long time. She really needs to get out of that relationship NOW and stop being the "other" woman and does she realize that if he is doing this to his wife that more then likely he is or will do the same thing to her in the future? She needs to wake up and face reality and move on!
2006-06-21 03:49:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have completely been there and know what it is like to see your friend think that he will leave his wife for her. I tried talking to her and saying that she deserves better, she was only 19 at the time but had a very low self esteem. but you could tell she wasn't listening and thought she knew better.
Unfortunatley, in my friends case, it ended really badley. His wife found out and kicked him out and then he started stalking her and turning up at her house in the middle of the night. He attacked her and she lost a baby that she didn't know about - she was about 6weeks pregnant but had no idea. She did go to the police but didn't want to go ahead with the charges, as her parents who she was living with had no idea about anything to do with this.
Basically, you have to try your best to help her, just be there for you, and when it ends, try not to say ''I told you so'', it won't help anyone. but listen to her, let her know your there for her, try not to judge and be the best friend that you can. She will thank you for this and soon see the error of her ways.
I hope your friend will be ok in the end
2006-06-20 23:21:27 · answer #4 · answered by Vix 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will understand her when you find yourself in her shoes. I used to do the same feeling bad if a friend is seeing a married and advised a lot again the affair, but now that I was also once caught up in this situation I find it difficult to advise those who have fallen in it now. You can advise, but you can put a stop to it if she is not ready, just give her time she will get out of it herself.
2006-06-20 23:45:34 · answer #5 · answered by God you are my all in all in Jesus' name 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should know not to get involed with someone that is already in a relationship,that's common sence.Let her learn the hard way.I hope the wife beats the hell out of the dumb whore.There's no way someone can be that damn stupid,so she deserves it.Why don't people show others the respect they expect?
2006-06-20 23:16:19 · answer #6 · answered by Troy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell her A.S.A.P.hes just lieing to her and just wants the free sex....Most marry men don't divorce their wives over a sex thing with someone else....Your friend needs to grow-up and have some respect for this BASTARD wife,specially when she knew HOT PANTS was marry....
Clowmy
2006-06-20 22:41:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest there isn't really anything you can do, she won't listen if you try to warn her, the heart is more powerful than the mind. People have to learn from their own mistakes and the best thing that you can do as her friend is just be there to help pick up the pieces when it all goes wrong. good luck.
2006-06-20 22:37:55 · answer #8 · answered by prettygreeneyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no way he will leave his wife why should he afterall he is having his cake an eating it, has the best of both worlds. If you try telling ur friend chances r she wont listen and it will cause u problems, ur best just to be there for her when it goes pearshaped. good luck
2006-06-26 11:13:01 · answer #9 · answered by fannyannie_1971 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to leave him and get a single guy. Married men who have affairs are not honest people.
2006-06-20 23:55:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sit her down and explain you got to stop this he is married she got to think about what if he as children and what happens if they find out they be heartbroken tell her he will never leave his wife he maybe using her just cos he isnt happy at home. I HOPE SHE DOES THE RIGHT THING
2006-06-20 22:40:29 · answer #11 · answered by a_woz_ere 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋