why dont men talk?

Question

why cant men open up and tell us what they are feeling, rather than just saying "im fine" or "nothings wrong".
it drives me mad esp my husband, i no its not the done thing but dear god. stop being so bl**dy moody .
so if you knowplease tell me

Answer 1

iam afraid alot of guys are just that way! Guys are not as emotional as women are. We show how we feel alot of us women do. Men on the other hand its hard to do for most of them! Thats just the way they are!

Answer 2

Well, I at first was just going to say ... "why won't women shut up?" ...

But look at the question in the list above your own! A guy is asking "what do women want (so I can get some sleep)."

If you have this global belief that men don't talk enough, I'm sure you're husband can sense that and it makes him angry. Why should he have to bear the weight of "all men" who don't talk enough? You need to stop watching whatever it is that is filling your head with crap and realize that there IS no absolute standard of what is enough talk. Your husband talks as much as he wants to talk. If he's not talking enough to you ... perhaps you're not easy to talk to, or you're a bad listener. You certainly are very frustrated with him, and resent things about him that are "male". If you treated me this way on the street, even for a minute, I wouldn't want to talk to you.

"Dear God", your husband LIVES with you - think for a moment how sick of it he must be!

"Do good and lend, expecting nothing in return."

Answer 3

Irish sean just made me realize how much i do, especially over communicate. It is true that love is expressed in different ways and try to not see it negatively. I guess us ladies do speak a lot throughout the day and it is true that men only use a small quantity of words in comparison to us ladies. Just cut back on communication with him. I know it will be difficult..but seriously if you can handle it just communicate some days throughout the week but once within the day. Allow him to respond without jumping the gun if he responds too late by not question whether he really loves you or why is he treating you like that. I am sure he feels for you, just got a different way of putting it. But Irish sean nailed it and has taught me something today, which i hope he has taught you.

Answer 4

I'm just reading 'men are from mars, women are from venus'. It concerns the major differences between men and women, between what they say, think and do. Very interesting reading.
The author does make the point that nine times out of ten, there is nothing wrong with the man, that a little time left alone won't cure. If he's moody, seems out of touch etc, give him time to mull over whatever is on his mind, WITHOUT making him feel guilty, bad, ignorant. don't nag him, just let him get it out of his system. When he's sorted himself, he'll come back to normal, refreshed and happy.
And remember - you're probably no angel when you have PMT!

Answer 5

It happens with guys unfortunately. It makes us feel like we are less of a man if we ask for help or show emotion. It goes back to childhood issues i.e Stern, strict parent or role model. And in the movies there is always the strong silent type who overcomes personal issues on his own while saving the world. Just sit him down and tell him you love him and that it's okay to need help and that you two are partners. You support each other even if you may not know much about the issue. You still want to know and let him know you care and just want him to be happy. He may not understand initially but he will later. Take care and be happy!

Answer 6

In my experience - men are genuinely deep thinkers - they will not open up and have a lond conversation like we would with our girlfriends! My fiance is so laid back and hours can go past without saying a word - it used to drive me mad but I learnt to leave him to come to me. If he wants to talk then he will come and find me, other than that we just get on with it and have a good laugh. The worst thing you can do is keep asking whats wrong? Stop worrying and lighten up a bit. Trust me, if a man has a problem or something to say then he will come to you and tell you.

Answer 7

Because men are mostly can't express their feelings as easy & fast than women, so most women need to be patient with that. My husband also doesn't know how to express his feelings, so I tried to raise up some subjects that he likes more, and also try to aware what make him talk more when he's in front of other friends or strangers.

When have chance, I'll patiently prove him, how it hurt me if u don't make effort to link up our relationship. Don't get mad at him, that will break the relationship if u both love each other.

Answer 8

I hear that girl . . I guess a mans mind set is diff from a womens .. they need there space maybe .. maybe they feel they gotta be the MAN and keep everything in so the wife dont sweat all the small stuff ..?? who knows If only we could get inside there heads just once HaHaHa !!! Dont let it get to you ..he wil come to you when he needs someone to talk to ? dont worry about it guys have the tendancy of holding alotta things inside ..they gotta play the badass roll ? lol MEN I DONT THINK ILL EVER UNDERSTAND THEM ..but im sure that goes both wayz

Answer 9

it all has to do with upbringing. its been past down through generations. just like men don't cry. its programmed into us as we are brought up and in society as a whole also. the man was always the bread winner and the wife just cooked, cleaned and had the kids while the man worked. the woman was taught to be seen and not heard as well as the children. it goes back to the ages of mankind. its all programming over the ages.

Answer 10

Been studying & finding answers to the riddle.
They withdraw into their own private little world (their little cave).
It can hurt when they do that because it can make the woman feel ignored, unimportant, unattractive, undesirable.
It helps if he understands how it makes her feel & it helps if she understands that he needs a little space.
They do it for different reasons... to relax, to rest their minds, to have peace, to escape (especially the work-place), to study on how to solve problems.
They stay inside the cave till they're ready to come out, then they'll usually talk more.
Another reason why they don't talk much is because of the subject... we have different interests>>> we want to talk about different things (things we're interested in)... & vice-versa. For instance: she thinks/says "shopping" & he thinks/says, "race-cars."
Another reason is because he isn't such an emotional creature like she is... women have just gotta talk & get a load off their mind, because if we don't talk, we could crash & explode>>>
It's due to the fact that we're having 10 different thoughts go thru our heads all at the same time & all those emotions to go with all those thoughts... it's like going down 10 RxR tracks at the same time.
But yet, we need to be able to focus on 10 different things at the same time because there's the laundry to do, babies, phone, cooking, cleaning, etc, etc, etc... & men wonder why (to them) we're such complicated creatures & why we talk so much... or why they can't get a word in edge-wise?
We'll crash if we don't get some of those loads off our minds & we need to talk to our hubby (best friend) about all of it & share as much as we can, as fast as we can... or even sooner... therefore, we talk more than they do.
Men have a one-track mind (focus on one main thing at a time), so they don't have as much to talk about as we do (or at least not all at one time).
Also, some men are bashful, not confident enough to know what to say or how to say it & sometimes afraid they'll say the wrong thing & hurt her feelings.