Gay Teenager?

Question

Please help I think I may be gay. I just need to know are there any other fourteen year old gays in Los Angeles. Please help what do i do.. How do I tell me parents? and r there sites?

Answer 1

I am not personally a gay teenager in LA, although I can give you some information.

If you believe you are gay, chances are.. that is the case. I am glad that you have been able to talk with us about it! I have a male relative who lives in LA.. who is gay, and has come out to everyone about it. He had a wonderful experience in coming out.. and is currently with a long-term partner.

Although it is not always the case that people take such news well, if it makes you feel comfortable.. it is very important that you do what is in your heart and tell those who you wish. There are so many websites out there with information and advice, that I could fill an entire page.. but here are a few.

http://www.becomingreal.org/help/telling-parents.htm
http://www.outproud.org/brochure_coming_out.html
http://www.b-ray.org/coming_out.htm

You are definitely not alone! Many boys and girls realize this around your age.. and it is something to be happy with.. you have a true understanding of yourself, and that is to be admired.

*hugs* and best wishes!!

Answer 2

Hey man, don't be too worried at 14, you are going through the biggest life change ever, between the ages of approximately 13 to 17 you may feel your gay one week, bi the next, or hetero the week after, and so on, you will pass through the experimental stage, and will just have to wait to see what comes out the other end, some can control the process to ensure what they become, other try to and become confused, others will try to manipulate the process to deliver the outcome they want but whatever happens will happen, ask your parents can you have a meeting between the 3 of you and just come out and say " I need your help I think I may be gay", tell your parents how your feeling remember out of the three of you, two have already been through these stages, I did and my parents were wonderful and they will love you even more because you asked them to be part of your growing up and not the cause of it. good luck and I mean that

Answer 3

People are gay from the time they are born, of course there are 14 year old gays, especially here in LA! You will know how to tell your parents when the time is right. For all you know they may already have an idea, I told my best friend in middle school that he was gay before he even realized it. He came out around age 15, and everyone was very accepting of him. Don't worry, there are probably a million sites on the internet about it, and several of them are probably support groups for people in the exact same boat as you. Good luck!

Answer 4

First:

You might like to contact the following and ask them if they have some qualified counselors that you might be able to speak with.

Gay & Lesbian Center
[phone]
1125 N Mccadden Pl
Los Angeles, CA

Parents & Friends-Lesbians-Gay
(these folks have great info for parents, etc)
[phone] PO Box 24565
Los Angeles, CA

http://www.lagaycenter.org/site/c.mvI4IhNZJwE/b.879315/k.D7A3/Homepage.htm

Second:

Yeah, we all go thru a lot of confusion in adolescence. However, I find it insulting that some people who answer questions such as this automatically assume that a young man or young woman doesn't know just what he/she feels and downplay it as if it were some "weirdness". No one would EVER think of telling a non-gay young man who said he was feeling like he might like girls - "You're going thru a lot of confusion right now, but don't be so quick to label yourself. After all, you might well like boys later."

Absurd? Sure, but they do the same thing to kids who insist they are gay. It's a way of control

Are you? I don't know. Only you can say that -- but I suggest that you might like to talk with some QUALIFIED folks and not just the people here - including myself.

And to answer your question specifically. YES, YES, YES. There ARE other 14 year old gays in Los Angeles == and everywhere else as well.

Answer 5

How gay friendly are your parents? You need to ascertain this information before you come out to them. You may just need to see a counselor and they might be able to help you decide what to do. What you may need to do is tell your parents you have some personal issues that you need to see a counselor about and they might be able to get you the help you need to guide you to a amicable family meeting in which you have support to come out to your parents I would not come out until I had such a support network in place be it a counselor or a close family friend or a relative that might be understanding. Just be careful because this kind of volatile information can cause so much hurt and anger that can be devastating and you are not in a position to take care of yourself or protect yourself from it. Your parents love you I am sure but this is very big news and is best handled with some family mediation by an outside source.

Answer 6

Many teenagers are sexually confused. The important thing right now is that you don't be quick to label yourself or act on your current feelings. You are still so young. Your body and your mind will go through many changes before you become an adult.

Check out these sites:
www.boysunderattack.com
www.drthrockmorton.com

Answer 7

aww, poor you. :'(

there are lots of sites. you can just google it. I go to teenhelp, just because they have so many LGBT people, and it makes me feel better to know that I'm not alone.

As for coming out.. You don't have to just yet. Give it a while first, because you're at the age where you can possibly change.

Good luck, and e-mail me if you want. I'll give you me other S/N and we can talk. :)

Answer 8

It took me a long time to realize and accept that I'm bi, not gay. When I was 16, I was in the hospital with depression and decided to tell my parents during visiting hours. My mom was baptized Catholic and my dad was raised Southern Baptist. Surprisingly, I heard, "Ehh, we had a hunch."
Hope you stay true and honest to yourself with yourself.

Answer 9

initially I doubt while you are the only boy dealing with this at your college. basically think of that there could desire to be different boys thinking basically what you're. the 1st component you could desire to do is confer with the counselour. you're able to do this in inner maximum and purely between you and the counselour. each and every college has one. you could desire to ask your counselour to start an outreach for infants having thoughts of homosexuality. See how many could come forward. then you particularly could desire to start conferences to get to comprehend one yet another. i do no longer comprehend have been at in l. a. you reside, yet you could desire to look interior the telephone e book or the gay rights section and detect a hotline, and that they could maximum possibly positioned you in touch with many youthful young infants interior the section. you could desire to do all this in private manners. you do no longer could desire to out your self while there are numerous of homophobic subjects handy, yet you could attain out for help. initiate with the counselour on your college, it is confidentiality.

Answer 10

Your very young pal, your feeling are common within your age group. Just experiment and you can then decide if its for you or not. Don't tell you parents just yet.